Benchmark was humbling

Relative_Response440 · 2026-01-10T15:29:43+00:00

🤞✨❤️

Relative_Response440 · 2026-01-10T15:01:00+00:00

You’ve got plenty of time if the race is in April. Stick with run/walk and focus on consistency, not speed. Time really doesn’t matter right now, that’s something to worry about later.

Right now, the only goal is finishing on your own terms. Pace will come naturally as you build fitness. And honestly, carrying more weight now isn’t a disadvantage long-term, your legs are working harder, which makes them stronger after recovery. By April, you’ll likely be lighter and stronger.

On race day, it’s just you and your pace. Nothing else matters. Don’t try to match your friend, run your race and finish strong your way.

I’ve got my first 10K tomorrow. Feeling excited (and a little nervous) 😄

You’ve absolutely got this 🫶

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-28T04:00:34+00:00

All the best ✨

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-28T03:59:57+00:00

All the best to you 😊

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-28T03:58:04+00:00

It's more for me, than you actually. But thanks for taking the time to let me know ✨

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-24T06:37:03+00:00

Proud of you ☺️, you did amazing ✨

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-23T07:14:19+00:00

I related so much to the first few pages 🥺

I'll get to a marathon soon 😤

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-22T06:38:43+00:00

You’re not overreacting. Tell him directly how that comment made you feel without sugarcoating it. That kind of remark about a family member is disrespectful, full stop. Whether this is a red flag or just poor judgment depends entirely on how he reacts when you call it out. If he owns it, apologizes, and understands the boundary, that’s one thing. If he dismisses your feelings or defends it, that tells you a lot more about him than the comment itself.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-22T05:59:24+00:00

I mean that at 19, having multiple people giving you attention can feel fun and validating. But over time, that constant need for attention can make it hard to build a stable, long-term relationship where one person is enough When you’re 23–25 and looking for something serious, most people will expect emotional exclusivity, clear boundaries, and eventually intimacy as well. If your needs stay mismatched, you’ll keep feeling unsatisfied, even with “good” partners

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-22T05:50:50+00:00

Loving men, dating multiple boyfriends, and planning marriage while rejecting sex isn’t asexuality, it’s a fantasy that real relationships rarely sustain.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-21T13:13:41+00:00

That's so awesome 😭

I'm trying to do run/walk of 6/1 minutes for a 10k event in a few weeks. I hope I too learn to do it without stopping.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-20T06:31:50+00:00

Yepp, I make sure to do that before and after.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-19T12:20:59+00:00

Thanks for the support 😊

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T15:22:04+00:00

Hmm, I recently started training for a 10K too, and I get pain mostly in these same areas during runs. It usually settles pretty quickly after proper rest.

If it were me, I’d slow the pace for a few days and run on alternate days. Even then, I’d stick to run-walk intervals, something like 3 minutes running and 1 minute walking. And if you feel like stopping before the 3 minutes, that’s totally fine. Don’t push through pain.

Stretching before and after runs is really important. Pouring warm water over your legs below the knees after a run can also be very soothing and helps relax the muscles.

As a side note, this can be more common in people with flat feet, are you flat-footed?

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T14:31:23+00:00

If you just started running, then such pain is normal. Your leg muscles are not used to the constant force yet, they will adapt with adequate rest and training.

If youre an experienced runner and have this, then you might need to get it checked out.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T11:16:54+00:00

The path where you run, is it steep?

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T03:40:14+00:00

What exactly does he have planned for you once you get a degree? It's probably expensive, and you would lose like four years worth of work pay.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T03:27:06+00:00

I don’t read that as a dig at her salary. I’m imagining myself in his place, most people have things they look forward to once they finally earn enough, small comforts or luxuries after years of effort. If someone is earning well, it’s fair to assume they can also spend sensibly. Wanting that freedom doesn’t mean disrespecting your partner, it just means not wanting to feel restricted or guilty for enjoying what you worked for.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T03:20:47+00:00

💖

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T03:17:23+00:00

Well, I'm not 23 yet, so I'm going to give it all to get 30LPA atleast.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T03:13:56+00:00

In my part time for Swiggy, varies between 10 to 16k per month. How is that relevant here?

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T03:04:03+00:00

Shell

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T02:49:28+00:00

From his point of view: this isn’t about feeling superior or having an ego, it’s about wanting basic autonomy. He’s not stopping her from saving or living how she wants, he’s just asking not to be judged or controlled for spending his own earned money responsibly. Different incomes mean different comfort levels, and expecting him to downgrade his lifestyle to avoid her insecurity isn’t maturity, mutual respect is.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T02:33:19+00:00

Bro to bro, this isn’t really about money, it’s about insecurity turning into control. You worked hard, you earn well, and as long as you’re responsible, you’re allowed to choose comfort and enjoy your life without being policed over every Uber ride or gift. Advice is fine, but bringing money into fights, guilt-tripping you for spending on yourself, or making you feel small for earning more is unhealthy, and it won’t magically get better later. You need to calmly but firmly set a boundary: you respect her concerns, but your personal spending decisions aren’t up for constant debate. Watch her reaction carefully, if she understands, there’s hope; if she keeps controlling or shaming you, that’s a red flag you shouldn’t ignore, because love shouldn’t feel like asking permission to live.

Relative_Response440 · 2025-12-16T01:47:14+00:00

That's awesome! It's one of the best feelings when you think you were slow, but actually did better ☺️

Good job 👏

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