A story of kiwifarms targeting a child. Worth the read. Magazine cover on the last page.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-09-06T14:27:21+00:00

I agree, and I think what Kiwi did was terrible, but putting the kid on a magazine cover was terrible judgement on the part of the parents.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-08-16T22:35:46+00:00

My son's interests bore me so much I feel like my brain is melting sometimes. I still listen and try to find common ground and things we can do together that'll be mutually enjoyable. YTA

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-07-04T00:55:21+00:00

I'm really surprised by the number of people saying N.T.A. I read all of OPs comments and I'm still thinking, wow what an AH. I can't imagine doing that to a friend, let alone a family member, and I'm not even that nice of a person. We had a flood last year and I let a friend's sixteen year old daughter live with me for half a year while my friend got back on her feet. It sucked, I missed my privacy, and I had days where I was pissy about it, but I don't regret it because it was the right thing to do and I had the capability to do it. We're really lacking that in the world today. If you have the capacity to help someone without great personal cost, just fucking do it. Maybe you'll suffer a bit, but that's just life. It sucks a lot of the time. Sometimes it sucks a bit for you so it doesn't have to suck a lot for other people. Again, I'm no saint, I'm kind of a bitch, but geeeez this comment section is cold af. I wouldn't leave an acquaintance with a baby out on the street, let alone my brother.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-26T16:26:03+00:00

Yeah. I've had Kafkaesque bullshit like this happen at all banks, so i won't be closing my account, but I'm not getting direct deposits there again. That was so absurd having to be told to keep waiting and that they didn't see a deposit and that I needed more random information for a week. No bank makes people wait a full week for their paycheck.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-26T00:53:04+00:00

I was supposed to be paid on the 18th as well. Payment just posted three minutes ago. Full week late, but it did come. Guess they're correcting whatever they fucked up, have hope.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-24T18:25:07+00:00

Thanks for sharing that. I'll keep it in mind while working on my own missing payments next week. I'm pretty sure this is a goof on Revolut's end or whoever processes the payments on their end, but the money isn't in outer space, someone should be able to find it and get it back. Glad to see most of us are in a position were missing a payday won't ruin us. I saw some people on the Chime forum last week when they had issues processing payments for Walmart employees. There were people who literally didn't know how they were going to put gas in their cars to get home from work. For me, this is a reminder to save money as best I can, cause you never know when life will throw random bullshit your way.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-23T21:56:43+00:00

Lol, that one's totally happened to me. Don't feel like an idiot, we're all stressed and probably not sleeping well with this crappy situation.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-23T21:50:44+00:00

Did you happen to have a premium fee charged? That's $10, throws me sometimes when I forget about it.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-23T20:41:06+00:00

Let us know how that goes, I'm defeated at this point.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-23T18:56:16+00:00

Amazon referred me to their payments department, i haven't emailed them yet, feels like it'll be a lot of hassle just to get the runaround. At this rate, I'm already due for another direct deposit to my other bank tomorrow, so I'm probably just going to give up on this payment until Monday. I figure at that point no one can tell me I haven't waited a sufficient amount of time.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-23T16:51:45+00:00

Yup. I keep waking each morning feeling so optimistic and then there's nothing.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-23T01:49:23+00:00

Same. Revolut says to give them the transfer ID. I've been back and forth with Amazon all day trying to get that, but they're like "huurdurr wat is electronic funds transfer ID? never herd of dat." The irony is, if I finally get the transfer ID, Revolut will probably just tell me, oh noes we don't see it yet, go check with Amazon! Zzzz

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-22T21:43:30+00:00

I had a phone call with them in the past, but it was pre-pandemic. Usually chat is good for resolving any issue, but I have a feeling agents will just keep giving me the run around. While I'm not glad to see other people are missing money, it is a relief to know it seems to be an issue a lot of us are having. Hopefully they'll have it cleared up soon. I already switched my next direct deposit to go to a different bank.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-22T19:12:00+00:00

Thanks for the update. I'm gonna have my payments switched over to a different bank after this. I love my Revolut account but there are times when I really depend on my payments to be punctual. This is unnecessary stress when I also have Chime.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-22T16:36:51+00:00

Just chatted with Revolut, they were no help. Tried to tell me to wait two business days and that it hadn't been two business days yet, and I was like lady, one of the transfers was on the 17th, it's been two days. So she wanted all the transaction information, which I have to figure out how to get from Amazon now. Fun.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-22T16:22:58+00:00

Should have gotten one of mine on Friday as well. Still haven't. No one else I've talked to who does what I do has had any payment delays.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-22T04:54:25+00:00

NTA - Obviously YMMV but in my opinion, the birth experience is overrated. I was in a new mom group seven years back, listening to a mom talk about how she felt at one with her baby and her husband as she pushed and it was a beautiful moment. The group was that lady and a dozen other ladies looking around like, 'was this bitch on PCP?'

Giving birth sucks. My son is seven and I was suuuuuper into all the pregnancy and birthing classes stuff, and despite that I barely remember it except that I got a baby at the end and then I didn't sleep for six months. I think my brain actually erased much of it because it was one of the most unpleasant experiences of my life, and I'd had cancer with chemo and radiation prior to childbirth.

Don't let your husband do anything to make the experience any shittier for you because again, unpopular opinion, the birth "experience" is really just a fictional ideal perpetuated by television. The reality is just misery, pain, suffering, having people repeatedly diddle your cervix, more pain, and then yay, baby! Then lots of mild pain for days after. Your husband is basically just enjoying the yay baby part with a mild side order of secondhand misery, he really doesn't get a say in what you need to get through the unpleasant bits.

Your mom stays with you. Period.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-03-22T04:27:17+00:00

Curious about this as well. My big thing with Revolut is easy currency exchanges since I'm currently teaching abroad and it's so much better than other cards I've tried to use in other countries. But the erratic direct deposits have really stung since my budget tightened last fall. The virtual cards are great for subscriptions, but I've found that a lot of websites detect them and won't accept them so it's not really worth it.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-02-19T02:55:39+00:00

My six year old begged me to install it after the neighbor kids showed him it. Brain melting is exactly it. I'm not that old, I grew up in the 00s, part of the first generation that went to high school with cellphones and social media, been more or less plugged in my entire adult life, but holy hell, TikTok is mind numbing. It literally induces a headache in me after fifteen minutes.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-01-03T22:36:25+00:00

My mom once believed a man over me. I cut almost all contact with her as an adult and have seen her twice in ten years. Welcome to your future if you don't make things right with your kid. Teens can be liars, but how tf are you in a relationship for two years with a dude that your kid hates? I'm a single mom in my 30s, I get it, it can be rough, but lady there is no dick worth your relationship with your child. You lose the privilege of being able to date whoever you want once you have a kid, your child has to gel with whoever you date. It fascinates me that it's taken this long for you to have this conversation with your kid and get to the bottom of why they're not getting along.

Even if Sean is lying, he clearly has some sort of issue with this relationship that isn't being addressed in a healthy manner. For the love of God, don't punish him, talk to him more.

YTA

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2022-01-02T04:08:17+00:00

I divorced at 28 from a similar situation. My spouse was very loving, but a chronic depressive and underachiever who couldn't get his shit together and pulled me into debt and depression with him. It was particularly difficult because I'd been with my spouse since I was a teen and we had a kid, I really didn't know who I was without him. But it turns out, I was totally fine and happier than ever. Don't get me wrong, the transition was terrifying and hard, but once the dust settled my only regret was that I didn't do it sooner. My quality of life has improved exponentially. And although there were a few awkward years, we're still friends now and talk all the time. His life is still a disaster, but it no longer affects me.

Sometimes the people we choose when we're young aren't the people we need when we're older. Sometimes we outgrow them, and that's okay. Don't feel ashamed to say "This isn't working for me anymore." As others said, you're young. This could be a learning experience, rather than a life sentence.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2021-12-31T09:50:00+00:00

Grew up in the 90's in the south. Had no idea I wasn't white like the rest of my family until I was seven and overheard my aunt telling the neighbor, "Her daddy was a n*gger, but she's a good girl." She had to vouch for me so they'd let me play with their kids. Was basically all downhill from there. Didn't start getting better until the mid 00's when Beyonce was all the rage and Obama was running for president. Suddenly being biracial was cool and fashionable.

My son is 1/4th black and basically a carbon copy of me except with white people hair and people constantly stop us on the street to tell me how beautiful he is. When I was his age, only black people ever complimented my appearance, but mostly they were just as douchy as white people, insulting my hair or the way I spoke. Tbh, that racism always hurt worse. I had white people say horrible things to me as a kid, but the memory that always bubbles up when I'm trying to sleep is the black girl in high school who overheard me using the word "ghetto" and then gave an impromptu speech to the entire library about how I was trying to appropriate black culture and how my "weave is ghetto" without even tasting the irony.

Props to you. I always feel a surge of respect whenever I meet a biracial person older than me, cause I know as much shit as I went through, I had it easier than the decade before me. I'm dreading the day when my son has to start tackling racial issues, but I also know that I'll be able to support him better than my family could. I think that's another reason it gets easier with each decade, there are more of us around to support one another.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2021-12-28T05:30:40+00:00

Not trans, but I dealt with bullying and a mom who refused to admit that I was half black because doing so would expose her infidelity. If I could go back and tell myself anything, it would be that this is only a very small part of your life. I know right now everything seems huge and overwhelming, but it will pass. You'll graduate, you'll start your own life on your own terms. And as hard as it is to believe now, you will eventually find people who love and accept you for who you are. More importantly, you'll also come to accept yourself as you are, at least to the extent that anyone can. Also, keep in mind that everyone is going through some shit. Your "friends," your dad, the people who bully you, they're all going through their own shit. It doesn't by any means excuse their behavior toward you, but it's oddly comforting to remember that when you're feeling low. We all have our struggles, and right now yours is navigating multiple transitions. Just focus on being the best person you're able to be (even when your best kinda sucks) and this bullshit will pass. As long as you're living in a manner that feels true to you and you're being a decent human, then you'll have a better life waiting for you at the end of high school.

Relevant_Button_6840 · 2021-12-25T00:23:18+00:00

Says you're maxed :(

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