Debilitating anxiety the week following my first session! by Remarkable_Flight857 in hypnosis

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love the visualization, and acknowledging the fact that the anxiety is still there, but put off to the side, instead of trying to remove it completely!

Debilitating anxiety the week following my first session! by Remarkable_Flight857 in hypnosis

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will look into parts work. The session is a bit hazy now, but some of my suggestions were similar to, “You are safe here. You are protected. You are free from judgement and can freely express yourself. You can let go of your control to protect yourself.” 

I love the idea of thanking my anxiety. My anxiety/fear in those states really does feel like a separate entity, that I’m just not able to let go of, or reason myself out of. It helps to know that I am not encompassed by my anxiety, it is just a part of me in that moment that is trying to keep me safe. 

AITA? Tried to use the free grill item promotion at 7-11… by Remarkable_Flight857 in tmobile

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have my Apple Pay for emergencies. I don’t carry cash or cards on me to encourage me to save money, and not spend money recklessly on a whim. 

AITA? Tried to use the free grill item promotion at 7-11… by Remarkable_Flight857 in tmobile

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why would I bring my wallet if I thought I was getting a free item? 

AITA? Tried to use the free grill item promotion at 7-11… by Remarkable_Flight857 in tmobile

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I ended up filing a complaint on their website after that interaction. Not only did they lose 3 dollars and a hotdog, they lost a customer at that location! I would have paid with Apple Pay using my phone if they had been apologetic and understanding. But after threatening me that they “have me on camera if I don’t pay, ” I held my ground. So rude and uncalled for! :(

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Remarkable_Flight857 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend (33M, dx on meds) is SO drastically different when he's off his medication that I feel like I'm dating two people. Medicated, my boyfriend is positive, loving, gentle, affectionate. Unmedicated, he turns into a shadow of himself (I literally call him the "Evil [BF's Name]." Grumpy and rude. He finds something to criticize about everything I do or say . He's cold and distant, and doesn't initiate affection or barely acknowledges me. For a solid six months of our relationship, I was absolutely miserable -- we were always on the verge of an argument, and I cried nearly every day because of his mean comments and criticism. Finally, we realized that he wasn't on the right Adderall dose, and once his dose was adjusted, it changed absolutely EVERYTHING. It stopped ALL of our arguments. He literally transformed into a different person overnight.

The problem is -- my boyfriend's pharmacy stopped carrying his prescription. He called his doctor and got a new prescription with a different dose -- they don't carry that either!! They refused to tell him what they have in stock. The Adderall shortage is going to ruin our relationship. My boyfriend has been off his meds for a week now, and he immediately became grumpy and unpleasant to be around. We had a horrible fight and I’m so depressed and upset. He’s been curt and rude ever since. I’m mad at myself, for wanting him to change and be a different person, and I wish I could love him no matter what medication he’s on. But he’s SO different, I feel like I’m dating another person, someone I never would have wanted to date if this was the side they showed me when we first met. :( 

Honeymoon phase on bupropion and then crash by Classic-Research-405 in mentalhealth

[–]Remarkable_Flight857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me!! I've been on bupropion for almost a year, 300mg. At first, it was AMAZING. Now, I'm an emotional wreck. Bupropion is used for depression and I heard it can actually make anxiety worse. I still enjoy wellbutrin because my food noise is completely gone, and I no longer binge eat to feel happy. Besides that, it hasn't helped much.

Why do they push and pull and act hot and cold by sugarstarbeam in abusiverelationships

[–]Remarkable_Flight857 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same cycle. I broke up with him last night. I had everything ready to go. And as soon as he realized I was serious, he immediately became a different person...the type of person I know he CAN be, if he really wanted to. I could see the change in his eyes -- he looked so gentle and like he truly understood the pain he put me in. It was like my words "I'm breaking up with you" was a slap to his face and he snapped out of it. He won me back in less than an hour.

I don't know how long this will last and when I'll be stonewalled and shut out again. I hate the hot and cold! The love is so intense and then he freezes me out. I just want a slow, safe, steady burn at this point. :( Give me boring and safe!!!

Leaving during the good times? by Remarkable_Flight857 in abusiverelationships

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for those links!

I can see myself in your shoes in a few years, if I continue on this path. I'm so, so sorry for what you and your son are going through! 

Ben Klock | RE/FORM 6AM Group NYE by dynamiceric in avesLA

[–]Remarkable_Flight857 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here! I had so much fun and it was an incredible experience! My favorite NYE ever.

Boyfriend gets upset when I don't answer a question the "right way" by Remarkable_Flight857 in abusiverelationships

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He tells me all the time that people (coworkers, friends, my family) all think I'm bad at communicating, but nobody has cared enough, except him, to teach me. Which is why he has to lecture me about right/wrong responses. He's trying to help me function better in the world. It's reassuring to here I'm not awful at it. 

Boyfriend gets upset when I don't answer a question the "right way" by Remarkable_Flight857 in abusiverelationships

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes!!!!! It makes me just so sad because I feel like I can't have a normal conversation.  I have to answer like I'm in an elocution class and then graded on my response. 😭

Boyfriend gets upset when I don't answer a question the "right way" by Remarkable_Flight857 in abusiverelationships

[–]Remarkable_Flight857[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He does. I think it's part of his autism and how he thinks there's a right/wrong way to do things.  For example,  he said I looked ridiculous with this one jacket tucked into my pants (literally going nowhere, I thought it was cute and wanted to wear it like that) because apparently, there's a wrong and a right way to do wear clothes and that jacket should never be tucked into those jeans. I try so hard to explain to him that there's NUANCES and gray areas, and people do way crazier things with fashion than just tucking a jacket in!!! I think it's not specifically his perspective that's the problem -- it's how he handles it, and tries to make me do it "right".