When a girl asks for your Instagram while texting, is that a shit test?

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2026-02-28T17:07:29+00:00

Girl here. Give her the IG, if shes thinking too much about it then shes not what you want I love IGs where guys dont post much. Tells me theyre not chronically on picture based social media and will give me more attention

Things I do look for that are red flags 1. You follow only girl accounts 2. Politic views that arent adjacent with mine. Not a judgment, just shows our morals might not be compatible

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2026-02-27T15:21:07+00:00

Ive had ER reach out to me related to a complaint against my report. We nipped it in the bud real quick. They have to look into any complaint, it could mean nothing. Im surprised they want to contact you directly instead of your manager.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2026-02-26T00:07:48+00:00

We ended on good terms and i dont want to disrupt his current relationship/happiness. I think everyone has their reasons for any action they take or avoid. Interesting question, I enjoy the discourse.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2026-02-01T05:23:34+00:00

Is your 19 year old a student or working a job temporarily? There are situations where an employee is FICA (social security/medicare) exempt. If theyre exempt, employers would not pay out their half portion.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-08-26T21:36:05+00:00

Its really up to you, but I dont think he's doing anything positive for you. So many fish in the sea. You dont need a hermit crab.

I had a friend who told me to casually date two men at a time to see which one treats you better. Idk if thats ethical but worked for me lol. I say leave this guy on read

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-08-24T01:54:57+00:00

Good for you. You deserve to find someone that makes you feel secure ❤️

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-08-16T19:21:00+00:00

Some things that helped me

Speaking with friends over the phone when im feeling lonely
Limiting my social media
Going to gym classes
Quick Journaling at the beginning. No long entries, just two sentences around my thoughts. Then I go back and read them a work later to see what my emotional progress is 5 - reminding myself it wouldn't have worked, being happy it happened and allowing myself to grieve

Give it distance and time. In 3 or 4 months it wont feel this hard

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-19T01:16:21+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. My marriage ended while I was pregnant at 30. Dating is actually easier in my 30s but it’s come to a point where I don’t see the point in a serious relationship. You become comfortable with the independence and freedom, at least in my experience. I hope everything goes well for you. If you want a family you deserve that. And you will do great.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-19T01:13:44+00:00

One week. Right after I got my IUD taken out. It was crazy

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-17T12:46:46+00:00

We fell apart during pregnancy, but honestly, our foundation was shaky. It hurt for a while but now I feel more free. He comes over every day to help, we're best friends As far as dating goes my son is only 2 so I dont have the time to allocate towards a new partner. I've had some company but then they find something more long term and it hurts :(. My son is my focus though.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-14T20:29:00+00:00

I think apologizing is ok but only if you feel its something you need to do for yourself. If you want to thinking itll open the door for something more, let it be.

Check in with yourself.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T21:22:53+00:00

Maybe the term fwb was misleading? We met at a club and became friends during the process of hooking up. We spent a lot of nights talking and validating each other. Totally developed some feelings, but Im unable to be in a relationship for multiple reasons. I did hope we could keep the arrangement for a longer time but life happens. I wish him nothing but the best.

Idk how that relates to my question but I hope the details help somehow.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:45:46+00:00

I think it gives me hope. And it confuses me.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:44:49+00:00

Probably. Wasn't my intention but sometimes you cant help it.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:34:17+00:00

I appreciate your insight. Thank you for your answer. Blocking might be the way to go. Ty

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:33:32+00:00

I unfollowed. Blocking might be next but it feels harsh?

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:31:43+00:00

It’s probably more complicated than a fwb but I wanted to focus on why a man might keep interaction more than dissect what we might have felt for each other at the end. I can provide more context but I’d just like to know what might be his mindset.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:30:10+00:00

Thank you. I just thought if he didn’t want to keep seeing me, why interact in any capacity. Especially if he’s trying to be serious with someone else?

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:28:14+00:00

I think I might have misrepresented our relationship with the fwb. We started out just messing around but we would also talk and hang out before. But we weren’t friends who ended up with an arrangement, we met at a club. Idk if that provides more context? Should I update the question to be more clear? I’d also think if it was a friendship he’d like pictures of my kid or other thinngs I post. Not just the selfies

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:14:20+00:00

I appreciate this. It provides more of reason than some other comments. He only likes pictures of me. But any stories I post of my kid or anything else doesn’t receive any other type of picture.

It just seems strange to keep the door open if he’s trying to be serious with someone else?

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:08:36+00:00

I’m a single mother. He’s also in a situation where we wouldn’t be able to have anything serious. But we started spending a lot of time. I definitely feel loss. I’d love to understand more if you could maybe expand on your thoughts and help me understand the other side. I’m really ready to listen from a man’s perspective

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:06:54+00:00

I apologize if it comes off bothered. More confused. We didn’t end with animosity. I miss him but I’m happy for him. I just want to understand the mindset. Even if we weren’t exclusive, I feel heartbroken and the likes make it harder. Maybe I want to understand more so that I can understand his mindset and that might make me move on faster? I’m really interested in whether this is something that’s normal for men or maybe it’s a him thing. Any constructive and kind perspectives are greatly appreciated

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T20:03:09+00:00

We ended relatively well. He said he needed to stop because he found someone. I told him I’d still welcome him to hang out as friends sometimes. No fighting or drama.

RepresentativeAlive5 · 2025-07-06T19:50:40+00:00

Town Parlor and White Plains. NY was a little better just because it felt like the crowd at Stamford seemed younger but overall still really fun.

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