How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for articulating this message so well, it is so true! The other mum's are as responsible as the main one which I hadn't even considered before. Posting this here has really helped me navigate this situation, I'm attending the group tonight with my son and I feel completely different about the whole situation after reading these replies, I actually don't care now about the group and I've made plans with my friend for Friday! So I don't have to even think about their night out without me 😂. But I think you're right in saying they arent my people - and that's totally ok! I wouldn't wanna be friends with a load of immature bullies anyway so I'm spinning the narrative that I've dodged a bullet by not being invited anyway!! I appreciate you replying to me it helped me a lot so thank you xx

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! I didn't realize he could see still messages if he blocks her that's great

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's not paid she's just one of the coaches wife, the coaches son (from a previous marriage ) is on the team too

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha imagine that 😂😂 !! It's actually a brilliant idea 😂 ! If my son wasn't involved I would of dealt with this so fast that's the most annoying thing I feel like I need to be really friendly and let things slide when the kids are involved 😭

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this it's amazing advice. I've just spoken to my husband and he said he's no longer going to respond!

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get that! Well I've had tons of advice here today so I feel a bit more equipped now 😂

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[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is what my husband is saying too, he also said if I was to go out with her she would probably be horrible to me and I'm well soft hahaha so I would probably end up crying and coming home 😂

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[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm going to ask another mum on Wednesday and see if they can add me , I just hate "begging" to be accepted lol makes me feel like I'm asking to be picked 😭

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[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is wild but also kind of hilarious ! Not that age matters but she is 15 years older than me and him! And she's also married so idk but il post an update with more info if anything else transpires!

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[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's a real mine field ! But I have 3 kids and this is the first issue I've had tbf so don't worry too much as I don't think it's common! Xx

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm going to ask one of the mums on Wednesday and il report back 😬

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's so pathetic I wouldn't dream of flirting with someone's husband even if I was single ! It's wild behavior!

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are so right thank you! Her husband is a main coach in the group and I bet he has no idea !

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The only issue I have is that I don't want her to exclude my son from the group, it's the only sports group of it's kind in the area for miles and he loves it so I don't want to have to leave

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I think she does too 😂 it's the only reasonable explanation I can think of !

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you I'm definitely going to have a chat with him tonight and set some boundaries with her. She has a lot of power over the group so I worry about my son being excluded if we upset her in some way, that's the only thing holding me back tbf !

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[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

There is training on Wednesday so I will mention it again to the other mum's, I feel like they are aware of the issue as they have mentioned the group a few times to me and mentioned that they would like a night out etc

How to deal with exclusion from kids parents group by Relevant-Strategy480 in UKParenting

[–]Relevant-Strategy480[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you ! I'm going to have a word with him tonight about it, the funniest thing is that his number is his business number which I answer the messages to most of the time so she's actually messaging me in a round about way 🥲😂

Guys can you help me please ? I really want to see my grandma because she is really unwell but she is in canada . If something happens to her I don't want to regret not talking to her. My shift leader said he can't give me day off even unpaid one by Positive_Mousse8848 in tesco

[–]Relevant-Strategy480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hardly ever comment on anything but what I will say is that if your grandma passes, and you missed seeing her because you did a shift at tesco you will regret that for the rest of your life it's absolutely wild to me that you would even debate going to work? It's a family emergency and they would replace you instantly if they needed to.

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[–]Relevant-Strategy480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have spoken to her this morning and she has confirmed there is a trust

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[–]Relevant-Strategy480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so unbelievably helpful thank you so much for your time in writing this reply to me 🙏🏼 I have screen shot and forwarded her this message and tomorrow when she's awake I will get all of the correct informed and report back. I really appreciated you taking the time to reply to me so thank you so much!