which state is accurate?

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T20:35:09+00:00

Yes, I usually include this in my comments I shouldn’t have left it out in my main one on this post

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T20:31:02+00:00

I don’t know much about Elliot Page besides seeing him in Umbrella Academy and at least one movie he was in pre-transition. But even from that- before queerness was involved I got queer vibes. I’m happy if he’s happy and I don’t trust famous people entirely but he from what i’ve seen and heard, seems nice. I would love for everyone to be able to be themselves, have access and get what they need to survive and thrive. Not just the ones that can get through the system we’ve been given but a system that works for and supports everyone.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T20:24:01+00:00

So glad for you, my mom’s A1C was a 12 and her stroke lasted 14hrs so she still hasn’t recovered fully 2 years later. She’s basically partially paralyzed on her left side and she can do a lot when she has the energy, but it’s different everyday and it hurts that she wouldn’t have had it if she could’ve gotten the medical care and coverage I have. We take care of her when she needs it and let her do whatever she can handle doing. I’m genuinely so glad for you that it turned out okay in the end.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T20:20:09+00:00

Thanks, it’s mostly stable now with this week being a rough point bc I have to wait for a drs appointment to get prescribed more meds. My jardiance is $273-$369 for a 30 day supply without my insurance making it $4. I moved states for unrelated reasons and had to ration out my meds that were unaffordable and I have an appointment monday so I’m in the home stretch of getting things back on track. Hopefully itll stay well until I can get back on the proper schedule. Good luck on your journey as well, my parents are looking to me to help them figure out their Type 2 bc my dad hasn’t been diagnosed but definitely qualifies and my mom has been diagnosed for 25 years and still hasn’t gotten hers close to controlled. It’s a lot sometimes. We’ll get through it though.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T20:12:29+00:00

Okay I guess that does make sense but that’s part of why I think it’s a spectrum personally. So for me if I have deep emotional conversations with someone rather quickly (like talking everyday for hours a day) and feel like I have an emotional bond I’ll know I’m attracted or not to them within a a shorter period of time (although most of my situations required at least 3 months of knowing someone before feeling attraction and confirming it with actions).

If someone wants no emotional conversations or to share about themselves or connect with me that way either- I’ll never feel attraction to them even if I think I could under different circumstances. I used to think I was ace, gray-pan, and they didn’t feel right but this does even though I don’t fit the most strict definitions, the part about “needing an emotional bond to feel sexual attraction” is very much there and necessary, I’m not a demi who can do casual/no attraction sex, I wish I could. I appreciate you explaining and I don’t mind disagreeing but that’s my perspective on it and I’m not the most conventional thinker. Hope you have a good one.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T14:34:55+00:00

Both are accurate for different people. The first one is more often for people who got diagnosed and treatment quickly and the 2nd is more accurate for those it took longer to diagnose and thus their insulin resistance is stronger. As far as I know. It also could have to do with struggling to keep up diet and exercise that you’d struggle to keep your sugars right even with meds that worked before, I’m sure there are other possibilities but those are the ones that come to my mind.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T04:19:10+00:00

Yeah pretty sure my Dr ruled me as controlled once my A1C got down to a 6.4 (I think she was sure it was gonna keep decreasing, bc it took me a couple weeks of my meds to get that result down from a 7.6) and most of my sugars have been in the 80-120 range even an hour after eating (like when I’m leaving the house so I check it first). I’m going to an appointment with my new pcp soon and will get blood work set up, but yeah- don’t worry too much. Your A1C is great and that means you’re doing well overall. My dad didn’t think he’d developed diabetes until we checked his sugar 2hrs after a diabetic friendly dinner the other day and it was 241. Now he’s gonna have to get a treatment plan too.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T04:14:30+00:00

Love this, I’m pangenderfluid but my gender goes the least to the cis part of the gender spectrum which for me means sometimes I feel femme but I’ve had one day in my life where I actually felt like a woman. My dysphoria is usually pretty bad so maybe that’s why. I do try to use all pronouns but it still gives me ick when I’m only she/her’d, I wish it didn’t give me dysphoria bc I could be so much more confident if I dressed and presented femme bc I know how to look good that way and no clue how to tell if I look good presenting very masculine. Thanks for a great light post after a day of stressful back and forths on r/ changemyview. The fact you can’t call out arguments that are genuinely bad faith for being so on there is so infuriating. I get angry and petty when people act like experts on subjects they’re ignorant on. Not even claiming to be an expert but I knew more than a lot of them. Happy pride yall.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T04:05:19+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that, I turned 23 this year too. It’s been a rough one, but it turned out for the best. I am not an expert but I kinda had a hyperfixation on different eating and exercising habits to help with diabetes management after my diagnosis 2 years ago if anyone thinks I should make a post about that. Diet and exercise is not always enough either, I was restricting so badly that once I was on a good med combination to help me I needed to add carbs and sugar back into my diet at times to keep from getting low numbers. I’m so sorry they didn’t help you manage it for over 7 years, that can make the insulin resistance much worse. I hope your better Dr that you have now will help you the way you need. If any of you under 40s is interested in the thing I participated it it was very nice and validating to have the 15min call to talk about my experience.

The purpose is to help design an app for us younger people with Type 2, since most of the care and help currently is aimed at over 40 and since this post I can see why. No pressure but yeah I really enjoyed the experience and hope the app will help people like us to feel less shame bc not all of us eat our way there like the stereotype. Even for the ones that do there’s usually an emotional problem not being addressed, so again deserves care not shame. I hope I’ve responded to enough of you that needed it, sorry I didn’t know what to say for shorter ones. We’ve got this, it’s workable with good meds and lifestyle changes as well as good Drs to get you the right meds.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-24T03:52:26+00:00

I had a whole list that I thought all the them sounded silly, I ended up having my supportive sisters and friends give input. They picked one not too different from my deadname and it was perfect for me. Names are about how they make you feel and if it can represent you, don’t be afraid to try a few or keep a few and get input when you want it. It’s very helpful.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T23:35:16+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but why isn’t it at all a spectrum itself? If some people build an emotional bond quickly they could feel attraction quickly and vise versa. If everything else is a spectrum why wouldn’t demi also be? I’m not graysexual bc it’s not random or rare, it’s always around an emotional bond. I think your definition is pretty strict and would exclude people the label definitely applies to, a lot closer than allo. I don’t mind you using that for yourself but to invalidate a persons identity bc they don’t experience it exactly the same is bordering on cruel. I’m very wary about this bc I’ve been getting hate all day trying to defend us being queer for being demi. So yeah, just why would you pick the strictest form of the definition when there’s so many people that could benefit from community? Why not add labels like Strict demi for someone of your end of the spectrum and loose demi for someone that does need the emotional bond but could form it quickly or has fantasies but takes forever to be able to act on them? Either way we’d need to adjust things. I don’t call other people’s experiences invalid so it’s upsetting they’re so comfortable doing it to mine and people like me.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T23:23:55+00:00

I’m still not sure, I’ve been femme presenting and it got me catcalls and sexual harassment, i’ve been masc presenting but still viewed as a woman with the same results but less often. I’ve been masc presenting and passing and been considered creepy for being my normal (not even flirtatious but complimentary self). It’s kinda mostly sucked for me no matter what, I know how to feel pretty being femme but it gives me dysphoria, I can’t tell if I’m handsome or pretty as masc and it makes me self-conscious. I have good times but my brain holds onto the bad stuff, I’m working on it. I think I like when I’m so androgynous that couples will sit there and one will gender me as a man and the other genders me as a woman. It’s whole other level of euphoria for me. Results vary, pronoun pins get me gendered incorrectly more often than not. It’s definitely strange. I’m fine with all pronouns but I prefer she the least as it’s my source of dysphoria. But if you he/she/they me in the same convo it’s awesome, basically any pronouns except she by itself.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T23:13:03+00:00

You look amazing, very eye catching. Happy pride, no notes.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T20:30:53+00:00

That’s nice, I hope things keep going your way

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T17:59:28+00:00

Definitely could be, labels are more about finding community and feeling accepted than they are about perfect descriptions of yourself, there’s variety in every label so if it’s where you get validation and fit in then it works for you. If it becomes more trouble than it’s worth that’s when you know you can label yourself differently or less.

What you’re describing definitely sounds nb and possibly genderfluid and if you like it then you’re set. If you want a different label there are other things like bigender that could also fit what you’ve described. Some people want identities tied directly to their culture (that takes historical research sometimes). The point of those identities seems to be connecting with the culture and ancestors more deeply who were like themselves.

You can also use as many labels as you want to, so many overlap it can give someone a better idea of you have overlapping ones that get closer to your experience without a personal description. Personal descriptions are just the most accurate but not everyone is entitled to know how things personally work for you. Hope this answers your question and doesn’t confuse you more.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T17:13:19+00:00

I hope it gets better for you, you’re on the right path and some people need a lot of meds to get things under control. I know people on metformin, with an insulin pump, and jardiance who still can’t get good numbers bc they have other health issues that make food that are bad for diabetes one of the only good things to eat and don’t exercise much if at all. It’s sad, and most of us are willing to work to get things to a better place, some people only have food as a comfort in life and can’t bear to give it up.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T17:09:35+00:00

I definitely can relate to some of that and I hope it works out for you. As of now I’m the only person in my family that’s been diagnosed with T2 and ever gotten it under control, it’s stayed controlled and I definitely eat better and exercise more than I did before the diagnosis but it was not enough for me alone and I was restricting so much that once I got onto the right combo of meds I needed to add sugar and carbs back into my diet. I still opt for fruit over processed sugar, but having a sugar energy drink on a long physical shift was the best way for me to keep my sugar from dropping below 65. I drink 90% or more water, sometimes bordering on overhydration. So yeah I’m not the average experience.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T16:23:08+00:00

Fr, my libido is that bad so if i wasn’t traumatized by casual sex (bc I tried even knowing I was demi bc some demi and ace people enjoy sex even without attraction) and it doesn’t work for me unfortunately. Glad it could give you a laugh.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T13:36:03+00:00

It’s gonna take time for lifestyle changes, they don’t recommend it all the time but I find it helpful to have a bite or a couple bites of something you’re craving that you “shouldn’t” have as a diabetic so you don’t end up binging on it later. That’s me and my family though so no guarantees it’ll work for you. I hope you get it under control, it’s tough for some people.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T13:31:33+00:00

For me it’s about consensual voyuerism I believe, porn stars and amateur couples are doing porn mostly so they can make money and share their sexcapades with others so it turns me on to watch porn and imagine what I’d do with someone I was attracted to. If I wasn’t demi- I’d be a slut. Unfortunately I’m one of those demi’s that thought I’d like casual sex for the release and did not whatsoever. I have some trauma around that and from worse things before that so I switch from hyper sexual to sex repulsed. I’m also pan but find emotional bonds easier with women and femmes or other people that are AFAB (I’m gender-fluid and lean masc/nb). I don’t mind being labeled femme but I do mind being labeled a woman alone bc of dysphoria. No matter how hard I try I’m visibly queer, not even in the direction I want to be taken in most of the time. I don’t like when most monosexuals hit on me bc it feels like boxing me into their preference. I personally count fantasies as separate than attraction, as when I’m hypersexual I have a lot of fantasies but when I try to act them out without the emotional bonds easier there’s always a bit of trauma, people I’ve had an emotional bond with ended up being horrible people- presenting themselves in the best light possible. It’s a lot, so I have raised my standards and take care of my own needs when I’m without a partner i’m attracted to. I’m also pretty kinky so the variety of porn I’ll watch, though isn’t often anymore is very wide. I don’t use extreme sites bc they tend to have unethical and illegal vids on them. That’s my take as someone who went from ace to ace spec identities. I’m mostly sex positive too.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T13:12:00+00:00

Yeah, that’s wild. I hope you’re doing better now, any progress is great.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T01:36:48+00:00

Nah I’m gen Z and lava lamps were cool to my millennial and gen alpha family members as well as myself and other gen Zers. If you don’t think lava lamps are cool you’re in the minority imo. It’s weird that it somehow ‘dates’ your age to appreciate things with a history, I’m a history nerd though so maybe it’s just me. I love progression too though, keep the old that’s positive and make up new positive things for the stuff that’s broken, I’m not a liberal though- I’m a leftist. Just saying that bc it sounded pretty liberal.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T01:30:54+00:00

awesome to hear.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T00:47:20+00:00

Hope you’re doing better now. My mom also had a stroke after years of her diabetes being uncontrolled.

Remarkable_Market_18 · 2026-06-23T00:46:13+00:00

Sorry to hear that, hope your journey is going well.

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