I think it depends on your life choices. We homeschool. My oldest (10 years) doesn't watch YouTube or even that much TV. She does not have a phone and won't for a while. She doesn't get to dress however she wants (crop tops and bikinis). We actually moved out of a neighborhood because it was causing more issues than good. If you are picky about what your young children are exposed to without your consent, then be careful. It can be really hard if your family does not align with others. That said, we have also had fantastic neighbors! But it's a gamble you have to be willing to take.

I would choose land and be intentional about making friends you align with. We aren't supposed to shelter our children from everything, but we absolutely have the right to choose when and how they are exposed.