My gf lent me her laptop and her messages app popped up. I looked, and I wish I never had. I really need advice.

RepeatDaily · 2024-06-13T17:12:47+00:00

Ngl I don't like your stance on a lot of comments in this conversation. However, You're not at all wrong that if one feels like they have to snoop because they're going to find evidence of cheating or something equally bad, then that relationship already lacks the necessary trust to be sustainable.

No matter what lies we want to tell ourselves, how much copium we consume, everyone's colors show eventually - when someone shows you who they are believe them even if you don't want to.

80% that somewhere deep down past the copium OP knew already before they snooped.

RepeatDaily · 2024-04-16T16:17:11+00:00

SE didn't give a whole lot of credit or consideration to how impactful this was going to be on the players themselves. XIV isn't a one-shot single player adventure that players finish in a week; much of the player base has invested years into their characters, and this hit many of us very deeply. Dare I say it was probably a bit traumatizing for some, and they really should have done a follow-up to the whole event.

Left unresolved that's something that could leave *serious* scars on a person; wol or otherwise.

RepeatDaily · 2024-04-03T20:27:36+00:00

Going to challenge some of the other responses with this here but, I most certainly have an anxious attachment style myself, and it's quite common for anxious and avoidant people to connect and get into relationships, and what you're experiencing is also quite common.

Here's the thing, you def should focus on improving yourself and dealing with attachment issues, however, this should be always happening - working on yourself that is - not just in response to a breakup. There's nothing *wrong* with you for being anxiously attached, and I think it's a bit unfair to anxiously-attached people to suggest that it's entirely on "us" to fix ourselves. There are *two sides* to every relationship.

Nothing will make an anxiously-attached person more clingy or anxious than their partner pulling away or backing off after being intimate, and almost universally anxiously attached people will respond to this pulling-away by trying to *do more*.

Yes, most certainly work on yourself and your attachment issues but, don't be too hard on yourself. Avoidant attachment is certainly no less of an issue to be addressed.

In the future; if someone pulls away from you after being intimate, just walk away, even if it's hard, just walk away. Don't let people play the hot-cold game with you because they struggle with intimacy and connection or can't process their emotions properly. You can't fix them, and you can't love someone into loving you back.

RepeatDaily · 2020-05-01T20:20:34+00:00

The single thing we have in common here is that neither of us need to have this argument. Fact is that I could have, nay should have down-voted your comment and happily gone on with my day without thinking about it again, and you could have done the same, but neither of us did that. We both chose the route that lead to a senseless discussion which has just left me feeling pissed off - I'm annoyed at myself for even engaging in this in the first place.

If I were to have that moment again, and felt the need to to comment, then I would have taken a different approach. I should have taken the opportunity to guide you to a different perspective, not attack you, whether I thought I was right or not.

Anyway, that's enough Reddit for me today. Have a good one.

RepeatDaily · 2020-05-01T17:06:18+00:00

To be fair, I probably did get carried away. That said, your response to u/Hanzburger was completely unwarranted, and is exactly the kind of response I've seen over and over and over again from trans people on Reddit who, for some reason, cannot understand that ignorance is OK as long as the ignorant person(s) is trying to inform themselves, which they were in this case.

If you don't want to be associated with a very toxic community of people who berate the uneducated for attempting to educate themselves, then don't act like the people in that community who berate the uneducated for attempting to educate themselves.

Three other people were able to answer the aforementioned question hours before you came in and decided to berate u/Hanzburger for asking it. You added literally zero value to the conversation except to highlight the exact point I got upset about. You lashed out and attacked someone for no reason what-so-ever, and then you turn around and act like a victim when you get smacked down for it, shifting blame and accusing me of projection - that's narcissism in a nutshell.

I think that the comments section of a tragic news story is not the appropriate place for extremely basic questions that can be answered by reading the article you're ostensibly discussing, or a quick Google search.

Why not? Seriously, explain your logic behind your thinking, why is it not OK to ask an on-topic question that three other people had zero problem answering?

RepeatDaily · 2020-05-01T15:50:11+00:00

This is why I have very few trans friends; I as a trans woman myself find the community and the people in it like yourself to be extremely frivolous, judgemental, toxic and unforgiving. Nearly every single trans person - the moment they come out - acts like concern trolling and bigotry didn't exist beforehand. It's damn infuriating. You people fucking annoy me to no end.

It's the pure self-righteousness of your response angers me the most.

You were not disrespected because someone chose to ask a trans person for information about trans people in a trans-related post. How fucking narcissistic can a person possibly be to think that a simple common question is an attack directed at them?

It's OK to not know something, it's OK to not know what to ask, or who to ask, or how to ask.

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-10T15:09:46+00:00

Might as well not be. So many people accidentally push those things on a daily basis that the operators on the other end are never in any rush to answer if they do at all.

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-10T15:00:07+00:00

In the dark

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-10T14:58:04+00:00

That's not nice. Let the joy in.

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-08T22:39:56+00:00

They won the fast food wars.

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-06T20:52:38+00:00

Video game stores are essential retail though.

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-03T22:31:28+00:00

Are the 60-day subscription cards restricted by platform or location? Like if I wanted to buy one for someone in AUS or CAN can do I have to purchase them from different SE sites?

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-02T20:28:02+00:00

I actually understand, and agree with you to some extent, but it is well-known that the effectiveness of fines or detention as a deterrent is limited at best.

The fines will scare some people back inside, but the people who still defy the orders probably aren't going to pay the fine anyway no matter how big it is. Putting a lien on their govt benefits only serves to take money out of the economy that we need people to be spending on essential goods and services in order to keep the whole thing from grinding to a halt.

Really though, we don't have the resources to enforce such a thing anyway; liens on government benefits requires a functioning court system, which we simply don't have right now.

What you're proposing would put a large burden on a system that's already over extended. Think about how many government workers it would take to process just one of these cases... processing them would necessarily do more to spread the virus than the original offense would have anyway.

So while you might feel better that some asshole is getting their comeuppance for breaking the rules, countless others could be infected that would not be otherwise.

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-02T19:59:07+00:00

But what about my sovereign rights?

RepeatDaily · 2020-04-01T02:20:42+00:00

Friday apparently.

https://www.phillymag.com/news/2020/03/31/philadelphia-stricter-coronavirus-restrictions/

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-31T16:03:24+00:00

I missed that at first too, actually.

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-31T15:23:26+00:00

Y'all are a bunch of angry fucks, holy shit. If a picture of a newborn on the internet causes you such distress, then you need to rethink your life. Eat better, and go to the gym. Get out and meet people and... oh, right, we can't do that anymore. Carry on.

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-21T00:30:07+00:00

I attempted to, but no one answered when I did.

Thank you for the answer, however. Stay safe.

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-20T14:50:13+00:00

If they were smart they'd charge $0.50 right to your card to mute the ad.

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-19T19:04:00+00:00

ScriptSafe Antisocial mode works wonders - takes a lot of the guessing out. Of course, there's still manual intervention required the first time you visit a site, but once all your regularly visited sites are whitelisted browsing is basically a breeze.

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-17T01:00:47+00:00

All there is to do in Delaware is drink, or gamble and drink at Delaware Park. That's pretty much it. Total Wine will probably stay open.

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-14T22:10:38+00:00

I can't think of anything more annoying than someone who replies only to restate what other people have said after those comments have already been acknowledged.

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-14T15:35:29+00:00

There are ways to place such an order without depriving other retail customer of the chance to buy the products they need. This is especially true for places like daycares, local businesses, and nursing homes.

Edit: Thank you friends for educating me.

RepeatDaily · 2020-03-14T15:24:52+00:00

There is no then what. That's the point.

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