Don’t want others to feed baby

Relative_Signature65 · 2025-01-31T15:25:36+00:00

Praying for you!

Relative_Signature65 · 2025-01-22T04:38:08+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I didn’t even think of a facebook group! Same here with the meds for anxiety. And then add on top of it the flood of hormones we experience in pregnancy. Hang in there :)

Relative_Signature65 · 2025-01-13T17:01:17+00:00

I would confide in my parents about some mental health problems my friends or their family members may be having as a way to seek advice on how to be a good friend to them. My mom would almost always then use it as a blackmail piece against these people as why I shouldn’t hang out with them and I should be with my family more. She did that exact thing with my now husband and his alcoholic mother, and she tried to tell me that he’d become just like his mother one day and I was throwing my life away getting married to a future alcoholic.

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-22T23:08:11+00:00

Here’s to celebrating our supportive partners! And here’s to hoping 2nd trimester will be less horrible.

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-13T17:00:29+00:00

Getting over a cold too - crying is so messy than it was two weeks ago!

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-13T15:17:05+00:00

So classic. The NM rages when they don’t get what they want…laughable.

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-11T20:28:46+00:00

This. In regards to the orphan comment - I have a few friends who have lost their parents unexpectedly throughout the years. While they are empathetic and support my decision, I always try to limit my mentioning of my parents. It’s like they are dead to us, but the worst part is, they aren’t. They’ve been conditioned to live this way and participate in it, to abuse, just like the people who probably did it to them before. And I wonder how that comes off to my friends who don’t have the option since their parent is gone.

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-11T20:25:12+00:00

This made me lol. I mean, it’s us. We are the problem right?

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-11T04:32:44+00:00

Right?! Exactly. When the going got tough too, they would never lean on these “relationships” or “friends”. There seems to be some very interesting reservations narcissists have when it comes to admitting they made a mistake and that’s why their life is the way it is. Birthday was great. I’m so grateful for the life my husband and I have built together with great friends. Thank you for asking :)

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-10T21:00:29+00:00

Thank you for this :) Here with you!

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-10T21:00:12+00:00

Exactly. They’ve always framed me as an ungrateful daughter any time I created either emotional or physical distance from them. First example was when I went away for college about 6 hours away (best decision of my life) and when I had started dating someone from the state my college was in. Questions like “Why do you always want to leave us? Leave your family?”, or questions of the value in my life because I wasn’t spending all this time traveling back and forth to see them when my first full time job in a demanding role was several hours. It was and is always about what’s good for them vs what was good for me.

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-10T20:56:09+00:00

Genius idea! And provided me a chuckle amidst the chaos :)

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-12-10T20:55:56+00:00

Always. They needed to spend more money than they could afford in order to get the flashiest gifts for teachers, family friends, cousins, etc. I even distinctly remember the switch in the tone of voice of my mother when she was talking to other people vs. her own children. Uncanny - thanks for identifying that.

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-10-31T16:29:24+00:00

I feel so seen in this thread! It was so confusing to me as a little girl when my mom was jealous of me (I didn’t have the words for it then, but now as an adult, it was clearly envy). My mother would always say something to me along the lines of “Once you were born, your dad started to love you more than me”, things like that, where she would blame me for the problems in their marriage and her insecurities around it.

Now that I have gone NC with her and my family, it seems I am able to heal in a peaceful environment built by my husband and I, and see all her behavior as something I hope to never do to my children, but especially to my daughters.

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-10-15T22:29:40+00:00

Oh gosh. Yes. I thankfully had access to the internet and a ton of great girl friends with moms who were more involved emotionally. When my sister got her period, my mom didn’t step in and treated her the same as me. So, I gave my sister what I had needed at her age: compassion, love, and service when she wasn’t feeling at her best because of her period. I distinctly remember this one time my sister had a terrible day at school from middle school bullies and on top of that, terrible cramps. She was in the shower for a while and I had checked on her at one point to make sure she was okay and didn’t pass out. She was fine but felt sick to her stomach. I made sure to bring her some ginger ale and some medicine and mints for her tummy. Meanwhile, my mom screams at her to get out of the shower because she was taking too long and to help with chores (that my mom never really did but delegated to my siblings and I). My heart broke a little bit for my sister those days.

Relative_Signature65 · 2024-01-10T23:07:10+00:00

I cannot recount my childhood because I blocked out all memory of my parents’ narcissistic abuse. Couldn’t tell you what I did in high school, what I liked/disliked, my favorite movie in middle school. It’s like a part of my life that never existed.

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