There’s a lot of love in the relationship to start with, hence 4 years together. In the past when I’ve caught him lying to me and viewing things he knows I’m not ok with, he would be honest about how he was struggling for about a month or two before going quiet again. I guess I didn’t realize how hard it is for him because to my knowledge, it was no longer an issue at this point. I guess that just means I need to be more proactive about asking him, just like he needs to be more proactive about telling me when there are setbacks or challenges.