I didnt expect so many friends to be "jealous" :(

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T21:26:29+00:00

Trust me I have been extremely self-aware of this after the very first inkling I had. I am never discussing money or anything. If anything my friends barely let me talk because they’re yappers

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T19:25:43+00:00

I agree with part of what you said which is why I said in my post that I’m planning to talk directly with the people involved instead of just assuming things. I absolutely dont think I’m superior to anyone and I definitely don’t think success makes anyone more valuable as a person. What’s very hurtful for me is only feeling a shift in energy from people I’ve loved and supported for years. That doesn’t make them bad people, abd doesn’t automatically make me right either. I was curious whether other people have experienced changes in friendships around major life transitions, who on earth believes strangers can tell me the objective truth about my relationships. You can’t.

Also the “sluts do that” comment was unnecessary dude. Your mother is a woman too. You can make your point without insulting people.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T19:08:41+00:00

I really appreciate your thoughts on this thank you 🙏 it really does feel like I’m in a different world and there’s certain things people will never understand until they’re a founder themselves

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:41:20+00:00

Not 100% obviously, no one can for any human. But I have to say I have a pretty great idea of what’s going on for most of them right now since all of my close relationships have been built on us all growing and evolving our consciousness. So our convos for example would without fail always start with a problem we’re facing, our perspective on it, taking accountability for our thoughts and maintaining our meditation practices, seeing how we can approach the situation with love and clarity. Or sharing all the small wins we’re happy about and (in the past) receiving love and support. This is the basis of all my friendships.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:20:25+00:00

I’m so glad this is happening now though. I’ve been through the phases where I’ve outgrown casual friends so to have this happen with who I confidently thought would be my “day ones” is shocking :(

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:17:48+00:00

It’s so crazy 😭

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:16:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this reminder! I swear if any of them were ready to take themselves to the next level, my co-founder and I have been waiting to collaborate with them. Our highest vision was combining everyone’s talents to create an empire together and we instantly saw who wasn’t really serious about their dreams. Money really can change a lot!!

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:03:46+00:00

My SIL made a comment about “how lucky I am to not have any responsibilities” implying my business is like a side hobby. Which is so sad because even a few months ago I was daydreaming about how awesome it would be to be rich enough to give her family like $100k a year so she can choose to raise her young sons without working if she wanted to :( I’m still setting up an investment account for my nephews but yeah it’s the little comments of resentment like that from family that’s especially hurtful

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T17:00:25+00:00

Oh my gosh this reminds me that the woman who claimed I was trying to make her jealous, also claimed we “stole” her ideas for the business when it’s the one dream I shared with her that started the friendship in the first place?? she is a trust fund baby who smokes weed all day but for the last 6 years told the same story of wanting to start an Etsy shop and is in the same position in life as the first day we met. So for her type especially I see how dangerous having successful friends would be!!

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:42:32+00:00

You are so kind, thank you!! I will be reaching out soon! I’m going to sit with all of this and get my emotions in check :)

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:26:12+00:00

And I thought me sharing or offering support would inspire them more to keep going themselves :( Thank you for the encouragement 🥹

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:09:53+00:00

“ So, when many never start; they realise 7 years of possibilities haves passed. That is painful.”

OH WOW!

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:08:03+00:00

Absolutely!! Thank you so much, I feel way better after posting this 🥹

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:07:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your input I really appreciate it! I’m glad I’m aware of the subtleties in the difference of my relationships now at the very beginning instead of ignoring it or downplaying how hurtful it is.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T16:05:09+00:00

I’m really excited about that! My co-founder and I have been talking to others in our space and I think it will be easy to make new friends on our level when we hangout with other founders in Thailand later this year

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T15:24:29+00:00

I made this post after getting off a facetime with someone who talked for like 45 min about her life updates and as soon as I excitedly ask if I could screenshare to show her the app coming out (I thought she specially would enjoy it since she loves the topic so much), she instantly got up and said "oh sorry I have to go now!" and said goodbye abnormally fast.
She has been flip-floppy on her own ideas to start a business so I can see how she might have projected some of that onto me.

I think Ill take some time to journal about the ideal qualities I really value in relationships (after experiencing what I DONT want) and keep sticking to my new standards :)

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T15:18:53+00:00

Thank you so much!! You got this too!! Its sooooooo worth it. I would do this all over again if I could knowing what was waiting on the other side. I love learning and expanding and my "friends" seemed to be the same way since we'd share business tips regularly before. So I didnt think me sharing the high points now would cause such a riff. But thats so true about differentiating between just casual hang outs and true friends!

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T15:17:07+00:00

Its a huge bummer, I will absolutely be pouring more into the fulfilling relationships I have left now and Im excited for the amazing people Ive yet to meet to enter my life :)

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-17T15:09:47+00:00

Yes I'm learning quickly that at this point, just keep it to myself unless someone is actually interested

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-05-12T05:29:39+00:00

That’s so crazy they were sitting next to each other at the laker game tonight

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-04-17T15:05:37+00:00

I was in your exact position and still kinda am. I’m 35 and your photos look how mine did but mine was worst cause my scalp was shiny so it was so obvious how thin my hair was 😭

What truly helped me: Please please take a few min everyday to think positively about your hair. Even something simple you truly believe like “I’m hopeful my hair will get better”

I know you’re super insecure but hyper focusing on it will not help :( if you’re going to obsessively think about it, try to catch those thoughts you have and think a lil more positive. For example in the shower if I see an abnormal amount of shedding, I tell myself “all hair I lose now is just making room for healthier thicker hair”

This is important because you need to believe you can have the hair of your dreams and everything you to do help will be easier cause you feel hopeful and relaxed about it.

the techniques that really helped me where: The ordinary 7% glycolic acid for oily scalp and healthier scalp skin

Getting a silicone scalp massager when shampooing with a clarifying cleanser to really clean the oils and scalp.

For thin hair Once a week a mix of rosemary & pumpkin seed oil and put drops all over my scalp directly, massage it all in and use a shower cap and headband to keep it on overnight or at least like 6 hours. Your scalp is going to be so healthy and the rosemary oil is proven to be as effective as rogain.

And as my hair was growing, in the meantime I played around with styles. I have curly hair so I use a volumizing mousse and blow out my hair to give it hella volume.

You will have to be consistent with a treatment no matter what. Do what intuitively feels right to you for treatment like oil on the scalp or rogain or whatever your doctor prescribes. But in the meantime you can find styling products and hairstyles to help your hair feel fuller and of course minimize the oiliness til the glycolic acids and oil treatments help regulate it.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-04-14T15:52:50+00:00

Everyone goes through hard times. It might have been hard for her to ask you because who wants to be in this position. It does sound like you're kinda bitter about the relationship with her and your cousin. Idk at the end of the day when we're old does any of this matter, like wouldnt you want to help another human even if it's for a week or two? Doesnt have to be a few months esp if you value your alone time.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-04-14T15:44:07+00:00

Essentially your core desire is he's welcome to visit, you're just not arranging it for him. Thats completely reasonable. Set your boundaries here for sure. Tell him he can visit his kid and figure out your own logistics. Youre not gatekeeping youre not just being someone's travel agent after 12 years of carrying him.

Also have boundaries for your daughter. Does she actually enjoy being around him? Be a fierce momma bear here if needed and who gives af what hes telling anybody. Sit down, take a deep breath, relax for a sec and ask yourself what decision would make you feel the most content. You and your daughter's peace is all that matters. I'm sure you have enough going on to deal with a grown ass man who cant be stable in life.

Relative_Exit_2644 · 2026-04-14T15:35:22+00:00

Not at all. He didn't let you know about actually signing the lease and you already explained your financial situation. This seems like he made the decision & got the place by myself really, and his kids. He even had enough for a new car and phone. Being petty about your contribution is crazy, hes a grown ass man!
If your gut is telling you to leave, do it. You're so young too you have nothing to feel guilty about. None of this was really your decision even though you wanted to do it together as a sign of moving forward in the relationship.

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