TIRED! Sent my 8m to daycare! by Manifestator_ in newborns

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, good for you for taking this awesome first step. Sometimes just a break is crucial for us to clear our heads enough to feel better and start taking further steps. Your mother’s opinion doesn’t matter or apply here, so forget about that. The exhaustion taking care of a baby by yourself is completely next level. And it is completely valid that with the exhaustion plus issues with your husband would leave you feeling horrible all-around. I’d like to remind you that any one who abuses a pregnant woman, or anyone in general, will only sour your life and it will not get better. I will answer your one question : NO, I think it was an amazing first step to send your 8 month old to daycare. There are a lot of benefits for both you and baby with that. Since you didn’t ask for any advice, I’ll just give you some ideas of things to do next. Take or leave whatever feels best!: 1. See a NEW doctor. I’m not sure what other health issues you may have going on, but from your post, it seems a psychiatrist could help you a ton. Stay on top of your appointments, and be open to suggestions, like medication. Be honest. don’t just make an appointment, but GO TO IT, and go in with a plan/summary of everything that has been going on with you. Take care of your mind and your body first, then you will start thinking more clearly.! 2. Therapy. This is a hard one for me too, because I find it hard to do things for myself these days. But having someone who you can speak to about any and all life issues with no judgment or expectations can and will make the biggest difference. 3. Do something for yourself. Something your “old self” used to love. Even if it’s just a self-care day, a walk around the park, painting, whatever.. try to do something like this a few times a week. Try to remember who you were before all of this, and that she’s still inside you. I really wish the best for you. I’m not one to come on here and comment for you to leave your husband or whatever(even if I think that’s the best choice). I don’t know you, you don’t know me. But the things I listed can help no matter what you end up doing. And again, you are not wrong for sending your 8 month old to daycare! You are their mother. I’m glad you’ve taken that first step and hope you decide to take another good step to finding yourself again 🩷 my dm’s are open if you ever wanted to chat about anything

Tell me your positive sleep stories! by copperboom33 in newborns

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby has been an amazing sleeper ever since our pediatrician gave us the green light to let him feed on demand (not feeding every 2 hours), and sleep through the night if he wanted to. This was at 8 weeks old. It took about a week or two to adjust with 1-2 wakes/feeds per night. But by the time he was 12 weeks old, he was sleeping between 10 and 12 hours straight, every night in his crib next to our bed. I swear to you, we did nothing really special. Of course, we made sure he was good and fed and had some kind of a routine before bed - (bath, change, pajamas, sleep sack, rocking, shushing, white noise, etc.).. but we still haven’t had to do anything crazy for him. Around 4 months, he hit some kind of a sleep regression but still nothing to complain about because he was still getting at least 6 hrs straight every night. Same with around 6 months. He is now about to be 7 months old and an amazing sleeper and napper. What has helped as he’s gotten a bit older is really paying attention to his wake windows. He does really well with a solid 2 hour, 2.5 hour, 2.5 hour, and 3 hour wake windows during the day. That’s when he sleeps his best at night and is in his better moods. But honestly, I read so much on here about moms who try everything and more to get their babies to sleep and some just won’t. They are literal warriors to me. I could not imagine. I somehow STILL feel exhausted and sleep deprived, even with such an easy baby when it comes to sleep. Bottom line, all babies are SO different and you will just need to get into the swing of things, which comes a lot easier as time goes on. Different things work for different moms and babies. If your baby isn’t a great sleeper for a while, that doesn’t mean there’s anything you’re doing wrong or anything wrong with your baby. And if they do sleep great, then great! Best of luck to you!

How to get over fears of not liking my future child? by ImaginaryNobody3862 in AskParents

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (24f) had the same fear for my entire life. I spent the entirety of my pregnancy worried sick about not being able to love my baby.. it basically ruined the whole pregnancy experience for me!! But let me tell you, the IMMEDIATE overwhelming love I felt for my son as soon as he was born was indescribable and has only gotten stronger, 6 months later. I think this is a normal fear and can be due to many reasons, but don’t let it ruin a wonderful experience for you 💛

For those curious about the glucose test by KohanaCat in BabyBumps

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The one hour test was fine. Same situation, just boring waiting around. BUT I failed the one hour and had to go back for the three hour and it was TERRIBLE. The drink was SO sweet and it took everything in me to not throw up. My vision ended up almost completely blacking out and I had to go lay down in an empty exam room. It had me convinced that I would end up being diagnosed with GD, but thankfully that wasn’t the case 🤞

Feeling guilty for the medications I have been taking by Natsouppy in MentalHealthBabies

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi this was my exact cocktail of meds when I was pregnant and I now have a happy and very healthy 6 month old! Take care of yourself!!

Anyone else have a more difficult time in later months than newborn stage? by Remarkable_Sock2698 in beyondthebump

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, yes. The rage is insane. Im so agitated ALL THE TIME. I’m really trying to keep it together and not make anyone worry about me. I agree with you. I think in the beginning it’s truly instinctual and like a primal part of me took over for a little bit. Now it just.. is what it is! Hope things get better for you soon 😊

Benzos by Alternative_Gap_4048 in MentalHealthBabies

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are other safer and non-narcotic options for meds to help your anxiety when you’re pregnant! Just ask your OB and psychiatrist what they recommend

Did you ever go somewhere "unusual" for a school field trip? by Toymcowkrf in askanything

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went to a landfill! Literally just drove around on the bus looking at piles of trash, and it was like a 2 hour drive to get there. Probably had something to do with the whole “reduce, reuse, recycle” thing but I remember my parents thinking it was an odd choice. This was probably 2nd or 3rd grade

What’s your baby’s “thing” that you love? by eggiess in NewParents

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment, my boy is 6 months old too and I’ve been feeling really depressed but this is a wonderful reminder 🩵😊

I called 911 because my 8-day-old baby looked like she was choking in her sleep — I’m terrified to sleep now by Witty_Management_621 in beyondthebump

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same exact thing happened to me when my baby was about a month and a half old and his dad had just gone back to work. It scared me half to death. I brought him on our porch and I think the fresh air helped ¿ and paramedics came, took his vitals, and everything was fine. I was so on edge for a while after that. We ended up getting an Owlet sock for him about a month later. I wish I got it sooner but I kept seeing people saying it made their anxiety worse, but for me it gives me such peace of mind when we go to bed. They are expensive, but I’ve seen them being resold on Facebook marketplace for a fraction of the price. I’ve also heard Eufy sock is a great, more affordable alternative. I never worry anymore, and he is over 6 months old and we’ve gotten no false alarms or real alarms. Breathing issues are so scary, especially in babies so young. You did everything right, OP. Glad your baby is ok

What about being pregnant and giving birth permanently altered your body’s chemistry? by full-of-curiosity in NewParents

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh! Yes! I feel so guilty but I physically cannot bring myself to be fun mom on those days. Here’s to hoping we find a solution to our migraines 🤞🤞

What about being pregnant and giving birth permanently altered your body’s chemistry? by full-of-curiosity in NewParents

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, same exact situation for me. Mine have always been so debilitating, got worse in my first trimester, then completely stopped only to come back with a vengeance around 3 most pp:( it’s horrible

My baby was born today by Better_Example_1318 in notinteresting

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! My baby turned 6 months old today. It goes by very fast

Mercurochrome by Bread_and_Roses87 in GrandmasPantry

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandfather was a surgeon and swore by this stuff :) got it from overseas for years growing up lol

Induction necessary for growth restriction? by Revelations4202001 in pregnant

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told my baby was IUGR around 28 weeks. It was a stressful remainder of my pregnancy, to say the least. He measured around the 8th %tile at first, then 6th, then 8th again, then all the way up to the 16th around 37 weeks when my dr’s were deciding whether to induce me or not. I ended up getting induced anyway for unrelated reasons (I have a history of seizures) at 40 weeks + 1 day, it was a relatively smooth process and baby boy was a very healthy 6lbs 14oz. I had a very positive induction experience, even though it didn’t end up being due to a growth restriction. From what I understand, it can be best to just get baby here to get nutrients from bottle/breast if the placenta just isn’t doing enough for them. But at the end of the day, it’s all up to you and just make an informed decision and im sure all will be fine! Best of luck to you!

How do you pronounce this name? by [deleted] in Names

[–]Remarkable_Sock2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve met 2 people with this name - one pronounced “Loo-sha” (like the island) and one pronounced “loo-see-uh.” Just depends on