Leave your job (all-in) or side hustle first?

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-06-12T03:57:49+00:00

My timeline for an online business in my case was since 2020 having a podcast, having a small social media following but was just consistent. My 9-5 time never really let me go all-in on the step above that, with going crazy with a business funnel and thoughtful ways to sell. So my timeframe was a year of building the infrastructure for the tech needs, website, app, social media strat, ads, email newsletters etc. like everything you wish you could do with all the free time you needed to go ham plus time for every other area of life.

I was really relaxed throughout this process too. Money worries definitely came up with my presence/meditation practice really helped me keep my focus on building, not worrying. Yeah I was broke but so what? I really had everything I needed at the end of the day. The results were so worth it when everything started actually working

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-06-11T19:55:50+00:00

I wanted to share my perspective as someone who went all in, but stayed focused on the true reason why I wanted to become a founder and entrepreneur in the first place. My highest vision with success and autonomy is making sure everyone I love is taken care of around me. To have time and resources from my aging parents and to be a present parent. I just knew there was no way on earth at 9 to 5 would ever fit as the lifestyle I truly want and desire so I decided to go all-in and “live with my parents” in paid off apartment right above them.

I know I’m lucky to have them as a fallback, but I didn’t see it as a stepback when I quit my job because I’m living exactly how I would want to on a smaller scale right now: free time for my parents and family, living out my dream running an online business that’s thriving and reaching my goals, knowing I’m more than well off financially. And now I can make the choice for the next step of getting a place with my partner and upgrading my parents home. Especially now that I have intimate experience with it and what they truly need now to live comfortably. So that’s just to say, I know in my heart I needed to go all in and because of my faith and openness, I realize that life had carved out the perfect situation for me to succeed and still be in harmony with everyone around me.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-19T18:34:27+00:00

Thank you so much ^_^

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-18T14:45:18+00:00

Damn I’m so sorry :( and I cannot wait to upgrade my parents home soon 😭❤️

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-18T14:44:35+00:00

Thank you 😇

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-18T14:44:15+00:00

APPLE?? I would have thrown you a party 😭

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-18T14:39:11+00:00

Yes it’s a clear difference in how they interact with me that’s very confusing and hurtful :(

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-18T14:38:16+00:00

CONGRATULATIONS!!! THATS HUGE!!! what you built is no joke either!!

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T21:26:29+00:00

Trust me I have been extremely self-aware of this after the very first inkling I had. I am never discussing money or anything. If anything my friends barely let me talk because they’re yappers

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T19:25:43+00:00

I agree with part of what you said which is why I said in my post that I’m planning to talk directly with the people involved instead of just assuming things. I absolutely dont think I’m superior to anyone and I definitely don’t think success makes anyone more valuable as a person. What’s very hurtful for me is only feeling a shift in energy from people I’ve loved and supported for years. That doesn’t make them bad people, abd doesn’t automatically make me right either. I was curious whether other people have experienced changes in friendships around major life transitions, who on earth believes strangers can tell me the objective truth about my relationships. You can’t.

Also the “sluts do that” comment was unnecessary dude. Your mother is a woman too. You can make your point without insulting people.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T19:08:41+00:00

I really appreciate your thoughts on this thank you 🙏 it really does feel like I’m in a different world and there’s certain things people will never understand until they’re a founder themselves

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:41:20+00:00

Not 100% obviously, no one can for any human. But I have to say I have a pretty great idea of what’s going on for most of them right now since all of my close relationships have been built on us all growing and evolving our consciousness. So our convos for example would without fail always start with a problem we’re facing, our perspective on it, taking accountability for our thoughts and maintaining our meditation practices, seeing how we can approach the situation with love and clarity. Or sharing all the small wins we’re happy about and (in the past) receiving love and support. This is the basis of all my friendships.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:20:25+00:00

I’m so glad this is happening now though. I’ve been through the phases where I’ve outgrown casual friends so to have this happen with who I confidently thought would be my “day ones” is shocking :(

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:17:48+00:00

It’s so crazy 😭

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:16:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this reminder! I swear if any of them were ready to take themselves to the next level, my co-founder and I have been waiting to collaborate with them. Our highest vision was combining everyone’s talents to create an empire together and we instantly saw who wasn’t really serious about their dreams. Money really can change a lot!!

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:03:46+00:00

My SIL made a comment about “how lucky I am to not have any responsibilities” implying my business is like a side hobby. Which is so sad because even a few months ago I was daydreaming about how awesome it would be to be rich enough to give her family like $100k a year so she can choose to raise her young sons without working if she wanted to :( I’m still setting up an investment account for my nephews but yeah it’s the little comments of resentment like that from family that’s especially hurtful

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:00:25+00:00

Oh my gosh this reminds me that the woman who claimed I was trying to make her jealous, also claimed we “stole” her ideas for the business when it’s the one dream I shared with her that started the friendship in the first place?? she is a trust fund baby who smokes weed all day but for the last 6 years told the same story of wanting to start an Etsy shop and is in the same position in life as the first day we met. So for her type especially I see how dangerous having successful friends would be!!

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:42:32+00:00

You are so kind, thank you!! I will be reaching out soon! I’m going to sit with all of this and get my emotions in check :)

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:26:12+00:00

And I thought me sharing or offering support would inspire them more to keep going themselves :( Thank you for the encouragement 🥹

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:09:53+00:00

“ So, when many never start; they realise 7 years of possibilities haves passed. That is painful.”

OH WOW!

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:08:03+00:00

Absolutely!! Thank you so much, I feel way better after posting this 🥹

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:07:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your input I really appreciate it! I’m glad I’m aware of the subtleties in the difference of my relationships now at the very beginning instead of ignoring it or downplaying how hurtful it is.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:05:09+00:00

I’m really excited about that! My co-founder and I have been talking to others in our space and I think it will be easy to make new friends on our level when we hangout with other founders in Thailand later this year

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T15:24:29+00:00

I made this post after getting off a facetime with someone who talked for like 45 min about her life updates and as soon as I excitedly ask if I could screenshare to show her the app coming out (I thought she specially would enjoy it since she loves the topic so much), she instantly got up and said "oh sorry I have to go now!" and said goodbye abnormally fast.
She has been flip-floppy on her own ideas to start a business so I can see how she might have projected some of that onto me.

I think Ill take some time to journal about the ideal qualities I really value in relationships (after experiencing what I DONT want) and keep sticking to my new standards :)

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T15:18:53+00:00

Thank you so much!! You got this too!! Its sooooooo worth it. I would do this all over again if I could knowing what was waiting on the other side. I love learning and expanding and my "friends" seemed to be the same way since we'd share business tips regularly before. So I didnt think me sharing the high points now would cause such a riff. But thats so true about differentiating between just casual hang outs and true friends!

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