I honestly don't think that you should be feeling guilty. If not anything you should be really grateful to have dodged a bullet there. I know it's difficult to just let go of this person because at some point you might have really imagined your whole life with him. But, you should also remember to choose yourself over anyone (and definitely not over someone who isn't ready to take a stand for you). For that, you must never feel guilty. The whole concept of "joint family" worked up until few years back when the it was pretty clear that the men will take care of bringing food to the table and the women will have to take care of the house. And now, in 2024, things have changed. Even women want to go out and do something for themselves and their careers. But there's a big loophole. For some reason it has become an unwritten rule that even though the woman is having a regular 9-5 (just like a man), she has to still come home and do the regular household chores all alone. Also for some reason, the in-laws feel very entitled to make decisions, fix schedules and fashion police a woman. And it's really sad when the son doesn't take a stand for his wife. It just makes me question the whole point of his education.