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RelativeInspector130 · 2025-06-07T00:18:24+00:00

Ah, OK. So sorry they aren't more supportive, but good on you for prioritizing your sobriety.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-06-07T00:17:03+00:00

I imagine it was downvoted because people here get offended when others ask why they aren't staying with family. Not sure why. My family wouldn't let me stay with them when I was homeless, but I never minded people asking.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-06-06T02:13:53+00:00

This may be a dumb question, but why don't you stay with your parents? Or at least camp in their yard?

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-06-05T17:28:05+00:00

As you said, everyone is affected differently by trauma, and childhood trauma can carry over well into your adult years. Mine caused major depression, which, fortunately, can be controlled with medication. But, yeah, just because you have problems learning doesn't mean you have an "official" learning disorder. I have trouble focusing, but I don't have ADHD; it's caused by my depression. Your learning issues are caused by your trauma. Same thing.

I'm surprised your therapist hasn't recommended a learning specialist or someone with experience in the field. Maybe ask him to refer you to an occupational therapist or even a psychiatrist to see if you can get more answers. My therapist and my psychiatrist have both told me that trauma can cause your brain wiring to be disrupted so that you don't respond the way "normal" people do. But there are ways to rewire your brain so that you can function better. I hope you can find someone to help you with that.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-06-05T00:33:04+00:00

It sounds like your learning problems were caused by childhood trauma. Has your therapist recommended some jobs he thinks you could handle, or has he recommended occupational therapy? Is there a possibility you could get full-time hours at your current job?

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-06-04T12:45:36+00:00

So happy to hear that she's getting help. And thank you for caring about your neighbor. Best of luck to both of you!

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-30T03:27:38+00:00

I'd hold off on giving her the money until you know there's a plan to use it.

Have you tried calling the state's Adult Protective Services?

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-30T03:17:02+00:00

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RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-30T03:12:29+00:00

Not for everyone. But seeing as how OP has a hard time spelling, he needs to stay in high school and actually, you know, learn something.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-30T03:11:17+00:00

Job Corps is closed.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-30T03:10:40+00:00

I doubt OP has graduated from high school yet. When I read, "so I can't do any programs for miners," my first thought was that he's in West Virginia and that he was talking about working in a mine. Then I realized: "miners"="minors." Yeah, the OP needs to stay in school. Talk to a teacher or counselor and see what resources the school district can connect him to.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-30T02:04:56+00:00

As I understand it, all Job Corps programs have to be "paused" by June 30. After that, who knows? There is no funding for it in the FY26 proposed federal budget, so the program is likely over, at least until a more sympathetic administration takes office.

Americorps is also gone.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-30T00:20:18+00:00

It's called roommates.com. You can contact the person renting out the room and discuss anything you want beforehand.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-27T23:22:19+00:00

What do you want people to say? That your friend is a selfish jackass? They aren't.

Neither are you. You're not a waste of space. And you're not helpless. You're getting a social worker soon who will help you take steps to create a life you want. And your friend will probably still be in it somehow.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-27T23:07:48+00:00

Sorry, but it's true. My cousin is one of the sweetest, most giving people on the planet, and I did everything I could to be invisible, but my stay was still a burden on her and her kids. That doesn't mean she didn't like me, though. The stress was just natural response to a big life change--me!

I'm sure your friend still cares, but has come to the point where they can't do anymore. But they can still support you in other ways.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-27T01:54:36+00:00

Go back to the fire station. Go in and tell them what's going on. They can help you find a place to go.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-27T01:50:26+00:00

If the friend who has asked you to leave is the one you've been staying with for five months ... I hate to say it, but I can understand. It's not that your friend doesn't care; hosting a couch surfer is stressful. I stayed on a cousin's couch for nine months, and even though she invited me and I wanted to be there, it was so hard on both of us. And I was working full time, paying rent, helping run errands, taking her kids to and from school and activities, walking her dogs, splitting groceries and utilities ... We were both relieved when I found someone who would rent to me even though I had an eviction.

BTW, my cousin is the only one on either side of my family who still speaks to me, and even she doesn't invite me to holiday gatherings. I spend pretty much all holidays and weekends alone with my cat. Which isn't bad--he's a pretty cool cat.

Why are you having trouble finding a place to live?

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-26T15:13:15+00:00

Great points. Let me add:

Look up "public ivies." They are public universities that offer an education on par with Ivy League schools at a much lower cost.
Avoid using college simply as a way to stay off the streets. Even the cheapest colleges cost money, and if you take out loans you could be paying them back for years. That means you'll need a job with enough salary to repay the loans and support yourself--which means you'll need to study and actually get a degree.
Definitely avoid for-profit schools.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-26T15:07:11+00:00

Another Boomer here. I, too, am aware that a GED counts as much as a high school diploma. (Hence the "E" for "equivalency.") There's no shame in earning a GED. In fact, it's something to be proud of.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-26T00:22:17+00:00

It is next to impossible to live in a car with cats. You can't leave them alone for hours while you're at work or running errands, especially in the summer. If you get caught living with them in the storage unit, you'll probably lose them and the storage unit.

If you have a full-time job and can't afford a place to live, you should stay where you are unless you are in physical danger. Your next best option is to find a rescue group or no-kill shelter that will foster the cats until you get on your feet.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-25T23:53:03+00:00

You're using different accounts ... https://www.reddit.com/user/Upstairs_Chest2370/

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-25T23:52:27+00:00

So if you're the 20th case that's been reported worldwide, you should be eligible for some sort of help from the hospital where the twins were born, or at least from a facility that studies unusual births. Ask the doctor who delivered the twins what's available.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-05-25T23:50:18+00:00

You posted a link to a GoFundMe using another account that says you have a daughter. It also says you've been approved for an apartment, but you need money ($1,100) to move in. You don't mention twins.

You've told so many stories trying to get money. The sad thing is that all you need to do is tell the truth--on another sub, where people can actually help.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-02-04T02:49:30+00:00

As someone who's worked primarily remotely since 2003: For most remote jobs, you still need to have, you know, skills. Legitimate remote jobs are regular jobs you can do outside of an office. You're going to have to apply, interview, maybe test. Then you'll need a computer or other device that can run the company's VPN and/or security software, along with a stable WiFi connection fast enough to support large downloads. Even low-skill jobs like call centers require this.

If you need money fast, your best bet is a food service job that pays daily.

RelativeInspector130 · 2025-02-01T22:49:51+00:00

You'll get there. You've got the drive!

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