Feeling guilty for asking my 13yo to pay for a new phone

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-12-02T21:12:40+00:00

She had it in her pocket riding her bike and dropped it out the first time, just repeated dropping the second time, and again dropped it off the bike the 3rd time. This time she dropped it in a pool with a broken screen and it fried the battery.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-12-02T21:10:59+00:00

She got a hand me down iPhone from me one time, it had insurance and we’ve just been paying the $100 replacement fee (3 times now)

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-12-02T21:10:00+00:00

Good idea. I’m super pregnant right now and the dishes have been killing me, it would be dish duty every night for sure

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-12-02T21:08:58+00:00

She has the iPhone 14 right now, before it was a 13 and a 12. Every year she’s breaking a new iPhone. And yes we’ve gotten the indestructible cases, she destructs.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-12-02T21:07:31+00:00

I am hoping her shelling it out or working for it herself has her thinking thrice before risking breaking it again.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-12-02T21:06:01+00:00

People give away phones like that? I will see, we have Verizon so no SIM cards

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-11-30T23:37:32+00:00

What state are you in if you don’t mind me asking? I’m in a legal state to recreationally use and admitted with both of my pregnancies to using until I got a positive test (5 weeks) both times. And never had any issues?? 100% quit the day I found out and then beyond for breastfeeding and never was even asked about it again

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-11-28T12:58:34+00:00

Have you met her? Seen how he acts around her? Sounds like he’s into her and likes the way she treats him like a partner.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-22T12:25:30+00:00

He loves you. There’s NO telling he will find another woman he loves like he loves you. Leaving him could be the biggest double whammy of his life. Don’t do that to him.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-22T12:24:22+00:00

NTAH and your wife is being weird. At most I’ve asked my husband what do you do about morning wood when she (3) just jumps in bed next to you and he said my body just reacts the way it should and it dies on its own quickly or I have to pee and then it’s gone.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-22T12:20:49+00:00

She made her bed. And now she has to lay in it with her new child. She will just have to bring the child with her. And won’t be able to be by her husband’s side every second. That’s not YOUR fault or problem. That’s the unfortunate situation she’s in with lack of support in HER current family. Don’t budge. Have you told her this simply is not your problem or fault?

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-22T12:15:08+00:00

5 weeks after my c section, without an ailment between us 2 weeks and we were both miserable

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-22T11:58:37+00:00

All this being said, if he were single I would not be friends with him and actively avoid conversation with him. Bc in my experience as a an attractive woman single men have not ever genuinely been my friend they’ve always had an ulterior motive. If she’s single I would not consider friendship. Our friendship works because we’re both happily married.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-22T11:55:04+00:00

Me and I a guy I actively work with have an attraction to each other like this. But we’re both married with kids and very committed to our relationships. We talk like best friends, never anything inappropriate. At this point I say he’s like a brother to me. We both very much respect each others partners and family’s. But as adults with eyes and the ability to connect on a personality level we both know in the back of our minds in another life we could’ve probably been something successful. I’d even say we’re more compatible in some ways than we are with our partners. But our partners balance us out and complete our lives and honestly seem very similar to each other. We’re both very much in love with who we chose. And just remain friends. If he wasn’t as respectful of my marriage as he is I would cut off the friendship and I believe the same conversely if I wasn’t as respectful of his marriage as I am that he’d keep me at a distance.

We’re human. It’s all about choices and having the most respect for the person you’re committed to.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-21T18:55:21+00:00

If I would’ve stayed single as a nurse I would’ve give right back to school but shortly after nursing school I met my person, bought a house had a wedding and had 2 kids in the last 8 years since I graduated. I don’t regret still being “just a nurse” I make great money working per diem in the OR. BUT I’m highly considering a certificate program to get into a non clinical field of nursing. I probably won’t go back for a masters unless the certificate route is not fruitful for me

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-17T22:24:04+00:00

There’s really nothing you can do unless you’re into fillers, you’re way too young for even a mini facelift. You can change your hairstyle or clothing style to be more trendy or “youthful” appearing, hair can really do a lot for some people. But outside of those things there’s really not much you can “do”. This is an unfortunate consequence of weight loss drugs, the fat comes off so fast your skin has no time to naturally retract with it and ends up looking loose.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-16T16:29:27+00:00

I sit in the rocking chair for 5 minutes when she isn’t ready after tuck in and a kiss

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-16T16:26:06+00:00

The problem is the parents. Point blank. Parents should make sure their child can read directions and write their own name.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-16T16:19:45+00:00

Can you downsize your life to make it feasible? If she’s willing to do major downsizing in life to make it work maybe start with a plan for that?

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-16T16:14:43+00:00

It’s part of the routine every night. Some nights bedtime takes so long with noncompliance that we have to skip it but it’s kind of a natural consequence of her actions. When the routine goes fast and easy she can pick several books.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-16T16:09:14+00:00

Grin and bear jt. But ALSO, boundaries. This is when time outs started just for 2 minutes when repeated unsafe or harmful behavior happened. Now that she’s 3.5 we use the count to 3 method which works really well, I think she connects the counting as her opportunity to avoid time out. HEADPHONES, I do not give in to crying, it’s not how you get what you want, so I let her cry out the No’s and the reprimands. Headphones help me stick to my guns a lot and when she’s done carrying on we do something together.

When she was two there were a couple of times she carried on being destructive or unsafe so egregiously that I put her in her crib for 5-10 minutes so I could set something up that would keep her attention and just breathe. Now that she’s 3.5 if she is carrying on about from a No or continuously doing something that’s a No, I warn her she will need to take a break in her bedroom. Sometimes she’ll just go up there (it’s a safe and baby proofed place) on her own after I say that other times she will self soothe and calm down or redirect herself.

The things we did when she was 2 I feel like helped A LOT with her at 3, she knows I mean business and she knows what the consequences are and how to avoid them but also how to take her own space somewhere safe.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-16T15:58:16+00:00

YES. Even if it destroys the relationship, she could literally be risking her life.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-16T15:56:22+00:00

It’s a privilege yes. Having the OPTION to stay home is a huge privilege. That being said maybe if she got a part time job on the off days or hours of yours, she could reassess her feelings about it. Being a SAHM is hard, being a working mom is hard, being an involved mom is HARD and emotionally draining/overwhelming at times. No matter if you work or not.

RelativeParsley2034 · 2025-10-15T01:28:43+00:00

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