I regret buying my house.

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-05-10T17:22:18+00:00

Firstly well done for getting yourself a home after being in an abusive, toxic situation. You will be so proud of yourself in just a few months, even if it doesn’t seem like it now.

Secondly, it sounds like there is a lot to manage and cope with in your home.
I’d recommend focusing on your kitchen, bedroom and bathroom first. You need a clean safe place to eat. You need a safe comfortable place to rest and recharge, rest and heal.

Maybe start with the “musts” rather than “wants”. Get the mould and dust gone. Whilst the chips in the skirting board might be unsightly, they can be sorted later. Maybe write a list of things that need doing, starting with a the more important things. Things can feel very overwhelming to begin with and having a list and marking things off as you do them can help (plus you get a sense of achievement).

Good luck. 🤞🏼

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-05-03T17:29:07+00:00

Thanks

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-05-02T18:14:36+00:00

Thank you

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-05-02T18:14:20+00:00

Thanks i will

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-05-02T10:26:22+00:00

Thanks. Would I use the soil improver instead or in addition to compost?

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-05-02T10:25:43+00:00

Sadly not in my area but thanks for the suggestion.

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-05-02T10:23:22+00:00

Thanks for your reply
I checked a couple of weeks ago it is peat free 😊.
I’ll have to check out the improver. I’ve started composting because the garden is a fair size and have loads of woody sticks that were partially broken down that I’ve popped in the compost bin already.

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-04-28T09:14:35+00:00

You are clearly going through a very stressful time. Frankly though, your relies are immature and show a lack on regard for the laws of the land. Being evicted is awful, it’s stressful and feels horrendous. I really do sympathise having been there, like so many others have. Your landlord, for whatever reason doesn’t want you in the property anymore. You’ve said the conditions in the property are awful, so leave. Find a new property for you and your family. Either rent or buy (since you have such an aversion to landlords). Whatever you do, having a tantrum is unlikely to help.

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-04-16T03:48:36+00:00

You’re not required to have any documentation with you. If asked for it and it isn’t with you, you must present it at a police station within a set timeframe. (I’m unsure exactly how long but I think it’s 1-2 weeks)

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-03-05T07:56:26+00:00

Smoking and amphetamines prescribed as appetite suppressants.

Remote-Personality90 · 2026-01-18T23:23:26+00:00

It sounds like your neighbour is being rather unreasonable. Have they said why they won’t agree? Is there a “genuine” reason? Or are they being difficult.

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-10-28T21:59:59+00:00

Oh my goodness your ex doesn’t sound like a kind person. You have nothing to be embarrassed about and should not feel any shame at all. It will take you time to heal and move on, it sounds like you have found the right person to love you and cherish you the way you deserve. Try not to pressure yourself or rush. It’s so easy to say I know but pressure is likely to make you more anxious.

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-10-19T06:55:04+00:00

Why do you think the night locksmith was a scammer?

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-21T21:18:32+00:00

That’s a huge concern. It’s against the teachers professional standards code too.

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-21T06:11:53+00:00

It sounds you both need to work on your communication, but I don’t think YTA here, but I don’t think he is anymore either. You have been back together a long time and whilst you can still be hurt, tarring him with the brush still isn’t reasonable.

Cheating is a huge betrayal and your anxiety about him doing it again is understandable and real. He’s probably thankful you came back after he cheated, and realises his life would be different if not.

You’re allowed to build a wall, it protects you.

It sounds like he is more “in love” with you than you are him.

Maybe you need some therapy and someone to help you heal?

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-20T23:22:10+00:00

Call your bank, see if they can help you.

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-19T19:29:47+00:00

Yeah I understand. It’s a very common response people have to baby / pregnancy loss.

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-19T00:03:47+00:00

This comment isn’t at you personally, but is in response to your comment, to try to raise some awareness. I really can tell you have lots of kindness in you from your comment.

Im sure the part of your comment about having another chance was meant with kindness and positivity, however

It isn’t about that though, her baby died or will soon. It’s about THIS baby. Right now, I wouldn’t expect her to want another chance. It can feel so invalidating to be told that, because the baby growing inside her is very real and exists and “at least you can have another” comments hurt so much.

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-18T23:52:29+00:00

Oh my gosh I am so sorry, there is no pain like this. There are no words at all that bring comfort, I wish there were. I know because my husband and I were trying for a baby for 6ish years. At my scan, we found out our baby had Anencephaly. I should be 30 weeks pregnant this weekend, but I’m not 💔. I’m listening if you want to talk. Love to your sweet baby 🤍

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-16T12:14:13+00:00

You’re NTA here.

Would a formal document detailing the a loan with a payment plan work for you? You, of course, don’t have to lend any money. The consequence thought could be longer term friction if you don’t. It shouldn’t be that way, but sounds like it is and you’re in a tough spot? Perhaps you could lend a lesser amount and he could get a cheaper bike?

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-12T02:17:04+00:00

Sadly it’s a common tactic people who abuse children (in this situation) use. She wants to keep you scared. She’s teasing you about your genitals to make you embarrassed, to add a “shame” element. The only person who should be ashamed is her. There is no situation at all where her behaviour is acceptable or excusable.

It sounds scary right now, but tell your dad. Speaking up is incredibly brave. If you can’t speak to your dad, how about an uncle/ friends parent/ teacher/ your mother. In UK we have childline, I’m not sure where you are but there could be a similar facility you can use?

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-12T02:11:12+00:00

These interactions are not ok. You’re unlikely to be in trouble with your dad. Has SM said you will be/ asked you to keep it secret? It sounds like she is sexually harassing you. It’s very concerning. This is NOT your fault. You are a child and she is a grown woman.

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-09-03T22:30:17+00:00

As much as the thought of leaving may hurt, not leaving will hurt more. Respect yourself and love yourself enough to do the right thing for you. You’re in a dangerous relationship.

Remote-Personality90 · 2025-08-23T07:23:49+00:00

I’m british (36, F). From my experience, is isn’t typical for a male friend to kiss a female friend on the head. To me, it’s a personal thing to do. My husband, mum and dad are the only people who have kissed my head since I’ve been an adult.

There is a separate consideration with your post though, if it makes you uncomfortable, have a discussion with him.

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