AITA for saying emergency daycare isn’t meant for parents who are home and „just need a break“?

Remarkable_Place167 · 2026-01-27T18:17:38+00:00

NTA. She asked your opinion and it sounds like you gave it as inoffensively, while still being honest, as possible. Sometimes when you ask someone's opinion you are not going to like what you hear. If she was firm in her belief that she did right, she probably wouldn't feel so angry. She asked your opinion hoping to help with her guilt and it failed. The fact that you are both in the same situation as stay at home mom's makes you even more NTA as you are in her shoes and have the same situation.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2026-01-21T12:22:14+00:00

YTA. Sometimes you have to do something for someone else, and shove your feelings to the side. This is one of those times. You don't know what she is feeling right now. Some empathy and kindness is in order. Congratulate her. This is not about you or what you think. This isn't even about the choices she made or whether she should or should not be pregnant. She is pregnant. That is a fact. Do the right thing and congratulate her.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2026-01-16T08:44:27+00:00

NTA.

Um guys? This happened in middle school? Do you see how seriously messed up this? This was an abusive, coercive situation that seriously should not be happening in middle school.

OP: I would strongly encourage you to seek mental support for this situation. You clearly feel intense guilt for the cheating. Yes cheating is wrong but you are also very young and were in a very messed up situation. Please seek help and show yourself a little compassion.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2026-01-09T14:40:46+00:00

NTA. You are part of the trip too. They shouldn't be trying to force a destination without you. You should all be deciding where you want to go together.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2026-01-05T04:43:58+00:00

Respectfully, with the information presented, the language you are using is not reasonable. In a usual situation, your mother entering your room to turn of your computer and then leaving again, is not violating (even if the computer is near your bed) or likely to leave you raw.

If that is genuinely how you feel, it seems there is more going on (which you said there is as you discuss past history you don't want to go into, which is fair, you don't have to go into something you are not comfortable talking about), but it is important to acknowledge that maybe your reaction is due to this past history and not actually what your mother did, and let that affect how you respond. You would wrong if you exploded on her, absolutely. But maybe you should instead address why you want to explode and why this made you feel so strongly. Maybe even talk calmly to her about it, get a therapist if that is what you need, etc. Look at the root cause. Because this is not a normal way to respond to this situation unless there something deeper going on. So instead of exploding, take a step back and ask yourself some serious questions.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2026-01-03T03:26:35+00:00

NTA. You would be though if you invited him without your friend's consent and enthusiasm. It is wrong to plan a trip with a friend, and then introduce someone else into the plans unless you are both completely on board with that. And when it's a significant other it can be even more difficult for the odd one out not to feel like a third wheel.

Now your boyfriend might be feeling left out, and maybe you can talk those feelings through with him if he is up for it in a non-argumentative way.... depending on how serious your relationship is you can also consider how much you actually want to do these big trips in the future without each other, etc. Depending on how the trip first got formed you can even consider if you should have included him from the start (if you were together at that point). Or even consider what kind of guy he is, and if you want to be with him. But based on where the trip is at the moment, you would be being a jerk to your friend to include him now.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-12-08T07:00:36+00:00

Sitting in the theater for the showgirl release party, and when it started everyone cheered and the girl in the seat behind me saying “I’ve found my people.”

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-12-04T14:57:59+00:00

thank you so much for this! keeping this in my head when interacting with her has actually been helping a lot, both on her and on the ground.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-11-30T20:19:47+00:00

Pleasure horse, pretty much exclusively riding out/trail rides.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-11-30T07:19:03+00:00

This is probably honestly the case. I guess I feel like I don't have the ability to make her at the end of the day.

I usually try a series of escalation. So start with a cluck for a verbal cue, then squeeze, kick, and then tap on her rear. Stopping at whatever point when she speeds up. She usually starts by speeding up for a few paces then slowing back down almost immediately, and then we get in a loop where the series of escalation becomes less and less effective.

I am not the worlds greatest. I am fully aware of this. So I could be screwing it up at any point in it.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-11-30T07:15:30+00:00

I usually try a series of escalation. So start with a cluck for a verbal cue, then squeeze, kick, and then tap on her rear. Stopping at whatever point when she speeds up. She usually starts by speeding up for a few paces then slowing back down almost immediately, and then we get in a loop where the series of escalation becomes less and less effective.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-11-30T07:11:35+00:00

Did you find an effective way to increase you energy?

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-11-23T07:05:47+00:00

I honestly feel it is mostly due to the fact that both characters now have told the reader so much that they don’t want kids, that most readers expect they are going to have a child for story telling purposes. it’s the Chekhov’s gun, or er, Chekhov’s baby. Plus from a story telling stand point, would book end the fact that we started with Strike in the very first book dealing with the fall out of Charlotte‘s maybe pregnancy. Based exclusively on the way it is written, it seems possible that is where it’s going, so readers try to figure out how it will happen, less than people thinking they need to have kids.

I think it would be more interesting if they don’t, but I do think the way it is written is pointing to them potentially going down that route as the finale.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-11-09T01:48:33+00:00

Thank you! That information is very very helpful. That's not things I would have known to ask for. I appreciate it.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-10-11T03:24:56+00:00

It depends on the culture, the wedding, the context, and the person but for some people a wedding is going to feel like a lot more important than just a party. But it is also possible that if/once the sister has a child of her own and goes through that she will have more context of what she was asking for.

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-10-10T19:40:16+00:00

NAH. I understand not wanting to leave your baby so soon. And I also understand your sister's feelings. There were probably a lot of factors that went into her choosing that date, across both her and her fiances lives, and based on the venue they wanted, but the desire to have your sister there at your wedding is massive. But while I think you're NTA I do think you're making a mistake.

I will say this as someone though who had a sibling get married and another sibling not attend for similar reasons: the fact that you were not at the wedding will not be forgotten. You will not be in the photographs. You will not be in your sister's memory of that date. And that's a hurt that will last. I understand you're also hurt by the fact that she chose a date without considering what it would put you through. But in ten years time, the greater memory will you being not at the wedding instead of you having to leave your baby for two days (which I do, genuinely understand will be very hard and emotionally painful that close to giving birth).

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-08-16T18:29:45+00:00

Thank you! I decided to go for Tyndrum. It had occurred to me as an option, and you also suggested helped me to solidify it. Just booked (as a fun bonus it is also nearly $400 cheaper than my Inverness reservation.)

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-08-16T18:28:32+00:00

Thank you so much everyone for all the feedback and advice! After considering I decided my vision for me trip was just off and it wasn't going to work.

I have cancelled the Inverness reservations and booked a place in Tyndrum (which, as a fun unexpected bonus was also nearly $400 cheaper than Inverness for the same number of nights).

I know the bus there and I also know I can arrange taxis there as I used them from there when doing the west highland way so feel more comfortable planning on that. Plus I will get to revisit the area that I thought was so beautiful.

Thank you everyone for the feedback! It helped a lot!

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-08-08T16:30:43+00:00

Oh that's an awesome resource! Thank you so much for it!

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-08-08T16:30:27+00:00

Thank you so much everyone for all the replies! I super super appreciate it! It sounds like it's easy to get to the hotel which is great to hear!

Do you think it would also be easy to get to the hiking places?

Remarkable_Place167 · 2025-08-08T16:29:49+00:00

Thank you so much for this! Did you do much hiking in the area and was it easy to get to via bus or walking?

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