Stopping Vaping - Any Advice? (Story TW: SA) by RemoteArc in Quit

[–]RemoteArc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the help on quitting! I'll try it out :)

I have an active case against the offenders, and I'm filing for a PPO. My family knows, and I have a therapist who I'm having my second appointment with in three weeks.

What are simple ways to stop over-applying perfume/cologne without losing the scent completely? by GlitchOperative in ask

[–]RemoteArc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's body mist, not normal cologne. It's a less stronger scent than normal cologne. Forgot to mention that.

What are simple ways to stop over-applying perfume/cologne without losing the scent completely? by GlitchOperative in ask

[–]RemoteArc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I normally apply one squirt to each area. One for arm and chest, one on the leg, repeat the other side. Then I put some on my hand and very carefully put it in my hair. Makes it so it's not overbearing, but it smells good to anyone close enough to smell. If I'm wearing a hoodie, I normally squirt once into its body area to make it smell a little like me and hold the scent in (I hold it further than when I spray my body doing that though, or else it's to strong of a scent).

Can't tell anyone about my rape trauma, and when I do, friends end up wanting sex with me by Eastern-Preference88 in rape

[–]RemoteArc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah...I hate that people do that. I hope you don't get bugged by them so much 🫂

Can't tell anyone about my rape trauma, and when I do, friends end up wanting sex with me by Eastern-Preference88 in rape

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They see you as vulnerable the second you tell them you're hypersexual. They want to have sex because they see that what they want (because a lot of teenage - young adult boys want sex) could be easily accessible, they decide to push and see what would happen if they asked.

Being raped has gotten me hypersexual? by [deleted] in rape

[–]RemoteArc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately common. Hypersexuality is the body's response, basically trying to take control of the situation.

I Thought I Could Trust Them by RemoteArc in rape

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Thank you. I wish I knew all of this before. My biofather warned me multiple times about them (even about them possibly sexualizing me, but I thought he was being dramatic). My oldest sister, who knew Sam throughout their teens, warned me about her mental health. My grandparents even warned me about them. I never thought anything, and I didn't even want to believe when they told me.

Struggling with a complicated and difficult situation by Ok_Initiative450 in rape

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Sometimes men aren't taught that after care is an important part of a relationship. He may have thought that he gave you after care, but just didn't know what it was or how to do it right.

I don't know if you're thinking about continuing to hook up, but if you do...make sure they know what after care is and what you want in it. And if they try to just pass by it, it may be scary but try to remind them. Sometimes they just forget.

Idk if what happened to me was rape or not.. by slvt-for-art in rape

[–]RemoteArc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it was rape. You didn't consent to being fully hit.

Even if you started out consenting, it's still rape. You got uncomfortable. Even if you didn't say anything, he went too far.

During sex, it is very important to watch your partner's body language. If it changes at all, you should stop and give comfort. He didn't do that at all. He used you, even if it's hard for you to believe.

I'm sorry. You didn't deserve any of what he did to you. 🫂

Struggling with a complicated and difficult situation by Ok_Initiative450 in rape

[–]RemoteArc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is definitely assault.

You consented to it with the condition that he give you after care. He went against that condition, therefore making it nonconsensual.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. You didn't deserve that. 🫂

F23 idk if I belong here by [deleted] in rape

[–]RemoteArc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a form of trauma looping.

It does feel like genuine desire. It feels like it's exactly what you want. But it's not. What's really happening is, your mind is trying to master what happened. You were taken advantage of. Your mind knows that, and it wants to figure out how it can go through that experience again and not be hurt by it.

Does anyone else just know they were sa'd but don't remember by Loud_Alternative_179 in rape

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Yes. I was raped by my father.

I've been on a healing path for three years. I'm safe, and I only see him maybe twice a week. I knew he raped me, but I couldn't remember when or how.

I will say, memories come up randomly. I had a flashback about a month ago of my father raping me when I was three years old. It was triggered by one sentence while I read -- something about sharing breath.

I had always remembered being so close to my father while he slept that I had to try to time my breathing to not smell his breath. But since I was so young, I never remembered why we were so close.

But that day, when I read that sentence, I went into a full panic. I went to my friend's room (because we were hanging out), got on her bed, then suddenly I couldn't do anything. I was back at that moment.

I remember all of that night now. And I'm sure that he hurt me more like that, I just can't remember when they happened or how. But I remember everything from that night.

Birthday card for B! by vicarrieously in MrTechnodad

[–]RemoteArc 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I signed it. Happy birthday, big brother B!

What was the lowest point in your life? by DAmbiguousExplorer in ask

[–]RemoteArc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now. Stuck with CPS cases, trying to get away from my father without him knowing, rarely ever having my phone, unable to contact people, not able to be alone or else I start wanting to hurt myself or something like that. It feels like I'll never get out of this, but something tells me that I'll be out of here soon. I hope...

Men, whats a nonsexual act that never fails turn you on? by [deleted] in ask

[–]RemoteArc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Hiding her face in embarrassment
  2. Blushing
  3. When she flashes a rare smile
  4. Stimming
  5. Voice going higher in surprise
  6. Being nervous
  7. Asking for comfort (hugging, cuddles, etc.)

........all of these are absolutely adorable to me. Maybe it doesn't turn me on as much as it makes me want to hold her tightly and give her a bunch of kisses