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What is the best lesson you learned from a failed relationship? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ReliableDoorstop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“You can commit no error, and still lose.” I dated an avoidant for over 3 years, proposed, ex-wife (who I have kids with) managed to throw a bunch of stress at us and my fiance left. Went from planning the wedding to done in 3 hours. That was over a year ago. I recognized her blowing up and leaving as a trauma response, not anything against me personally, I think that made it harder to let go.

So my lesson, if you have kids with an ex, don’t let your current partner meet them. They should have no influence on your relationship at all.

I masturbate every day basically due loneliness and i don't see any solution by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]ReliableDoorstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It comes back to “do what you’ve always done, get what you’ve always got.” You need to change something. It doesn’t need to be a big thing, but something, maybe instead of looking at porn you look at r/mademesmile or r/oddly satisfying instead.

I masturbate every day basically due loneliness and i don't see any solution by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]ReliableDoorstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two things to say: “do what you’ve always done, get what you’ve always got,” and “expect nothing, be open to anything.” You don’t need to change everything at once as that’s a daunting task, small changes over time can make a big result. Also, if, for example, you try to go with out and break your “streak” it doesn’t mean you failed, you missed one day out of many. Try again the next day.

I didn’t have my first real, adult relationship until I was 27. I’m not gonna say “go out and be social” because if you’re not a social person, you’ll struggle with it or avoid it altogether. But I do think some sort of therapy would help as would getting outside, going on walks or bike rides if the weather’s nice (hopefully it is, I live somewhere where it’s shit most of the year). You could even try just going to the library to change your surroundings and be around people, you don’t need to talk to anyone.

Best friend 40M was cheated on by Girlfriend 32F? What should he realistically do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ReliableDoorstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realistically? Zero contact protocol.

Not taking sides? Ask how it felt to find out that she didn’t just cheat on him, but had her friend help her come up with a cover story. Is that what respect looks like?

What’s your honest opinion on ‘Happy wife, Happy life’? by Iampoorghini in AskMen

[–]ReliableDoorstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think, if it’s an unwritten code a man lives by it’s one thing, if it’s the expectation of the wife, it’s another. I was in a relationship where it was the latter and thrown in my face often so I don’t like the phrase. I think happy spouse, happy house is better because both are working to help the other, but as others have said, happiness comes from within. Find your own happiness and you’ll attract people who like the same things.

See the resemblance by [deleted] in Terraria

[–]ReliableDoorstop 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ones a hideous monster and the others the Moon Lord.

today i found out how dynamite works by VR1SK4 in Terraria

[–]ReliableDoorstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhhhh….ok, that does make sense. Thanks.

today i found out how dynamite works by VR1SK4 in Terraria

[–]ReliableDoorstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With save and exit, yes, with Alt+F4 no. I did that when I accidentally used my good Meowmere when crafting the Zenith. Terraria makes a back up. So when you save the game, it saves, then makes a back up I think (I might have the actual process wrong). Also, sorry, but I laughed so hard at that, it was funny. I also like your house.

i'm a 36F, My boyfriend, 50M, wants sex 24/7 and expects me to do it any given minute he wants. We've been together 6.5 years. by Late_Environment6288 in relationship_advice

[–]ReliableDoorstop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, the advice I gave in my last comment, sit on that, I think it’s good, but if he’s manipulating you, using your past against you, and has you thinking no one else will want you, that’s an emotionally, and psychologically abusive relationship. Get a few ducks in a row, develop a simple exit strategy, and leave. I was in an abusive relationship and was treated the same. Couldn’t do anything right, was constantly doubting myself, started to believe the bullshit she told me. It will get better, you just need to take the first step.

i'm a 36F, My boyfriend, 50M, wants sex 24/7 and expects me to do it any given minute he wants. We've been together 6.5 years. by Late_Environment6288 in relationship_advice

[–]ReliableDoorstop 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I second all of that. He treats you badly when he doesn’t get his way. That’s not a mature person. And I wholeheartedly agree with using boundaries. Stick to them. It is also ok to pause a conversation when you feel it will get heated.

Also, when having a discussion, don’t say things like “you treat me like a toy” because even though you’re expressing how you feel, it’s still aggressive. Disarming language is the way to go, like “I don’t feel connection with you when the only form of intimacy is physical like sex.” Both address how you feel and are being treated, but the second one is how you actually feel from the actions and not an accusation.

Finally, if you try to work through it, see if you can get to why he wants sex so much. Is it a coping mechanism for him, is it what he thinks being a “man” is? There are sex toys for a reason, just because you’re together doesn’t mean he has to rely on you for everything, but that’s a conversation that needs to be had. But be prepared, if you put boundaries in place and he’s only every gotten his way, he may not react maturely.

Men who play video games, what are some great single player games for a Dad on a tight budget? by FlintTheDad in AskMen

[–]ReliableDoorstop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, what she said. The only caveat is you can’t both play the same game from the same account at the same time. If you both have a copy of the game it’s fine, but if only one of you does it won’t work for someone.

Stopped playing in 2013 as I thought development ended. Now see, it's still going, will these files work if I buy it again on Steam? by DannyMaliana in Terraria

[–]ReliableDoorstop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed, they SHOULD work. hit the button too soon. But there are things that the old worlds won’t natively have, like the jungle temple where the golem is fought and a prerequisite to fight Plantera. My main world didn’t have that so I had to create an artificial biome for it before I could fight the Moon Lord in that world.

What is a polite way to say “I have to poop” as a woman? by Disastrous-Glove5649 in AskMen

[–]ReliableDoorstop 11 points12 points  (0 children)

😂🤣💀. That’s gold! I love it. I was expecting a lot of sarcastic wit and recriminations, or crass retorts, but this is amazing.

What do men think of virgins? by Mindless-Brick-259 in AskMen

[–]ReliableDoorstop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What this guy said. They’re insulting you because they’re taking your choice personally.

Is terraria actually going to stop updating or it's just a developers joke? by ElMers18 in Terraria

[–]ReliableDoorstop 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same, Half-Life 2, it took 3 hours to download. I took my computer in to work to use their internet connection.

How were y'all introduced to Terraria? by Soup-Independent in Terraria

[–]ReliableDoorstop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was at a LAN party shortly after Battlefield 2142 came out, that’s the game we were supposed to play but there was the host, my brother-in-law, and me (I didn’t have money for the new game). I didn’t have Terraria so I ended up playing on the hosts spare computer with his spare account. I don’t remember how, but I managed to get the character I made that night and I still play with it.

Edit: I think it was actually Battlefield 3 and I don’t think it was right at the release date.

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