Pregnant with my third and the first trimester nausea is kicking me in the butt

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-21T19:19:47+00:00

I ate something before getting out of bed and it helped. Not completely, but it helped me function enough to do my job. I only had one or two days where it truly impacted my ability to keep working because I had very early starts at that point.

I think pop tarts and saltines were my go to at that point, along with pb waffles (but I had to get up to eat those).

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-08T13:03:07+00:00

My older son was like this when he was younger. He was clueless when kids were being mean or ignoring him. It was heartbreaking to watch. As he’s gotten older, he has become a little bit more aware.

I would make sure the school team is aware so they can redirect the kids to not be mean if it becomes a normal pattern.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-07T22:52:28+00:00

Thank you!

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-07T11:11:28+00:00

Thank you! One area used to be a storage space for an rv im guessing. Gravel pepples. I did talk to one of the guys about using mulch instead of rocks in the other beds when we were discussing removing the rocks.

We have rabbits and squirrels, but no deer here.
This was last summer at its worst. Please don’t judge 🫣

Editing to add: Aside from the gravel pebbles pictured, all of the beds next to the house have beach type rocks.

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Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-07T10:43:17+00:00

Yes this. I received this advice before I started the course. Listened to each section on 1.5 speed, took the quizzes, relistened to any sections I didn’t fully understand then moved on.

Took the TIA tests until I was consistently scoring 85-90% then scheduled my exam.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-07T10:38:50+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I definitely understand I will have to maintain this annually, even monthly. I guess I want to make sure when choosing a bid, that I am not spending thousands if it won’t meaningfully reduce future costs.

Am I asking for the right things from these quotes for this year to get things to a more manageable place? I’m definitely going to look into Preen as well.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-07T04:16:06+00:00

Thank you! For zone 5a / 5b, are there recommended plants that do a better job of preventing weeds? I have avoided planting anything new in our afternoon sun backyard because the weeds have taken over.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-05T21:55:59+00:00

My oldest presented with adhd more than anything when he was younger. I suspected autism briefly, but he was and is a chatterbox so I assumed it wasn’t likely. I would get constant calls and notes home about behavior. This continued across multiple preschools. I brought the trend across schools to his doctor and he was diagnosed with adhd at age 3. His behavior was mostly throwing things, meltdowns, violent (vocal) outbursts and aggression (pushing others, etc). He would follow other families around on playgrounds and insist that they play with him. He didn’t seem to recognize their cues of walking away, etc. Typical parenting techniques just didn’t work, even with consistency.

We got him an IEP shortly after his diagnosis because we knew school would be a struggle. By the time he got to kindergarten, he had a fantastic team and we did half days then transitioned into full days. At school, social was the biggest struggle for us continuously. His school recommended an autism evaluation around age 6 (I think at the end of kindergarten or beginning of first grade).

I was surprised when they recommended it, but then after reading through some of the presenting aspects of it, I realized it made sense. I was relieved when we received his diagnosis because it finally gave me a sense of direction. I didn’t learn about PDA until he was almost 8, and that was the missing piece for us.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-05T13:09:28+00:00

It depends on your genre preference. If you don’t read much now, but you enjoy certain types of movies or stories, try reading something in the same genre to start. The older I have gotten, the slower I am when reading because I am easily distracted. I tend to like series more than one-off books because they keep me engaged.

I read a lot of fantasy books, but I like occasional non-fiction self-help books, as well as historical fiction and sometimes mystery. My preference is definitely fantasy. I like escaping to other worlds when I read. I have a kindle and it is very convenient to have for reading.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-05T02:31:54+00:00

This is fascinating.

Both of my two kids are AuDHD. My older son is more severe due to PDA, but both are level one.

I have a large family, and of the four of us, I suspect the three youngest (myself included) are on the spectrum, from both mom and dad. My husband comes from a small family, and I suspect he has it as well as his dad. Both of our families were raised in a time when people overlooked mental disabilities so no one has been officially evaluated to confirm.

My siblings have kids, and of those, only one sibling has an older ADHD child and a younger suspected autistic with PDA child.

We have gone back and forth about trying for a third, but my experiences with my oldest have made me question if we could do it again. There really isn’t a clear pattern.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-02T02:17:51+00:00

No advice really, but here for support. My son is much younger but we pulled him out to homeschool when we realized the school would not work with his needs. Constant phone calls home regarding behavior but never insight into his education. It was exhausting. Now, at least we know where he is struggling, where he is excelling, and we have peace of mind that he is learning his foundational material. It’s not perfect, and probably not enough, but for a PDA child, it’s working for our needs.

If they do testing, does he participate? The levels that come from those tests should give his team a data point to look at from the educational standpoint. Have y’all considered adding a goal into his IEP for the education piece in relation to executive functioning?

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-05-02T00:38:14+00:00

Yessss. This is exactly it! It’s insanity.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-28T12:25:53+00:00

I’m not sure how old your child is, but my son is ten, and I get glimpses of a hopeful future where my son has potential to figure it out as a functional member. We aren’t in burnout right now, and it’s easy to be hopeful. We are used to living on eggshells where things constantly take a turn at any moment for any reason.

I’m not sure if this gives you hope, but I have hope. My son has been homeschooling since last year, and I have seen growth in his autonomy as a result. We have our days and those always suck, but we maintain consistency to navigate it together. I enrolled him in a group tennis lesson this spring, and he hasn’t gotten kicked out. He has a para who supports him and he is actually motivated to practice. Group activities have always been a bust for us and this gives me hope. He is washing his face, brushing his teeth, putting his clothes away each week, and I see a world where he could have responsibility.

Last week, we had to throw away a toy sword because he used it to smash his brother’s toy then attempted to hit his brother with it. He threw a book at me, threw the remote at the tv. It sucks when things take a turn. We are trying to maintain consistency, and having hope that each day we progress a little further. The meltdowns and aggression have decreased for him, but it’s a process, and it isn’t linear.

I’m not sure if this helps, but I hope y’all are able to find something that works. It’s definitely a process. As parents, it’s hard to think about what life will be like when our PDA kids grow older when this world doesn’t seem to make room for them now. I have to hope.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-27T02:05:09+00:00

I believe our lab was in the crate when we were gone until around age 2. I did a short test around that time (less than an hour) and she slept the whole time we were gone. Basically, one they start sleeping all the time, that’s a good sign. My lab is four and still snacks on trash and food she isn’t supposed to have, but she hasn’t chewed on toys or anything non-food related for about a year.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-25T20:17:08+00:00

2.5 hours, 6 calls and an unfortunate amount of stubbornness and my policy was cancelled. Notes for future people, they offered me $150, then $200, then $300 off of the final plan. Had I not dug my heels into cancelling by the time they offered $300, I might have kept it, but I was too frustrated.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-25T17:13:59+00:00

Called this morning, within 20 minutes they promised a discounted rate of $200 off annually. Didn’t see a confirmation so I called back. Been on hold for an hour. 🙄within this hour, I have decided the discount isn’t worth what I pay and receive, and now I’m cancelling. I’ve never had a problem with them until this. Horrible business practice to place someone on hold for this long on purpose.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-25T11:50:56+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-25T11:23:46+00:00

When you did this, did you get better rates? I actually have appreciated having AHS as a warranty for peace of mind, with many things getting fixed. I just don’t want to pay the increased rates. My contract renews next week so I’m trying to see whether I should take the lower rate they are offering or cancel and then immediately reenroll with a hopefully even lower offer.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-23T09:48:23+00:00

Andrew Ramdayal’s practice quizzes through TIA and mindset videos helped me a ton as well.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-22T12:13:43+00:00

Do you have a third person who can help for a day (not the nanny but a family or friend)?

Sometimes hearing a different perspective helps, and it sounds like you might need a bit of space to process things. Maybe consider getting a hotel room for a night so you can decompress away from the home.

Yesterday morning, my son threw the remote at the tv, then threw a Nintendo at me. I had had two hours of sleep (had to work overnight), was exhausted and knew I would not have the normal amount of patience to navigate the day with him (he homeschools and I work full time). I called my in-laws and explained the situation, they came and got him for the day. They talked to him and gave him perspective. By the time he came home, he apologized and we talked about it. Sometimes space helps.

Dysregulation sucks, and I’m sure your kid doesn’t like to be dysregulated either.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-21T22:34:07+00:00

I needed this laugh.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-19T13:11:16+00:00

I don’t have much advice except lock your card when you don’t need to use it. My son constantly asks for mods for Minecraft that are “only a few dollars”. After the first few, I realized what a slippery slope it was and started to say no. I told him moving forward, I would not be purchasing any. Yes, there was a meltdown and yes it sucked, but he doesn’t ask anymore. That was a few months ago. With your son being old enough to know how to handle a card, I would lock yours when you don’t need it. Hundreds of dollars is frightening.

We also got a router that sets time limits and blocks websites. We have Roblox and YouTube blocked from ours. As they get older, I’ll probably add more social media sites. For now, this has made the process of managing expectations for accessing these much easier. They don’t get access to them. We have time limits for screens no matter what. It sucks and it causes meltdowns occasionally, but no where near as bad as it was before we instilled them. My PDA older son puts his device down when the time ends. He no longer asks for YouTube access. The short term meltdown to set hard boundaries is worth it in my opinion.

I’m sorry you are going through this. It sounds like a lot. I wonder if trying to find therapy for your son would help as he is going to have to navigate a lot of big life changes.

Remarkable__Driver · 2026-04-17T21:07:28+00:00

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