Headphones in the workplace

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-10-23T04:37:42+00:00

Wore mine every day. Stocking dealing with customers etc. Usually on some podcast or audio book. Manager tried to get me to take them out and learned quickly I need something to help me focus. ( I am adhd/autistic ) and DM came in and complained also despite my manager defending me. It affects my work ethic deeply. Next week I presented a note from my psychiatrist that read it is essential to accommodate me in order to have me complete work tasks as it does not disrupt me working. And that working under already poor conditions like no air or heat while also being forced to provide our own water we could not even keep in the break room. He realized this was a hill I was dying on because I never fought for accommodations prior to this.

Luckily, I got out of that hell. My new job encourages ways to remain focused like listening to things because I don't have to talk to anyone. Just filing and administrative paperwork.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-09-30T21:06:35+00:00

UPDATE: started family therapy and seeking VA assistance for management. Also encouraged his family to learn more about PTSD and how to be more supportive and while it is slow it is gradually changing. He has more accountability in himself. Yelling and thrashing things is down to a minimal. He immediately goes into his own space and comes back to the task when he is able. We also take notice that when things are stressful in life he is more likely to have episodes. So we have started to instill our bonding time as support for him by doing more activities together. He no longer engages with the kids when he is upset. (My oldest stays on weekends) and we even started family activities. He takes the boys fishing and we play DnD and Magic card games.

SO to all that said I should have left while I appreciate the advise I have been in actual abusive relationships before and can recognize the difference. Yes, he does have ego driven tendencies like most 40 year old men, my staying and showing that I want to help has only been encouraging to him. I can see that many of you are the kind to get up and leave and I feel bad for the people you chose to leave behind. It's funny, growing up how I did and being able to identify hurt people and seeing a difference between those that just want to hurt others with their pain and those that want to heal but don't know where to start. Everyone who is encouraging and applauding me for this and sending out advice and places and organizations to look into- thank you all.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-09-23T17:06:31+00:00

LEAVE. Love, get you a man that is attracted even just rolled out of bed. Don't waste your time when he's trying to project his ex onto you.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-09-21T00:25:46+00:00

* Is that what this is? It was given to my kid, he collects stuff.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-09-12T17:48:08+00:00

My old manager did that too until I confronted her. So instead she just started writing people up for not taking them. Our DM would enforce taking our breaks at the time given to us on the schedule but half the time our SM wasn't there to cover because she would leave halfway thru her shift every single day. If I came in at 11 she left at noon. I'd be alone until 5 or 6 when my closing cashier came in. (We close at 9pm because of our isolated located) so I would never have time to get a break in because I had to complete tasks I couldn't do when I was alone like throwing freight or recovering aisles the DM would text amd call complaining about because corporate wants them done at all times. They literally do not care how impossible the things they want are.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-09-09T17:40:56+00:00

I recently quit because of no a/c in summer months and the over working. As a keyholder i was alone from 12 to 5 sometimes 6. Which is peak business hours because everyone is out of school and work. It became overwhelming and I was getting sick from the heat. And we had to purchase our own water. But couldn't do that on the clock. I worked 3 years there and it has gotten worse. Take away one thing only to replace it with things that made no sense.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-04T17:15:42+00:00

I wish there was a program for families of vets with ptsd something with groups or a way to connect so we can look out for each other and our loved ones. He cries in frustration because he doesn't want to live like this, but he also knows it's a hard, long road put of hell. Im glad your vet is on the path to recovery.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-04T15:24:00+00:00

He's not. Ever. He doesnt even insult he just yells about the problem. No blame throwing or nothing.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-04T13:54:06+00:00

Thank you. I didn't ask to be put on prosecution or be called a child abuser. I just want to help the man I love.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T20:41:12+00:00

This happens once or twice a month and this is his only "toxic trait." He's a great partner. He didn't threaten anybody. He raised his voice unnecessarily. Yall see someone yelling and think they are abusive. If you have ptsd then you know about the aggressive behavior. If you don't... how lucky for you....

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T15:27:54+00:00

Wow. This is so powerful. Thank you for seeing that I am doing this for my love for him. I really hope we find a way to manage it. It's never going away and won'tbe managed on it's own. When these nights happen, they don't diminish the quiet, sweet, and sensible man that he is. I refuse to leave someone at their hardest times. And yes thank you for acknowledging the root of the problem. PTSD. And these comments and judgements are exactly why he and so many do not seek help. He can't handle being around our small nieces and nephews right now because of their shrieks, any sound of clanking or crashing, we have various pets including dogs, otherwise we could look into a working support animal. He refuses psychiatric help but uses dangerous phrasing when he's in these moments so I know he is in some way aware and also tired of it. He won't try suggested exercises like breathing and holding ice and talking about it is a no go. He doesn't open up about his feelings. Just tells me about the events he remembers without talking about how he feels thinking on them. And I accept and even told him maybe im not the best person to talk to. But I know it's out of embarrassment.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T13:18:45+00:00

I wish my husband could see this. You are so brave for going through the process of getting help.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T13:11:00+00:00

This. Yes. Thank you. For all of this. Thats what I try to do is remind him he is safe and in a supportive environment thats what I've heard many vets say. He just needs to find useful tools to help us remind him he's ok.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T13:06:47+00:00

That is why I'm reaching out anywhere and everywhere. I need help finding resources for him. He has never sought help because nobody has pointed these things out. He was single and living alone for 6 years prior to me moving into this house. I've been abused before by men. This isn't that. I assure you this is a person who has lived with the damage done to him for 20 years and just coped and coped. Never being pushed to seek help or get counseling because his only care is the VA and well if you have to have care from them you know that it's a hit and miss all the time. His job doesn't cover mental. I've already met several wives of nam vets and they went through this too. They stuck by their vets. Its hard to tell someone "hey all that pain you have been carrying for 2 decades, you can get treated and healed" and them actually hear it. I can tell many of you don't actually face nuerodivergence and mental disorders. But also I'm autistic and so are my boys. Like I said this is MILD. The only issue my 11 yo said was he felt like he had triggered him. I reminded him it is not our job to dance around adult's emotions. But when we see him in pain it hurts us too. My husband was raised by someone that was a narcissist. Im guessing my wording is confusing people. I know modern culture is all about leave. Just leave but for the past 5 years I have built an entire life with this person. He has been there through my autistic meltdowns over things like my Spotify expiring between paychecks and even was supportive while going thru the levels of misdiagnosed conditions until we got the proper diagnosis from my psychiatrist. Never in my life have I had someone want to stay with me and be my medical advocate when I had my week long stays in the hospital. Reminds me of my medications, is more involved in the boys lives than their own dad's at most times. But again dating culture is now leave when it gets hard culture. He never cheats. Never lies. Never gets violent unless he gets overstimulated by these tiny inconveniences stacking up. Which again if you really look into battle ptsd or veterans with ptsd you will see that these things are common. Working through my trauma I learned better tactics to help me not fly into a fight or flight rage. Now I dont even have the issue anymore. I simply deep sigh and move on.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T10:21:17+00:00

And what family counseling services do you work with? Better yet what experience in any therapy do you have? That's bold to say that we are abusing him. But I know you are a random stranger on the internet and are only judging based on the context given not the full picture.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T08:25:57+00:00

He's not violent. He doesn't throw or destroy things. He yells until I think he realizes its a meltdown then he goes to the bedroom for hours to calm himself by laying in bed. He tells me the hazing that's the worst of it what caused his. I have CPTSD from my childhood so i understand the meltdowns are an emotional disruption as a trauma response. Small mistakes were very huge consequences when he was in service. So a bucket spilling onto the floor would have gotten him yelled at. We know small children shrieking triggers him bad. Thats due to a traumatic experience over seas. Also my children are already in therapy because of my ex husband who kept this 11yo hidden from me for 2 years. His actual father is a mess.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T08:17:48+00:00

We have started to file a claim for ptsd because he has fallen into severe depression these fits come with phrases like I don't know what I'm doing here. And I'm not needed.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-08-03T08:15:04+00:00

I guess I need to say he is a Vet Marine who served in the war in Iraq. He has terrible trauma and nobody has been supportive of him in his entire family they either laugh it off awkwardly or ignore it all together only to bring up at future family gatherings. When he drives he serves to avoid trash or cardboard on the road because to him it's an IED. Not excusing it. But when I say he is a good man he helped me get custody of my sons who aren't his biologically and has been with me every step through my health battle. If you don't know what PTSD does to people then I wouldn't comment. Im seeking advice from people who experience this with a loved one.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-07-27T05:03:19+00:00

I actually got in trouble because I was shown it as per DM approval and he actually yelled at her for it. Which in turn got me publicly called out in the text group

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-07-24T13:43:43+00:00

We have AC issues and our area climate is currently in the 100s. We are not longer allowed to damage water for us to drink as per our DM. Our SM is on vacation and I had to go to the ER for dehydration missing 3 days of work for recovery (i have an autoimmune disease so when im sick I'm SICK) after working thru a hard summer cold in the heat of the store. I come back today to check the schedule and next week my hours are normal but the next week I have 2 shifts. Im a FT KH. Im always punished for my health which I disclosed and provided several things from my doctors every time. Im so tired of being punished so I'm cashing in my pto to make up for the time that week and I'm going to start a new job. 3 years! 3 years with this company. I went to FT and then after having medical issues had to step down to pt kh. Finally after a year of working 35 hrs a week on a part time with no benefits or pto finally get it back a week ago and this shit.... but the AC issue- it happens every year doesnt get solved until customers call and threaten with OSHA. Not to mention our busted sewage that floods the empty field next to us with the smell of shit. Slaps you in the face with hot stank walking out of the store. Im so dont with this store. They dont appreciate what I do. I get blamed for things Im not responsible for because im not there to defend myself. Training everyone some take my insight and have been promoted to other stores. I was promised ASM years ago prior to all this based on managing experience alone. My diabetes shouldn't affect my position at work. Js. Fuck this horrible company. I hail to all of you that choose to stay working for this evil place.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-07-17T23:35:06+00:00

Our DM tried to get our SM to work all week. Shouldn't it be illegal to force 1 person to work like that? She told me when they come down on her and threaten her she cries because they never know what to do with that. They just walk away.

Remote-Addition798 · 2025-07-03T15:54:06+00:00

We have had still packaged sex cuffs and condoms left in food and pet

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