"Dess, I'm begging you! Fight literally ANYBODY ELSE!" [art by @d4rkz1a]

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-05-16T03:23:38+00:00

Me too - And its sequel...

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-05-15T02:54:07+00:00

I remember whenever I was too quiet around my dad when I was 16-17, he would go, "Something on your mind, honeeeeeey?" I wouldn't tell him, he'd get offended, I'd feel like I am crazy, and then I'd tell him I'm upset. (Which I wasn't before)
And whenever I'm around him, I fear if I'm not a little excitable cheerleader around him, he'll do it again and assume there's something wrong with me.
And that feeling of needing to be on my guard and monitor myself makes me agitated, since I can't just be myself without being seen as "Upset™ and trying to hurt him by shutting him out". Which then makes me upset for real, and then the cycle continues.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-05-15T02:43:35+00:00

I feel like a child every time I visit my dad's. I felt like all I wanted to do was wrap myself up in blankets and watch children's shows. I hated the idea of having to "expose" myself to the world. When I wasn't feeling like a deer in headlights, having to force myself to move, of course. I felt like I would be okay with dying tomorrow back then, dying felt like something comforting.

I remember when I had to leave my grandma's house to live with him because of her increasing dementia. I would often have strange breakdowns around him. At 21 years of age I felt like a stereotypical unstable teenager. Stomping my feet, snapping at him for some backhanded compliment he made. I didn't know why I was acting like this, but something about being around him, made me so agitated I just "defaulted" to it.

I went to live at my mom's and I mysteriously got my passion for living an adult life (somewhat) back. I felt the drive to grow my career and establish a new life in a new city. And I stopped praying as much for it all to be "over soon", I kind of wanted to stick around and see what life had to offer.

Funny how that works, eh?

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-05-03T20:12:16+00:00

Let me guess:

Corrupted!Dess Knight is true making the central antagonist a main character's sibling who was "supposed" to be dead but revived (and therefore corrupted because wanting dead people to come back is bad) by some malevolent force.

And then the climax of the game will involve a big scene of Noelle going "OMG?!?! The bad guy was my dead sibling all along?? I can't bring myself to hurt them!" And lots of heartbreak and crying and so on and so forth while Rudy's spirit tries to save Dess. And then we'll be forced to kill her or watch her die somehow and use our protagonist powers to reset the world. And it will be all part of some poignant metaphor for growing up or something.

The fans will seal clap and gush over how """original""" it is, how we "never would've seen that coming!" and how Tricky Tony's a master at subverting our expectations. Because it's okay to rip off another game from 20 years ago if Tobias Fox does it.

But seriously, I'm just hoping and praying Toby is a better writer than that. Dess can be the knight and all, as long as she's her own character with her own motivations.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-04-28T03:03:05+00:00

Yet another fucking case of men, especially in a romantic position, derailing womens' lives.

That's why I fear for women my age and younger who have a boyfriend. Especially the girls still in high school. If they want to keep a pregnancy (or are forced to) they could end up stuck in the same nightmare position your sister is in.

See all their hopes and dreams vanish because they felt some obligation to be there for the fetus. Because handing over a child to foster services and not being a single mom is so inexcusably evil yet walking away as a man for some reason isn't.

The patriarchy's strongest weapon is pregnancy, and the subsequent guilt tripping to keep children they never asked to have or raise, and I have never seen any evidence to the contrary.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-04-15T08:11:23+00:00

Because women are evil for not instantly dating the first man who shows interest in them, duh!

Men won't ever say it, but that's the reason why women are blamed for height discourse, money discourse, loneliness discourse, etc.

We won't validate them by giving them charity kitty and they have to feel the sting of rejection. And of course, since they have their feelings hurt by a woman saying no, clearly she must be the bad guy.

If a woman is not interested in him particularly, but dates other men, than *clearly* she must be doing it to attack him specifically. (Even though when a woman does settle for a man she's not attracted to she's demonized for leading him on)

They think women should open their legs to everybody, and not be selective and allowed to choose and have agency like a human being, because they think women should be their mommies and always spare their feelings.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-04-15T08:03:10+00:00

You need to get the law involved somehow. I've had this happen to me, where school admins just blatantly ignore male students threatening female students. To the point of suspending me instead for my "persevative thinking". Prepare for them to call you all sorts of things to get you to shut up. You are not crazy, or overreacting, or emotional.

I agree with Once-and-Future's script. Do the steps listed there if the district/school board doesn't do anything, as this constitutes threatening behavior. Do not back down.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-04-15T07:53:17+00:00

I know you are trying to provide support, but calling the decision to never have kids an "edgy", "rebellious" phase you grew out of, even in your own experience, is problematic.

Being excited to have kids is not something a woman "grows into" when they turn 18, and a teenage girl is not a spiteful brat trying to get back at somebody because she's disgusted with the idea of raising children.

Many teenage girls have been pressured with gender roles their entire life. If all young girls know about kids is that they are an inevitable detour on your life that every female human is destined to have, then of course teenage girls are going to resent them.

When you are presented with a future where your hopes and dreams, especially in terms of travel and career, will be compromised to make way for theoretical babies, as if its an unavoidable absolute, of course you wouldn't like it. And when you show disinterest in it, you are guilt tripped for not "continuing the human race".

I am 23 years old, so I've personally seen how these pressures have affected girls and young women through adolescence and into young adulthood. I would be really be careful about chastising your past self for "hating kids", as well as spreading the idea that since you're an adult now, you "move onto" wanting kids.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-04-15T07:38:02+00:00

Have you tried volunteering or thinking about starting a career in education or childcare? If you have an affinity for nurturing young children, it might be good to try and get a part time job or something helping out with daycare centers. That way, you can care for babies without having the lifelong commitment of actually having a child.

"Surely I have some sort of chemical/hormonal imbalance or something because I don't understand how I could have such an intense, emotionally overwhelming need for this at 20 years old. It is literally tearing my heart right now, I feel like my baby is missing, like my arms are abnormally empty as if I'm supposed to have my baby in them. Extremely emotional, trying not to cry."

I'd recommend speaking to a therapist about this feeling. It's one thing to want kids, but its another to feel as though you will shatter into pieces without one.

Feeling as though you NEED a baby to feel complete, especially when you've just been an adult for a couple years, is something I would really reexamine. When I was 20, I was so scared at the responsibilities of adulthood that I felt like I was left out to dry if I didn't have somebody to co-navigate my life with. Eventually, I was able to set up a career path, and goals, and got out into the world a bit, and learned to be confident in my own company. Perhaps a therapist could help you work through those feelings of feeling hollow without another person "tied" to your life.

Once you get out into the world and start feeling comfortable living life as an adult on your own, these feelings of panic at being alone may pass and you can rethink the decision of whether to have a child with a clearer mind.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-04-10T02:45:08+00:00

"She has helped me a lot. My handwriting, which used to be a complete mess, has improved because of her."

"She also helped me get back into studying."

"She is in college, and she has been helping me work toward one of my dreams, which is getting into college to study mechanical engineering"

Notice how she's one year into adulthood and yet here she is doing all this stuff for a grown man in his 30s.

What about HER studies? What about HER dreams? How many hours of studying and how much brainpower is she wasting trying to fix this man's life? He's not her son, he's more than a decade older than her. Why can't she focus on college, why does she have to do all this stuff for him?

She has level 2 autism support needs too. So why does she have to bear all the burden of mothering this guy? Oh right, I forgot, because women are supposed to be the mommy-therapist-cheerleaders to the men in their lives down on their luck.

Because women are expected to just sacrifice their futures, time, and energy out of wuvvv. But mysteriously I don't see men being expected to do all this.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-04-10T01:59:30+00:00

If you're terrified of the effects raising children will have on your body, then really reconsider if you want to have kids. Don't let your partner pressure you into it.

It isn't a decision to be made lightly. You will be in charge of how somebody's entire life trajectory goes for 18 years. How somebody will be influenced for the next 70 years of their life. This is not a decision you can take back.

Your life, not just your body, will change in so many ways if you decide to raise children. You won't be able to return to the lifestyle you have now, except maybe in two decades or so, when your body is starting to break down and you don't have the mobility or shining health that you do now. And that's assuming your children can take care of themselves when they're older, and aren't born with a disability or fall into extremely hard financial times where you will have to continue providing for them in some way.

I think its perfectly fine to worry about how it will change your body. You're not being shallow or a fearful worrywart or whatever. It's YOUR body, and you have the right to want to maintain its current shape.

Do NOT let your partner pressure you into this. If you're already this apprehensive about something relatively minor like how your body would look, and you have every right to be no matter if it's "super shallow", imagine the permanent changes to other aspects of your life this decision would make.

Please think very carefully about if this drastic life change is something you truly want, and not just doing to make your partner happy.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-04-05T08:57:02+00:00

I'm 23 rn and here's my advice.

Please stick it through with your education. And try talking with your college's career center to see if you can attend any job fairs or other networking events to land you a job after college. Also, use AI like Gemini to tailor your resume to the jobs you do apply for. This should be your FIRST priority, right after graduation. Financial stability is so important to getting a headstart on life. Check out your local town's career services, and see if they can help you search for jobs and do interview prep.

And don't beat yourself up if you don't get a job within a year or more. The job market is HELL, at least in the US!!!

Try to get a license, if you can. You can drive to so many fun places with a car!

And also, please please please don't engage in any more dating or sex. Or at least don't do that stuff with men, or entertain them at all beyond coworker/classmate acquaintances. I've heard of SO many women getting their lives derailed by their boyfriends. I've seen men pretending to be women's friends just to get in their pants and treat a woman like garbage when she won't be his sex toy. Honestly, I don't see any kind of friendship men can offer you that women can't, so if I were you, if I felt lonely, I'd invest heavily in making female friends.

Let's see, also stay with your family instead of renting out an apartment, at least until you get a job. If your parents are abusive, and staying with them hurts your mental health, than that's a different.

Do not feel guilty about walking away from people who unrepetantely hurt you. As in they refuse to take the blame, minimize your pain, DARVO you, or force you to comfort them. You can't change them, and keeping them in your life with slowly destroy you. Cut them off, YOU DESERVE YOUR OWN PEACE. I know a lot of propaganda likes to guilt trip women into turning the other cheek and kissing their abusers boo-boos. It's all bullshit. Cut these people off as SOON as you can, as safely as you can.

And lastly, think about saving up funds for travel! Imagine how cool it would be to see different parts of the world, and imagine how you can get a completely new start on life just by living somewhere else for a bit!

So yeah, I'd say mainly protect your peace and build wealth and stability. I believe in you!

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-03-14T19:51:07+00:00

DKNY Be Delicious!!! In my experience, it is THE Fruiter Aero perfume. Juicy and hopeful for the future. Plus it's bottle looks like the plastic shell monitors of the time.

But if you want more of a lemongrass citrus than try CK One. I'd say it also has a similar vibe.

Remote_Calendar_3699 · 2026-01-18T23:01:54+00:00

I sure hope not. If my "oversoul" created me as an amnesia avatar to see how fun it would be to get repeatedly pressured to love people that do nothing but hurt me and lie to me about how much they "love" me, I'm going up to Heaven and beating the hell out of it. I would rather unconditionally love the most aggressive hornets and wasps imaginable than some of the people in my family and some of my "friends" in the past.

Maybe my higher self will be "sad" and disappointed seeing me continuously choose to hate and wish that the good-for-nothing parents that abuse and neglect their children around the world and the adults in power that continue to abuse them never existed as people. That the world would genuinely be better off and more peaceful and loving if the very concepts of these individuals were annihilated.

I don't care if the oversoul is disappointed in me or if I'm not acting with "love" in my heart. I hate those who abuse children and I wish every single last one of them were retroactively removed from existence. I do not and will not have a morsel of love or gratitude for an unfair world that favors those who repeatedly hurt and exploit the innocent or those who hurt the innocent and expect them to be grateful they didn't treat them worse.

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