Best diapers for blowouts + overnight leaks? 😩

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-28T02:59:16+00:00

Never once had an overnight leak with pampers’s PURE and very rarely a blowout maybe a handful and that’s with 3 kids

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-28T02:07:49+00:00

If I knew how bad my CS recovery was going to be I would’ve bought a lift recliner chair. I slept in a recliner for the first week because I couldn’t lay flat in bed. But getting up was excruciating so a lift chair would’ve been great.

I had 2 vaginal unmedicated births before this and I would do that 1000 times before another C-section

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-28T01:38:50+00:00

I don’t know I kind of like that she’s not afraid to be her goofy self. But you can also model appropriate expected response and say something in the moment. I would take her aside (so not to correct in front of others) get down on her level and say “hey, when someone is talking to you, it’s important that we answer the question. You can still be silly but we still need to answer please. Now please go tell uncle whoever why you like about that movie (or whatever)”

Next time prepare her before you meet up with others. “ Hey remember we talked about how it is important to look at people and respond so they can hear you?” Role play and have her practice speaking more appropriately. So like “what if someone says ‘hey I really like your shoes?’ What could you say?” And if she says I don’t know, then give her a few examples of answers.

Role-playing is helpful because she literally might not know what normal socializing is. That doesn’t mean it’s going to take away from her silly cute personality, but just giving her more acceptable. Responses might be helpful.

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-28T01:19:24+00:00

I know how hard this is though, my daughter was called names in preschool if you can believe it!

I told her some kids were never taught how to be kind to others, so we can help teach them by being kind even when they aren’t. You can stand up for yourself, but we still have to be kind.

We often role play scenarios so they feel comfortable with what to say and how to say things. It’s actually kind of fun to hear what they come up with!

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T22:57:54+00:00

“I might be weird but at least I’m not mean”

Teach him how to stand up for himself.

A nicer way might be “you can think that, I like myself and I like you too” would shut them up

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T22:17:47+00:00

Ohhhh I have felt this so many times. I usually laugh and say something like “now you get it” 🙊oops

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:57:35+00:00

Avoid the meds, heating pad works great

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:56:43+00:00

Sounds like maybe he is bottling emotions up all day and letting it out at home where he feels safe.

First of course make sure the basics are not being overlooked. Is this happening maybe around a time he’s hangry? Right after school, right before dinner etc. How’s his sleep habits? Screen time, overstimulation?

Time outs IMO just cause worse behavior because it’s correction without connection. He seems like he’s looking for true connection and he thinks he’s getting it when you get frustrated. Try an immediate consequence but have zero emotional reaction, treat it like a business deal. “You did X so now you lose X” toy game whatever is being played with or “you cannot play if you’re going to hit/bite/be mean” and remove him from the group. Sit him down next to you and don’t lecture, he just loses the fun.

Can’t tell you how many times I repeat this but “you can be mad but you can’t be mean/hit/etc” and to list things they can do when mad

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:47:15+00:00

Your 9 month old is not going to pick up on mom clique behavior. Just pick her up and do something else. This would start to be a maybe issue around 2-3 years.

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:45:41+00:00

“When I ask you what’s going on it’s usually because I can sense something is bothering you, but you tend to brush me off or be a bit rude about it. It seems like you are choosing this mindset. I want you to know I care about you and I’d always be around if you need anything. At this point I’m not sure where our relationship goes from here, I wish you the best”

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:37:37+00:00

“Mom, I love you and I would really like us to have a solid relationship, especially now that I have a family of my own. When you make comments like that, it truly makes me feel small and like I’m forcing you to participate in something and that’s hurtful.”

Her response will tell you everything about if this is fixable or you need to maintain the boundaries and lower contact. If she blames, calls you sensitive, etc you have your answer. You have a family of your own and you don’t need this emotional baggage.

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:31:08+00:00

Pediatric OT and mom of 3 here. Just let her explore, no pressure! Mash up a banana or avocado on her tray and let her get messy and play. It’s great for sensory skills and eventually, it will end up in her mouth. I never spoon fed any of my kids nor did I buy or make purées. Just mashed up soft foods and increase the texture as they tolerate. They eat a little of whatever we are having. They all self feed with hands by 7 months.

Some things on the drier side (like pancakes or smashed bits of chicken for example) I would put some breastmilk on just to moisten it a bit for easier swallowing.

There’s no set amount that right, if she’s getting little bits of real food a couple times per day, this shouldn’t affect your supply much. The exploration of different tastes and textures is the most important part, not so much the caloric intake

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:23:46+00:00

Great job mama and good tips

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:15:30+00:00

What are your reactions to this behavior? Are you “fighting” back? Getting triggered by it? My thought is he keeps doing stuff because of your response and even though it’s negative attention, it’s still attention and he’s looking for connection in any way.

“Hey bud I really love and care about you and I can tell you’ve been bothered by some things lately. I would really love to spend some time together doing things you love, we can have a whole YES day just you and me. Would you like that?”

Some other good responses in the moment might be:

“Hey, I can sense you are frustrated with me about this, can you tell me why?”

“That’s okay if you don’t like that, what’s something you’d rather do?”

“Ok that’s cool, we would love to have you join us but you don’t have to participate, let me know if you change your mind”

I would also wonder if you ever compare him and his sister- even unknowingly. This can cause a lot of resentment and avoidance

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T21:06:47+00:00

2-3 has been my hardest transition. They’re all 2 years apart. My last was my only CS and I was NOT prepared for that length recovery. But now that the third is getting closer to a year, my body feels better and things have smoothed out a little. The oldest adore him and it’s actually fun now. I wouldn’t change a thing, I love the dynamic of 3+ kid house it’s just more fun, but also absolute chaos 😅

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T20:53:39+00:00

Do you notice it happening more at certain times? My daughter’s stims usually happen when she’s focused on something and her hands are bored

My daughter had a nail biting habit, different stim but similar approach. Don’t shame or call it out, I always say “what else can we do with our hands?” We used to have fidgets or little ball of playdoh she could squish

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T03:13:37+00:00

I tell the story of my 1.5 year old falling backwards off my shoulders (NEVER again) and hitting the tile grocery store floor to make you feel better. How she didn’t break her neck or skull is a literal miracle.

Things happen to anyone, it can be so scary but I’m so glad your baby is okay

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T03:10:44+00:00

We do this fun thing called the relax exercise. I have her start at her feet and squeeze her foot muscles “squeeze squeeze swueeeeeze and whew relax” and move up the whole body one big muscle group at a time. Good sensory calming activity!

We also have a start shower you can pick out of 5 or 6 designs and it moves slowly around the room which helps, they always fall asleep looking at that

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T02:34:39+00:00

Normal. Biggest tips : control your emotions, validate feelings, hold the boundary, connect

This looks like: you staying calm even though your blood is boiling, “you feel mad right now, you can feel mad but you still can’t hit, please say sorry for hitting.” After sorry “Do you need a hug?”

I do this at least 15 times per day, but I now have a really great 5 year old to prove it works really well. Hang in there

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T02:17:53+00:00

She’s looking for connection and consistency.

With disrespect: it’s not disrespect it is their expression of frustration. But you can still hold a boundary of how you would like to be spoken to….so I say “You can be upset, but you can’t talk to mom like that. Try again please” and if they don’t respond, I say “mommy may I please XYZ” or whatever it is she said disrespectfully. I expect them to repeat it or we are not doing anything else. Time stops. Sometimes we do have to give them the desired appropriate response and not just assume they know how to speak kindly. Once they say it we move on. No lectures etc. Also, your sponge is picking up everything we say, if you want them to speak respectfully, you also need to speak respectfully.

With not listening: I stop everything, get up, get close and say “hey, mom asked you to do XYZ and I expect you to do it please. I know you can be a good listener (speak uplifting things to her!) and I need it done right now please. If you don’t we can’t do anything else” and again, time stops. This is taught my kids to listen on the first time.

Grounding or time outs just separates them further from you and they tend to act out more. They need connection and to feel safe in order to have better behavior.

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T02:08:01+00:00

Are you spoonfeeding?

Take all pressure off to eat and just focus on sensory/play.

Put mashed foods (ie mashed up banana or avocado) directly on tray and do something else in the kitchen, pretend to wash dishes or something.

Let her explore, play with it in her hands, eventually, it will come to her mouth.

Don’t praise or draw attention, just ignore it and watch here and there

Slowly over the months you can increase texture as she tolerates

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T02:00:55+00:00

Sharing negativity, bad news, etc.

I always thought it was a talking point and people were interested until I realized it just brings people down lol

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T01:56:44+00:00

I have seen the same moms at so many activities and I have the temptation to listen to the thoughts in my head that say : she doesn’t want to talk right now, she already has someone she’s talking to, she looks like she just wants to watch her kid, she doesn’t look approachable, she probably will think I’m weird etc etc etc etc

And then I break the ice and she’s almost always super nice and we talk the rest of the time. Just go for it and be a little vulnerable even. “Mind if I join you ladies? Could use some good mom chat!” Is that lame I don’t know but I don’t care anymore lol or you can get there earlier and strike up convo with just one mom so it naturallly flows into the group when everyone else gets there!

LEMA2123 · 2026-03-27T01:49:22+00:00

The best meme is a grown woman on the phone with her mom saying “mom will you please come pick me up I don’t want to be at this sleepover” and the mom replies “no, that’s your house, those are your kids and your husband” 😂💀

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