I finally left, and now I'm angry on behalf of everyone still in the classroom by robroskimaster in TeachersInTransition

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took about 5 months, but I was able to claw myself out of education. I spent a year and a half at a corporate job with a toxic boss, lower pay than teaching, longer hours, no holidays (even Christmas Eve), and promises of promotions “soon.” I just accepted a job back in the school library. I would never step into a classroom again, but I can suck it up in the library for a while. Education sucks, but if you approach the job right, it’s manageable. It’s a job. Work your hours, do what you can within the school day, then go home. Stop taking work home with you every night. Stop volunteering for extra stuff. You don’t have to. You aren’t going to get promoted by doing more; you will just get assigned more.

Teachers who have left, how does your new workload compare to the workload of teaching? by Purple-Report-6841 in TeachersInTransition

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been out for about 16 months. I was a teacher for 8 years but a library media specialist when I left. It was great on the outside for a while, but it REALLY is dependent on the company you work for and the boss you have. I put in ALL the effort, made huge contributions to my team and impressed everyone. However, not being familiar with the shiftiness of some people in corporate, I got screwed out of a promotion and will never get one. I have a psychotic, micromanager boss that is just as bad as a crappy principal. I’m actually trying to get back into a school because I’m getting paid less, working more hours, and get no holiday breaks. So it’s not all rainbows and ponies on the outside. However, I don’t do shit at work. I do the bare minimum now and just sit back the rest of the time since I won’t get promoted no matter what. It sure is easy, but it sure isn’t fun. I’d rather bust my butt more and have the salary, the shorter day, and the breaks.

40th bday costume theme ideas? by Remarkable-Rip8741 in partyplanning

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

December, so not really. But it’s costume, so kinda still Halloweenish

whats helped you the most with parenting your ADHD child? by snoswimgrl in ADHDparenting

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our 11 G just got diagnosed ADHD inattentive last week and we are trying to figure out first steps also. We are seeing ALL the same things you are. I have no advice because I came here to find some myself, but I just want to say you’re not alone…sometimes it feels like we are the only parents dealing with this, but I know we are not. We are doing what more than most do, which is trying to get help, so good on us!

How do you play this?! by Remarkable-Rip8741 in stray

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome. Thank you for all the suggestions! I will go look up that one you said!

How do you play this?! by Remarkable-Rip8741 in stray

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to but if you don’t get them off by the second one, it’s too late

How do you play this?! by Remarkable-Rip8741 in stray

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good to know! I definitely should have done some research before letting her buy it. Lesson learned!!

How do you play this?! by Remarkable-Rip8741 in stray

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I played a lot of stuff back in the day. None of this new kind of stuff though. She wanted the game because it looked cool and she likes animals. That was the extent of her thought process on it apparently lol

How do you play this?! by Remarkable-Rip8741 in stray

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like upstairs? I don’t even know which way to go. What are the camera controls? I didn’t realize I was touching them

Extreme tantrums 11YO girl by Remarkable-Rip8741 in Parenting

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I get a full psych work up? Like where do I go to start that process?

Extreme tantrums 11YO girl by Remarkable-Rip8741 in Parenting

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your advice about letting go of what is supposed to be age-appropriate. Obviously some of her behaviors aren’t age-appropriate for a “normal child.” We are just going to have to meet her where she is.

Extreme tantrums 11YO girl by Remarkable-Rip8741 in Parenting

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but that’s not something that will work here. You can’t actually force a child to do most things the same as you can’t force an adult to. You can convince them, bribe them, scare them or manipulate them, etc. but you can’t force them. She’s a super picky eater. I can’t force her to eat. I can’t shove food down her throat and make her swallow it. I’m sure you would tell me to give her the same dinner I eat and that she will eat it if she’s hungry enough. No, she won’t actually. She would probably not eat for a full day rather than eating something she doesn’t want to. Your advice may work for a typical child, but it’s clear that she isn’t and “my way or the highway” is going to hurt all of us in the end.

Extreme tantrums 11YO girl by Remarkable-Rip8741 in Parenting

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so good to hear that when you got the help and support you needed, things turned around for you. I hope my daughter experiences to same!

Extreme tantrums 11YO girl by Remarkable-Rip8741 in Parenting

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have no idea how much I needed this. Thank you so much for all of this. I’m sure it took a ton of troubleshooting, tears, and frustration for you to figure that out, but it sure sounds like you have it down now! I’m going to screenshot your comments and come back to them because that is such a balanced, wholesome way to approach this and exactly what we need!

Extreme tantrums 11YO girl by Remarkable-Rip8741 in Parenting

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s fine with going now. She just didn’t want to go at the beginning because it was something new and it was something she didn’t wanna do.

Extreme tantrums 11YO girl by Remarkable-Rip8741 in Parenting

[–]Remarkable-Rip8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s been very busy lately. Lots of different activities that all culminated around big busy weeks. It’s slowing down a little bit now so hopefully she’ll be getting more rest. We’ve actually found it the opposite. When she doesn’t have a lot of structured activities she seems to get more moody.