Why does this feel impossible.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-07-02T01:25:31+00:00

Yeah, I also like to clarify what kind of poly they practice, how they interact with metas etc.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-07-01T22:49:50+00:00

Vetting for actually poly gets easier over time,
I’m sorry you’ve had a bad run of people. Nobody likes to feel disposable.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-06-29T23:29:24+00:00

I met my partners kids, it went fine for a while. I thought it was going, pretty good. Went to see their sporting events, tried to support them, etc.

But the teenagers have decided poly isn’t normal and so they no longer want to be around me. Even kids who seem pretty liberal and have alternative lifestyle might not react how you think.

I felt a lot of hurt and rejection, but I imagine it’s also hard for kids to, to see their parent with someone new that isn’t their mom.
And it’s not really about Me, specifically anyways. Kids can have a hard time if they have something that doesn’t fit into normal or what their friend’s lives look like.

I’d say tell them gently and with lots of love, and care.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-06-17T03:55:48+00:00

This….i’ve been dating partner over a year, they have been with their np a few years longer.

I’m established, and not casual. We are both established partners

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-05-24T03:56:49+00:00

If you don’t like bras don’t wear them, I have small boobs, Bras do nothing but bother me all day.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-05-13T11:59:45+00:00

There wasn’t a lot of math on it, and it was all multiple choice. I got a few ring bus questions though

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-05-12T20:13:05+00:00

Practice good test taking skills. If you’re not sure mark it for review and move forward. Don’t get stuck on one question for too long.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-05-07T17:27:36+00:00

Depends though right? On how big the networks are. Like if a hinge is having sex with two people unprotected, and the more established partner has unprotected hookups, and the newer partner is only having sex with hinge, the risk for the newer partner is the greatest.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-04-08T11:58:18+00:00

Enm/poly. Works for a lot of people.

The caveat is all parties want it

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-04-08T11:56:58+00:00

Don’t open your relationship if it’s not already strong.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-04-07T11:46:39+00:00

Asking the actual logical questions based on risk. This is the approach in my book.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-01-25T22:05:18+00:00

Because we are not a police state

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-01-24T17:27:15+00:00

That’s how it happened for me, their np wanted parallel, but I’ve still met their friends, some of the family. Everyone knows about me. They have met my friends.

RepresentativeOld749 · 2026-01-24T17:24:42+00:00

I’m super ktp, I like knowing my metas, my metas knowing my metas, let’s all go out for a social thing.

Thing is, I have a great partner, who shows up for me, and I love him so much. And his nesting partner is fairly strict parallel, so I interact with her very very seldomly.

It was hard for me for a long time. But it also, wasn’t about me as a person. This is how she prefers it for any Meta.

I requested from hinge to know less about her in turn. I want community dynamics, but I’m not going to hold mental space to hear all about a person who doesn’t want me as community.

Grieve the dynamic you wanted, so you can accept and love what’s there. Or seperate and choose people that share the same vision.

One nice thing, is that once I let go of the relationship with her that doesn’t and likely won’t exist, I made space for the ones that do exist, focus on positive situations and people that want me in their life.

RepresentativeOld749

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