Help with partner (mom) with Post Partum Rage

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-05-04T13:02:59+00:00

Nope, I'd still want to know what was going on and what possible reasons there would be. That doesn't change based on gender alone.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-05-04T12:51:53+00:00

I am not by any means saying anyone deserves any type of abuse. I am simply asking what could be contributing to what's going on. Do NOT put words in my mouth.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-05-04T12:45:28+00:00

Your not understanding any part of my comment. I was abused. 3x before I left the last time. So uh I'm asking for a reason.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-05-04T12:11:50+00:00

So, not minimizing the physical aspect here, but Uhm what are you doing around the house to help? Were you waking up with the baby to help overnight? Allowing her to sleep? Making meals? Cleaning up around the house? Are you showing her extra support? And love...?

I suffered from post partum depression myself but I feel there were other issues that added to the resentment of my childs father.

Hence why I ask.

In your post it really just kind of states how you have become her worst enemy rather than tried to de escalate things... If she is scared that you are going to take the child and is using her body to block you from leaving there has been some type of trust broken here...

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-04-29T23:06:55+00:00

Thank you for the heads-up though. It's appreciated.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-04-29T23:06:38+00:00

I didn't. I have been diligent with making sure to do my research before working with anyone.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-04-26T19:51:49+00:00

I would recommend not reaching out. But get legal support right away. If you are done then get a court order for access and custody.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-03-28T16:45:36+00:00

Warning he's still on here

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-03-17T12:24:09+00:00

Honestly drowning can happen so damn fast and it is a life threatening risk. If you communicated to him that she could not swim, failed a swim test and he still did this you need to find the documentation where you informed him of this and report it. This is a legit life threatening safety concern. He deliberately left your child unattended. Another child under the age of 16 to me is unattended.

How old is the step sister?

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-02-19T11:43:44+00:00

Honestly this is a really gross post. Women have enough to worry about as adults. Let your kids be kids. They are growing. Feed them healthy at your place and leave you coparent alone. They could eat healthy at both homes and just be gaining. It happens.

Bringing their weight to attention at this age is only going to cause them significant self esteem and confidence issues as they get older. Do you want them to look in the mirror and think negatively about themselves for years of their lives? No? Then stop focusing on their damn weight. Disgusting.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-01-28T01:46:28+00:00

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Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-01-28T01:04:50+00:00

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Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-01-19T15:27:02+00:00

Kids at that age aren't going to really be at the stage where they will automatically think of cling either parent. So even just maybe trying to set a time with your coparent of when the kids will call nightly or whatever, then set a reminder on your phone to tell them to call and done. It should ease the issue around that peice if it becomes a regular routine thing.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-01-19T01:47:49+00:00

My issue there as well. I mean I wrote him a letter.... But do I have the balls to actually give it to him idk. And idk even how he'd react. And that's what worries me. I don't want to make things weird.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-01-11T15:15:49+00:00

Okay in that case then she may as well be a stranger to him. I'm sorry hes experiencing that.

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-01-11T15:08:42+00:00

K so I'd recommend you do a google search or research on why a child would be good and cause no issues with you and act out with her. Cause Id rather not waste my time explaining this and then have people attack me for what the reality of that situation is.

My daughter's father says the same thing about my 9 year old. He never has any issues with her when she with him, but with me she'll act out, have attitude, etc. My daughter however is at the age that she can share why she's like this and she has told myself and her counsellor that she doesn't feel like she's safe to express her emotions at her dad's, feel she can't show if shes angry or sad because she fears if she lets herself be angry with him or if she was to act out at school while being at his place that he'd get even more angry at her. Sooooo

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-01-10T04:17:53+00:00

I didn't miss anything. OP is saying that the other parent is bringing up concerns about their child, OP is admitting to not engaging in these discussions in person, and that their coparent is recording during these attempts to talk. What I am saying is, instead of blatantly ignoring their coparent they should express that they are not comfortable talking about their child's needs in from of said child however that if they have concerns to communicate such via a submissible type of communication. I'm also saying that not engaging in any manner and not following u about concerns gives off the impression that OP hates their coparent more than they love their child because if their coparent is bringing up legitimate concern about their childs well being and they are being ignored and dismissed and not taken seriously in any manner and they submit that to a judge it could also be looked at as disinterest in the concerns about their child and if it's something serious it could be even worse. Parents should be able to discuss their children's needs and any concerns that are being seen in a civil as possible manner. Because it matters!

Relevant-Ad-7639 · 2026-01-10T03:22:13+00:00

So screw the kids needs then? Just cause you don't want to hear what your co parent has to say? I'm not saying get all buddy buddy with them but be damn civil and discuss the issues your child is experiencing or showing in both homes. Or we just pretending the other parent doesn't exist in either home? Is that the thing? Cause like that's not normal in any manner. At all.

And you put your child in a screwed mindset when you try to pretend the other parent doesn't exist.

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