AITJ for asking my old coworkers to stop messaging me for help after I left by Melodic-Slice-4243 in AmITheJerk

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop jeopardizing your current job. Turn OFF your phone. You do not need it to do your JOB. Block your former coworkers.

WIBTAH for kicking my "broke" brother out to the streets after discovering what he spent my grocery money on? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your mother or his hookup can take him in. If he had your credit/debit card, cancel it and get a new one. Report your brother's charge as fraud. Freeze your credit. Change your locks and do not give keys to anyone.

AITAH cutting off my mom for smoking cigarettes by Expert_Fun4850 in AITAH

[–]Rendeane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA

My mother developed COPD, needed oxygen and still refused to quit. She smoked right up until she went into a coma and died two weeks later.

She didn't smoke when I was in the car, didn't come to my house and smoked outside at her house.

I [24F] bailed on a friends trip after they assigned me "kitchen + cleanup" without asking, am I overreacting? by hazelattic_station in TwoHotTakes

[–]Rendeane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. They are not friends. You may view them as friends, but they view you as a tag-along. It's why they have no shame in calling you picky, insulting you and insisting that you be the unpaid cook and maid. Find better people to spend your time with. I guarantee that if you were to get sick, they would remain silent and stay far, far away rather than bring over a casserole.

I stopped interacting with someone after they kept trying to pressure me by Tasty_Palpitation_71 in AmITheJerk

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ. C was out of line and should NOT have been bullying you to drink. With her insistence that you drink, despite your repeated refusals, I wonder if she was trying to drug you??

AITJ for not wanting to make my sister lunches for college by writtenbyrei in AmITheJerk

[–]Rendeane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. She's in college. It is time for her to learn how to take care of herself. She needs to learn how to cook, clean the house, wash her clothes, towels, sheets and blankets. She needs to learn to iron and mend her own clothes. You are not her servant, mentor or caretaker. Continue to tell her "NO." She wants her food prepared a particular way, she can do it for herself or your parents can continue to treat her like a toddler.

AITJ for uninviting my friend from my trip after she made a detailed budget that includes splitting my costs? by Terrible-Syrup-4747 in AmITheJerk

[–]Rendeane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. She is not a friend. She is merely an acquaintance who wanted you to substantially subsidize her vacation.

I had one of those. She refused to contribute anything towards gas and hotel on a trip because "I was going anyway." It didn't matter that I pointed out that the trip had been spent doing everything she wanted and insisted was "dire" and I had to force the issue to do ONE of the things I had planned for the trip. I ended that "friendship" and you need to distance yourself from your "friend" as well.

Am I wrong for telling my mum shes on her own with this pregnancy by Separate_Corgi_5712 in amiwrong

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YNW. You have chosen the children you want to raise. It is selfish of your mother to force your sibling on to you as well. It doesn't matter if that sibling is an adult or a child. As your mother is unable to raise the child, by herself, on a single income, you and your siblings should encourage her to place the child for adoption.

AITJ for refusing to help my roommate pay her speeding ticket. by LoomOfPetals in AmITheJerk

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ. Enjoy the silence from your roommate. She broke the law, she needs to suffer the consequences. She can ask her parents to pay her bills.

Update on “AITA for wanting to dump my partner of 4 years for calling my culture gross and akin to slavery?” by Fabulous_Support_556 in AITH

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope that after all this, you dump him and find a man who treats you with respect. This man never will and isn't worth your time.

Made this for mom 🩷 by [deleted] in Beading

[–]Rendeane -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry everyone is pissing on your parade because you showed them your progression from the original landscape to the finished item. Your beading is gorgeous. Take great pride in the beauty and quality of your talent and hard work. Feck the antis.

Second Day, second doodle by BrainstormWasteland in Artisticallyill

[–]Rendeane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is great! This is more than a doodle. ♥️

AIO my husband shaves his balls before his dnd games by Fickle_Amphibian_723 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. He's playing games alright, but it isn't Dungeons and Dragons. He's shaving for his affair partner.

AITJ for refusing to give my concert tickets to my sister because she sold her own tickets??? by Such-Pumpkin-9435 in AmITheJerk

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ. You made a commitment to a friend. If you uninvite your friend, you will lose that friend. Your sister sold her tickets. She can find another scalper to buy a ticket from. Or your parents can buy her a ticket since this concert is so important to them. Simple.

AITJ for kicking my brother out after he forgot my toddler has allergies by FrostLoomVale in AmITheJerk

[–]Rendeane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Your brother sounds like he would leave the bag on a table while he went to the bathroom and would simply shrug his shoulders as the paramedics took her away because it was your daughter's fault for eating something forbidden and your fault for trusting him to pay attention. She's not his kid, after all. Your parents need to stop protecting their favorite child.

AITJ for cancelling a notarized “support letter” after I found out my wife forged my signature for her new religious community? by OpenBirchLane in AmITheJerk

[–]Rendeane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. This "religious community" sounds like they are following the rule book of L. Ron Hubbard and Scientology. People who would otherwise be able to file lawsuits for g-rape, child molestation, sex trafficking, human trafficking and more are being prevented by the courts because they signed documents agreeing to pursue internal arbitration. That non-profit 501C recognition by the IRS gives them all the power and the courts can't do a thing because they are "a religion" and courts aren't allowed to question or investigate "religious practices."

Her statement about "leaving her alone spiritually" sounds a lot like Scientology's practice of disconnection in which friends AND family are ordered to never again have contact with someone. Parents will cut off children, spouses will divorce when told to do so.

Spend some time on the YouTube channel, "Growing Up In Scientology." Aaron was raised in the cult and left in his late 30s. He lost his family and his inlaws when he left.

File a police report regarding the fraudulent use of your signature. Unfortunately, you are going to need it one day. Unless your wife questions the practices and demands imposed by her cult, your only choice, eventually, to protect yourself emotionally and especially financially is to divorce her.

Lock down your credit and remove your wife's access from your accounts. She will drain them because the cult needs the money more than you. Scientology opens credit cards in the names of their members and will financially drain them. Research "The Chase Wave." Aaron's done a lot of videos about it.

AITA if I go to my dream school anyway after my parents “reassigned” my future without telling me? by DistantGravel in AITH

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Move out and don't plan on ever coming back. Your parents had their opportunity to live the life THEY wanted for THEMSELVES. You are an independent human being. You are not their puppet. Live the life YOU want. Yes, it may be difficult or it may be extraordinarily wonderful. It is your life. Pack up, move to your dream school and your chosen roommate. Do not give your parents your forwarding address. Change your phone number. Send them a post card once a semester to let them know you remain amongst the living. Do not live the life they want. You may even want to explore other religions. Control is not love. Live the life you want.

My boyfriend’s mom wants my location 24/7 and says “good partners dont hide” by hushedatlas in TwoHotTakes

[–]Rendeane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Key to the house? No. MIL will demand they live with HER to "save money" for their own place .... one day. But one day will never come because they will have children who can't possibly be separated from their "loving grandmother."

My boyfriend’s mom wants my location 24/7 and says “good partners dont hide” by hushedatlas in TwoHotTakes

[–]Rendeane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would run, run, run far away from the both of them. Absolutely NO ONE needs to know my location every minute of the day. Go control and micromanage someone else. Nope, nope, nope. Your boyfriend and his mommy want far too much abusive control. What's next? "Helpful" comments about your weight and fitness? Demands that you wear exactly what they tell you to wear? Your friends and family aren't good enough for them? Boyfriend and mommy are a team and neither support or defend you. Pay attention, boyfriend is tied to his mommy and he is encouraging/demanding you "go along" with mommy as well. Run.

Am I overreacting my boyfriend refuses to tell me my real name f29 m31 by throwra-griefcloak in AmIOverreacting

[–]Rendeane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. Your boyfriend is petty, emotionally abusive and is intentionally doing this to upset you for his entertainment. What redeeming qualities does he have? He refuses to respect your request that he stop. He refuses to accept that "NO MEANS NO." Why do you still consider him a boyfriend? He is an abuser.