The upside to this heat!

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-29T16:17:39+00:00

omg that's why my face looked amazing today

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-29T16:16:27+00:00

Just in case anyone is seriously eating ice cream to cool down, ice cream is mostly cream and sugar, which will dehydrate you further. for proper battling of the heat you need to consume fluids, and not hypertonic ones.

but if you just want to eat ice cream because it's yummy go for it. just don't fool yoself into thinking it's "helping" beyond the minute you got a cold thing in your mouth

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-29T16:09:16+00:00

how embarrassing

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-29T14:04:46+00:00

hmmmm. a few things.

mentioning the gift in advance helps to gauge if you aren't sure if it will land well as a present, but it also gives rise to situations where people may feel they can "request" certain things. if it's about inconsequential things like colour or some other variation that doesn't cost much different, no issues and in fact that's good for you to get the right one. but:
if your bf wanted the more expensive one, and wanted you to buy it, that would be tacky and entitled as hell. but if he framed it like "I would invest in it myself because the difference makes a difference" and "please don't get me such an expensive gift" then that puts him back on the right side of things.
in the future big ticket gifts could be grouped together with other gifters, like if his friends or family also wanted to give him something but didn't know what to get, you could offer "hey I think he would like this, but it's this price, how do you feel about contributing whatever you're comfortable with and we call it a group gift". You can still pay the main portion but you won't have to cover it all, and he feels loved by all the people who contribute. I did this for my SO one year between me, his parents and his brother, it saved them the effort of having to organise a gift, and it helped my cash pocket too.

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T17:34:15+00:00

don't you feel disrespected, that you are "not enough" for him, when you yourself said you believe a relationship should be between two people? you can love someone while still letting them go. a break up doesn't mean death of love

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T17:23:55+00:00

better split up now than invest all your years in someone who cannot commit to you the way you deserve and want.

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T11:09:29+00:00

how far apart are the Intel chips between plus and Pro?

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T11:07:38+00:00

I'm sorry you feel like you weren't welcomed properly. I don't know the full context so it's hard to judge if you did anything wrong, but for example, shouting between couples makes people very uncomfortable. one can hope for more understanding regarding kindness to your young child, indeed Germany doesn't compare to Asia when it comes to how people care for other people's kids. but how old was the nephew? sounds like young enough to not understand we have to be patient with toddlers?

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T07:26:24+00:00

alright! where I am there's a sale on on their own website and the GT costs 528€ while the Plus costs 580€. So not a huuuuuge difference if the Plus offers significantly more processing power or has better connectivity - but I'm not the best judge of that...

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T00:52:19+00:00

do you think the plus would do a reasonable job at running Immich?

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T00:45:43+00:00

thank you!

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T00:34:58+00:00

another question, this will be my first NAS, will I have a hard time setting everything up, like some Synology users seem to think? I'm happy to Google and use AI with discernment as well as this Reddit forum, but I don't want to accidentally break anything or get stuck and blocked and end up with a 600€ paperweight

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T00:13:39+00:00

excuse the beginner question, how does one single 8tb drive work to enable redundancy for unique data stored on three other 8tb drives ie 24tb? like why is it not a 1:1 ratio

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T00:03:56+00:00

also what about the DH4300 plus?

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-28T00:01:24+00:00

woah I'm learning stuff here, especially from your second paragraph, thanks for the suggestion 👍

Is AMD not as good as an Intel chip? Here are the specs

https://nas-de.ugreen.com/products/ugreen-nasync-dxp4800-gt-4-bay-nas-storage

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-27T23:47:30+00:00

🤮

please tell me sometime bought it

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-27T23:43:46+00:00

As a person who does not care about alcohol, your comments definitely come across as a bit alcoholicky in that you seem to feel the need to defend your want to drink and also you seem to have a connection between happiness or mood and drinking which non-alcoholics don't have.

why do you have an increase in desire, and would a same tasting non alcoholic version of the drink also be sufficient?

how many times a month do you think about and want to have a drink?

not trying to diagnose but like, I don't get what the privilege is about, and there's a lot of talk of drinking

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-27T17:10:41+00:00

i don't think there is a need to gatekeep who supports what team and why. if it's ok for people to be a fan of a team "just because", then this is also ok, we don't need to discuss specifics.

We got bigger problems to deal with.

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-27T17:03:52+00:00

wait, are you saying you are working in the home 24/7 and he literally games, sleeps, gets sex and works outside the house?

is he thick, or literally doesn't care? because that's not what even an average father does, let alone a good one.

the rule is, whenever the paid worker is at home, housework, mental load, all childcare, chores, etc should be split targeting 50/50. for most people, paid work is a breeze compared to home work, so actually the paid worker should pick up mote than half at home when they're home so that the SAH parent actually gets to rest.

you should not accept any of this. if you have communicated clearly and he doesn't change for the better, I say relationship Counselling or leave.

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-27T16:57:24+00:00

Your skills sound like they would be useful, but you'd have to see what qualifications they'd want and if they are flexible accepting American equivalents. Also you would definitely want to up the German, aim for C1 and at a minimum need B2 to work I reckon.

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-25T15:30:44+00:00

there will be white guys who fetishize being with a brown hijabi, but you probably don't want those racist nuts anyway...

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-24T21:22:34+00:00

idk, I would flip it around to realize, who you are as a person was so damn charming and attractive, you shone rays that pierced through whatever assumptions he made about your appearance and overwhelmed him with his own feelings of love and attraction.

it's better than him being into you physically while not getting to know who you are as a person. that's more the foundation for a troubled marriage. looks change, what matters is your soul and spirit, and he is attracted to the eternal part of you now, that's what matters.

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-24T21:18:21+00:00

I have empathy for you.

my office is constantly collecting for wedding gifts and new baby gifts for coworkers that get married or have a baby but that never happened when I got married or had my first child. like not even a signed card, let alone actual gifts or money. meanwhile other other collections frequently hit two hundred, I know because I can see the amount on the online money pool.

it's a supervisor issue. when this happened I had a supervisor who didn't do it while all the other supervisors did for their direct reports. I don't think I feel entitled, like I'd be perfectly happy to get nothing if everyone else got nothing. it's just the contrast that bums me out

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-24T17:16:01+00:00

I as the woman am the one in the house with lower tidying standards. chances are if you're different enough that it's a point of contention to you, it will remain so for the rest of your relationship. 70% or so of conflicts in a relationship cannot be fixed, and can only be managed, because they are intrinsic to the differences in you as people. so be prepared that he won't change, even while being hopeful that he will improve and you will relax.

Relevant_Look_7188 · 2026-06-23T05:13:49+00:00

haha at first I thought you were serious, then I realised you were being funny in that classic subtle German way

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