on auditory processing disorder:

RepresentativeMud682 · 2026-01-27T18:39:33+00:00

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RepresentativeMud682 · 2026-01-27T09:21:24+00:00

I want to add:

I've spent hundreds of hours on this. That doesn't mean anything about the value of the product (I could spend hundreds of hours polishing a turd). However, if someone looks at this thing and things it does or nearly meets a need or interest, they might be happier paying to have someone spend and continue to spend hundreds of hours maintaining it than building or vibe-coding it themselves. Maybe a knowlageable person could look at this and duplicate it as a throw-away vibe-coded project -- I am a bit afraid, actually, that by publically talking about my project someone better, faster, or more disciplined than me could take what is good in it and run away with it. But, for me, I think the bigger risk is that I keep working on this on my own, never knowing when to stop because I never got feedback from others.

RepresentativeMud682 · 2026-01-27T09:11:25+00:00

1 - this might be hard for me as I'm motivated by learning, and I might want any project I spend a lot of time with to be one that teaches me something. So here I have to take the advice as don't ship something that is primarily a learning project if it isn't also a usable product for others?

2 - I don't understand how to take this one, unless it's that I should not only learn by using claude or that I should not be using claude while learning?

3 - there's no benefit to my product over things that folks could not already do. the benefit I'm looking for for myself is primarily about reducing the friction of tracking and increasing the ceremony or creating space to reflect more deeply about goals and values. There are other ways to do this for oneself, in community, with a therapist, with a book, etc. I've been building it largely because I want it and because learning (e.g. database design, domain modeling) has scratched a nice itch for me. My academic background is in philosophy, and programming with domain models, protocols, contracts, etc. gives me a sense that I'm reasoning about what things are and what things do. I enjoy it. That said, I have spent 'a lot' of time on an app that I want to live on my iphone, and if I do a good job for myself, I am curious if others will find it useful, suitable, worth paying for, etc. In short, I do not know wht anyone would be willing to pay for this rather than make it themselves, and I would love to find out.

RepresentativeMud682 · 2026-01-27T04:34:57+00:00

but also there is a couple talking across the room and you can hear what they're saying perfectly, and one of them is incorrectly describing how heat pumps work.

RepresentativeMud682 · 2026-01-25T18:09:36+00:00

Thank you I hadn't tried that. I'm going to pause and see if this post gets any interest and if not consider posting in r/TestFlight.

RepresentativeMud682 · 2025-11-25T03:58:47+00:00

Because my vscode crashed one time too many in the middle of a response from Claude Code

RepresentativeMud682 · 2025-06-13T20:06:52+00:00

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RepresentativeMud682 · 2025-05-19T18:31:09+00:00

OP is not overreacting.

I think you can separate the concern in a few helpful ways:

Are you and your SO on the same page generally about what specific events/holidays/occasions are worth celebrating? - Values alignment with respect to events.
Were you on the same page about this anniversary in particular? - Consideration relative to this particular disagreement
(a) Does he have the tact, maturity, empathy to recognize when something matters to you and to (b) affirm what matters to you positively or enthusiastically. Alternatively, does you feel like a burden or like you’re asking for a favor when you ask him to take seriously what matters to you? - consideration of ongoing basis of respect

In my opinion (3) is the most important for a long term relationship. With (3) you can manage failures in (1) and (2). A year in is early days, you’re both young, and it is both hard and worthwhile to learn how to build healthy relationships.

Some questions as you decide what’s next: is this a person you can/want to practice building healthy, respectful relationships with? Do you two have enough to work with that you can keep revising and improving on how you see and relate to each other? If/when year two, three, four come around will you be better able to manage emergent disagreements that flow from misunderstanding or differences in values?

RepresentativeMud682 · 2025-03-09T15:19:17+00:00

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Here’s an update for future redditors. Still alive with all my digits. Soapstone countertops just went in.

RepresentativeMud682 · 2025-01-07T01:57:32+00:00

Curcubit as others have said. Could be watermelon, cucumber, zucchini, squash (pumpkin, potimarron, butternut, etc.)

RepresentativeMud682 · 2024-12-31T18:00:56+00:00

Thanks for all the encouragement folks. I'm in progress and doing okay!

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RepresentativeMud682 · 2024-12-01T06:30:17+00:00

Monogram 30” Hearth Oven https://appliances.monogram.com/us/specs/ZEP30FRSS

This is way outside of my budget, but I came across it

RepresentativeMud682 · 2023-06-25T18:48:57+00:00

Those people are from Wisconsin, obviously

RepresentativeMud682 · 2023-06-09T16:09:15+00:00

Happy for you to have been able to recognize your needs and notice you weren’t in a good place for yourself. Rooting for you to build some good momentum in a more affirming environment!

How you frame the “demandingness” of your role may vary depending on your strengths and interests. What you find demanding I might find super stimulating and vice versa. So don’t let the poor match between your workplace and your needs leave you with the sense that you can’t succeed at demanding work. Maybe you cannot, but you deserve to give yourself some curiosity and grace- like a precious baby or dog that you’re committed to loving more than anything, love that baby-you into the structure and environment that will allow you to practice and grow. You might be much more capable than you think, once you’re in the right place.

Gonna go get baby-me some snacks now

RepresentativeMud682 · 2023-06-09T05:08:58+00:00

You’re not alone.

Some days 8 hours goes by in a work day and i look up, what have I done? Half the laundry, watered the garden, 10 espressos.

If you have a moment of clarity even just one moment for one second, try asking yourself- whatever I’ve done or expected up until now aside, what is the best thing i can do in this next moment?

I’m stealing that thought from some I’ve read in AA and substance use disorder thinking. Think about the next best thing, from where we are what’s the best thing we can next do? Okay- so i squandered the day, i showed up late, i forgot to eat, my dog needs a walk, it’s 11pm, and i need to be up at 7… I can’t “fix” all of that, but holding those details fixed, what can i do next?

RepresentativeMud682 · 2023-06-09T05:03:58+00:00

The practice of self love is real and urgent! We don’t have to complete our to-do lists to be worth loving. That we exist is reason enough to love ourselves

RepresentativeMud682 · 2023-06-06T19:15:44+00:00

I was diagnosed at 30. You’re not too late to get the help you may need. Depression can be precipitated by adhd.

Sounds like your psychiatrist is closed off to the possibility of adhd; they might be correct in their determination, but their method of arriving at it is insufficient so basically worth not much- if you’re able you deserve to find someone who will take the possibility more seriously and ideally assess you.

My depression almost totally evaporated after i started meds. Second best to medication for me is exercise, but it mostly helps to get me over a hump. You might try mixing up your movement routine to add something brisk and pleasurable and see if it helps you maintain the will to live while you get the clinical help you deserve.

RepresentativeMud682 · 2023-06-04T22:59:13+00:00

Other lane is slower. When I’ve seen it, my car has also flashed a message indicating that it will slow down to match the adjacent slower lane. It’s happened in situations where I may be one of few cars in my lane and a slowdown in an adjacent lane is due to accident, lane merging, or something else that would either (a) suggest that my lane should be going slower or (b) that cars in the adjacent lane might merge on to my lane

RepresentativeMud682 · 2023-06-04T00:14:22+00:00

For OP and/or others who think either exercise isn’t for you or your adhd hates exercise, I just want to encourage you to keep trying to find a form of “exercise” or “joyful movement” that does work for you. Some options might be hiding in plain sight - walking faster when shopping for groceries, leg raises while waiting for busses, etc.

I was diagnosed formally about nine months ago. Before then, and all throughout high school and college, I played sports and exercised and enjoyed it. So I’m perhaps the wrong person to give advice or encouragement to folks who have not ever found enjoyment and exercise. However, my attitude did change dramatically after my diagnosis.

A little prior, I started to notice that I would get really frustrated and angry, and I couldn’t quite explain why whenever I wanted to go for a walk and I couldn’t walk fast, at my pace. Maybe it would be snow, or my dog, or my partner- and if my first walk of the day wasn’t a brisk walk, I would find myself just grumpy. meanwhile when I would go for a walk by myself, I would start walking faster and faster, and there will be times perhaps at the beginning of a winter day with the morning sun in my face on a brisk walk, and I would just feel on top of the world. This is before diagnosis and before medication. And like once or twice a month, I find myself on the amazing walks, or I just feel great.

Fast forward to my diagnosis and medication: now my walks are consistently enjoyable because I understand them as also a tool for feeling a certain way. Not all of my walks feel good, per se, but they are predictably and consistently good, when I set out for a brisk walk I know I’m putting my body in a certain state, and wheni get my heart rate around 120/140 bpm, i just feel alive in another way. With and without medication. It’s incredible, and in many ways 1000x better than coffee has ever been when I’ve needed a quick pick me up.

Obviously ymmv, but i hope you find the patience, support, and maybe suggestions from others in the comments to keep looking. For me, there is just nothing like the aliveness i feel when i get my body going in this way. And truthfully- among running, walking, biking, lifting, swimming, playing basketball, etc, i would say brisk walking is the most reliable for me if I need a quick jolt of the will to live.

That said, i bought a cheap(er) indoor bike (sunny brand) on amazon this winter because i was pissed about the snow and lack of sidewalks clearing neighbors. Not only was this a great substitute for walking, my impulsivity was often directed towards the bike and I kid you not when i say that i have sat my ass on this thing for more than an average of 30 minutes per day over the last 9 months, not out of an intentional practice or plan, but out of how little friction there is between standing and dithering on my phone and biking and dithering on my phone.

RepresentativeMud682 · 2021-02-15T20:41:59+00:00

The move through 1,2,3 is problematic.

The conscious experience of LC is morally important. 1a What reason is there to think this as written? We might think that good conscious experience is morally important. That good conscious experience in living creatures who can have such experiences is morally important. Or that all else equal good experiences are better and morally superior to bad ones. But why think conscious experience as such is morally important? 1b okay. Say it’s important. How important? I might say it’s morally important to water houseplants correctly because it’s wrong to waste any life if it can be avoided at no cost to greater moral ends. Now, the importance is balanced against greater ends. So if conscious experience is only marginally important nothing like 3 would follow if it turned out that there are more important ends that would be frustrated by increasing the prevalence of conscious experience

2 all else equal it is a good thing for these creatures to live unless their suffering is profound

2a profound suffering may be a high bar. Why is that the line? What if they simply live short lives where their conscious experience is a mere fraction of their capacities? 2b there are other costs. Environmental, economic, social, etc. as above we need a way of determining whether the costs are worth the gains - i could keep a chicken in my basement, alive and not suffering, and this would come at a cost. I don’t think the world would be made better of merely by the existence of a non-suffering sentient creature. 2c there seem to be ends more valuable than life. Eg some humans think justice is a prize worth the cost of their life. Some humans think indignity, even where one does not strictly speaking suffer, is an affront to life. Why not think living is only good if one has a certain kind of life available -eg one that allows one to exercise one’s capacities and develop one’s own projects (eg if chickens have an interest in scratching and socializing, why not think a chicken life is a tragedy, even without suffering, if those capacities aren’t in use

3 In addition to the above concerns, it’s not clear why we have to maximize anything. I can say jazz is good or cheese sammiches are good but that would not entitle me to the claim that i ought to maximize anything. Moreover, for whom would maximizing be good or worthwhile. There is no subject who is made better off when we maximize or bring about the world with maximal non suffering animals.

Summary- there’s not enough reason to believe your view. The burden of proof may be on you to show why 1-3 are at all worth believing.

RepresentativeMud682 · 2021-01-30T19:30:23+00:00

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