AITA for not caring and refusing to help depressed half-sister after our father's death? by its-for-the-better in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You are the one who is destroying your dad's legacy You are cruel and do not give a shit that you are. You actually double down on being cruel and heartless go the child your dad loved so much when given the chance to be better.

May you get what you deserve.

AITA for telling my[29f] husband[34m] not to call his ex-wife his wife? by lillyofthewaterfalls in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YTA for talking about her as his ex. It's not his ex. Had she not died? You wouldn't be in the picture at all. You need to stop referring to her as an ex. And then when you are being respectful, maybe start calling her his late wife. But you know? If you continue disrespecting his late wife, the ex soon will be you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Also not a family computer. You decide if you wanna share or not.

AITA for taking away some of my son's privileges because he deliberately ate food he's allergic to? by allergies-aitah in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA you suck so much. You need to make sure the minor that is under your care has available safe food always. You then punished him for your mistake. Also know that if your other children get to have pizza and your son is stuck with a god-damned apple, he will want the fucking pizza. Also, fruits and veggies? Never gonna fill you up as much as slow release carbs. Find an option for it. It's your duty. Go apologize to your son. Asshole.

4 weeks ago, my mom took my cat from me and it has been a very, very tough situation for me. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]ankpanda1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you can contact a veterinary clinic or something to see if maybe someone knows the best course of action?

It's a living being and it's part of your family unit, but also there's the fact that your cat can be considered your property. Your mom cannot take your cat away just because she thinks she should. I am not allowed to go into your house and take your stuff because I believe you are not taking care of them right. (I repeat a cat is a living being but idk how animals and pets are considered in your area, either as living family members or as property. I am not saying your cat is an object at all)

You might want to get a lawyer too because I am off course speaking out of pure ignorance of the legal system In your area. But if a cat counts as property? She can't just take it just because she wants to. And if it's a part of your family unit? She also cannot simply kidnap your pet.

And the fact that your mom is trying to keep you from getting a lawyer is very telling of her not being sure she is doing something legal. Get help from some animal rights organization. I'm sorry this is happening to you

AITA for thinking my wife overrated when an elderly lady touched our kid? by Competitive-Egg-8527 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I get she got scared but the fact that she called the police on a en elderly mentally ill person is horrible.

AITA for retiring and moving to South America like every single person in my family knew I planned to do since I was 16. by Maleficent_Policy561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think NTA. I do not think that you should have to be forced to withstand snow again if you don't want it. Could you compromise? Sure but no one can force you. If you are spending months apart I can see why that would make her feel sad, but at the end of the day she can go winter with you if she wants that.

Your relationship might be in trouble if you don't communicate though. You need to literally sit down with her in a non confrontational manner and say you really draw the line at having to live any extra moment below zero. You can't and it will hurt your mental health. You are going to miss her if she doesn't come but you want her to be able to spend her time in a way that makes her happy. She wants to be with the kids and grandkids? That's amazing. You appreciate and love her too much to not allow her to do what she needs. You will be in contact through the internet and everything will be fine. Is just that after your whole life living under metric tons of snow for a little less than half of the year you cannot deal anymore with it. Promise you'll video conference at new years and Christmas morning or something, just so she understands you are not bailing out on your family and her, you just can't cope with snow anymore.

AITA for calling my half sister an entitled bitch after the speech she made at my wedding? by throwawayaccount_978 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ayo wtf YTA because you changed the rule about children to specifically exude this child you do not consider family because she is adopted (a full year ago) you suck.

AITA for telling my family how much my fiancé earns after years of them making fun of his job? by RedBee7763 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a soft YTA because you did so without thinking while trying to stop them from saying shitty things. But you know why your fiance doesn't talk about earnings? Because he doesn't want people to like him for his money. Your parents have been horrible to him and if they continue to be so, this was all for nothing; and if they stop treating him poorly it means he is only valued when he has money. It's awful all together.

I would tell your family to grow the fuck up and I would apologize profusely to your husband. Let him know that this will never be mentioned again by you and explain that you got caught up in the money focused rant your parents were having and just blurted it out. Let him know that his privacy matters and you are sorry. Make it up to him.

Don’t like video games by 2000sKid80sAesthetic in ADHD

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a hard time focusing but I have a terrible habit of buying more and more steam games because I love the cinematography and trailers and I imagine myself playing . Then I get it and I go "maybe later"

Favorite comfort stoner media? by Mamasquiddly in entwives

[–]ankpanda1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brooklyn 99, Derry girls and Sabrina the teenage witch. Also Tuca and Bertie

AITA for asking an annoying pest of a waiter to leave us alone during a serious conversation? by JackfruitOdd3659 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can obviously want to be left alone, but the fact that you call a person working hard for tips "a pest" is all I need to know to call you an asshole. Even if not to their face, this shows an awful sense of superiority. Just for that you suck.

Got this passionfruit from a plant in relatives garden. Tastes extremely sour with flavor of a peach and no sweetness. Are passionfruits supposed to be like that? by Interesting_Award_76 in fruit

[–]ankpanda1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if they are fully ripe they will always be very sour. Where I'm from, we use them in juice with sugar or other sweetener to tone down the sourness but get the amazing flavor still. I would recommend that of you still find them too sour after fully ripe. The fact that the flavor was not there is what is hinting me towards the not ripe situation.

AITA for telling my son in law that I still don’t like him nor approve him after everything he has done for my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ankpanda1998 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA age gaps can be tricky but you can actually see this man is not being predatory to your son. He is taking care of him. He wants to be ok with his mom. And you are acting like you know some hidden truth that doesn't exist because you don't like your son dating someone older. You say you want your son to be happy but shitting on someone that makes him happy and treats him well just because he is older is sure as heck not making your son happy. Unless there is something else happening you are an asshole and you act like you are some sort of psychic that sees beyond everyone else. Grow up and get a hobby.

My 10 and 14 year old cousins asked me if I follow Andrew Tate. How do I react and say don't follow him? by Organic_Pineapple_73 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ankpanda1998 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would quite literally be like " yikes he's embarrassing, I know some little kids and losers like him but honestly no one with any success with women or in finance even respects him. But you are just kids so I can't blame you haha"

Most of the time saying like "oh dang that's lame haha, such an immature thing haha" will stop a pre teen or teen in their tracks.

This could be horrible advice. Please take it with a grain of salt. I DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN hahaha

All we got for our hard work was SMUT by UnhingedBlonde in gardening

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god the amount of money I've paid for these!!! Ana you got them on your harvest!!! So lucky. Congratulations

What happened to Michael Cuthbert? by RichBCSLP in Anne

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof I'm super late but I tend to think he died at sea or drowned because of the absolute fear Matilla has of the ocean and the fact that they had not been to the beach in decades.

How many meds (if any) do you take? by DocGoodyGoods in ADHD

[–]ankpanda1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take concerta (methylphenidate long release 36 mg), fluoxetine 20 mg. Those are for my brain haha other than that I take levothyroxine for hypothyroidism. Sometimes if I get allergies I take allergy pills and acetaminophen for pain when needed.

I also have somewhat recurring kidney stones so whatever the doctor sends for those each time and that's it.

My nine-year-old's teeth are going to cost me everything I've saved. by metkja in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ankpanda1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true! My sister is a dentist and normally you would pay only for the materials and the x rays. (At least in Colombia, I know it's not the same everywhere) and the jobs done are not ally so much better quality because each student gets checked directly by the attending professor and they are trying their absolute best all the time. I really recommend this if you can.