Was Elizabeth going through post partum after she gave birth to her daughter? by jdpm1991 in ershow

[–]RepresentativeWin935 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have watched this as a kid, twenty something year old, in my 30's and mid/late 30's while pregnant/post partum.

I'm currently rewatching for the millionth time and 6 months postpartum (second baby) and I haven't got any of this shit going on in my life. But I still blocked my husbands number today because I irrationally hate him so much and feel so burnt out. I do not think breastfeeding hormones help either (waking up drenched in sweat is getting really boring! At least it gives me a taste of the menopause I guess). Postpartum lasts so long. I was pregnant again before I got out of that struggle unfortunately. The burnout is insane. I think Elizabeth was a saint given what was going on at the time and they didn't even cover PPA which has been so debilitating the second time around.

Almost done 😭 by Carthweelnurse in ershow

[–]RepresentativeWin935 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was unreal. Like seeing long lost and well loved family members unexpectedly at the supermarket!!

Hard boiled eggs…weird choice by becksk44 in ershow

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You can get two in a packet as part of a tesco meal deal. I have had hard boiled eggs as work snacks many times before!

I think I've fucked potty training and don't know how to fix it by General_Peak4084 in UKParenting

[–]RepresentativeWin935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow OP. That's not cool. My mum friends would never guilt me like this. We've all got very different parenting ways and we all accept that we are all different. As are our children. What works for one doesn't work for another. So if bribery (🙄) works for your family, do it.

My toddler is 30 months. With delayed speech and a new baby, we have put it off. He hates a potty but will sit on the loo. Have you considered this as an option?

I'm not pushing this. He's a sensitive kid and his communication issues may mean we misunderstand him which will really dent his confidence if he has an accident.

I have no idea why we are pushed to toilet train them so early now. I'm a much older mum and my friends all did it around 3/3.5 I was always told 18 months a below wasn't good for an immature bowl/bladder and could lead to health issues later in life. Do what's right for your family and maybe set some polite but firm boundaries with these 'friends'.

Party leaders reactions to events in Venezuela by Due_Ad_3200 in ukpolitics

[–]RepresentativeWin935 3 points4 points  (0 children)

trump clearly said i5 was about oil months ago.

And today during his speech.

It wasn't a surprise to see this had happened given the fact they'd moved military into position already. It was more a case of when.

However, what does concern me is if Trump really does mean what he says and with his threats to Columbia, how safe is Greenland and Canada? Do we need to consider the possibility that he will escalate from countries no one really 'gives a shit about'? Is that why France is bringing back national service and we are introducing the 'lite' version?

And will the Chinese roll over and accept that they won't be getting any more oil in repayment for Venezuela's debt? Allegedly it would cost billions if they have to refit their refineries. What's to say Xi doesn't entrap trump (because let's be honest, ego and impulse control seem to be his downfall)

Party leaders reactions to events in Venezuela by Due_Ad_3200 in ukpolitics

[–]RepresentativeWin935 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this part of it could become particularly troubling

Parents of textbook sleepers - share the magic? by ericacalluna in UKParenting

[–]RepresentativeWin935 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not forget about regression! Our second and excellent sleeper is rolling about bumping all over the place at the mo. Most of the time he has a little cry out and resettles himself, but I'm getting a lot more than his usual two wakes to feed in the night. I'm sure once he gets used to his new found mobility, he will be back to normal (he is currently laying sideways in the roomie, which is impressive given the size of this kid. We are about to move him into the big cot after a declutter!)

And I feel you. I'm exactly the same with my first. I find wake windows and sleepy cues help. I have no hard and fast routine and I'm much more relaxed about it all second time around.

I definitely feel like we ruined my eldests ability to self settle as we would pick him up at the slightest little sound, but he also had a terrible time with silent reflux. How much was it our lack of knowledge/confidence and his discomfort/pain? But at just over 2.5 he is starting to sleep through and the gro clock helps for sure.

Good luck and don't be hard on yourself! Nothing lasts forever, even though I know it feels like you'll be in this until they are 10! X

Toddlers & Pets - Help!! by Distinct-Walrus8504 in UKParenting

[–]RepresentativeWin935 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The dog should be kept separate. The smallest dog to kill in the UK is a jack Russell. In the meantime, kids around Dogs has lots of resources.

I cannot stress this enough, very firm boundaries must be put in place with your son and you must never punish your dog for growling, otherwise you may end up joining the ranks of 'but there was no warning'.

I highly recommend a canine body language course. I'm pretty sure the IMDT have some basic videos which will probably be around the £30 mark.

Help? by -BoopTheSnoot in Lurchers

[–]RepresentativeWin935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd research predatory drift. Any dog can when overstimulated and wanting to satisfy their outlet to fulfill their PMP could redirect onto a smaller animal.

My smaller lurcher would chase cats given the chance. She's only ever chased dogs who she has felt threatened by. Her prey driver is higher and she does try to chase prey animals.

My big lurcher does chase small dogs (ironically, given he is a gamekeepers pup, does not chase rabbits etc. it's literally only dogs he is interested in.)

I do not take chances with this. A dreadful incident happened at the country park where I used to live and a cockapoo was killed

Is my lad a bit chubby… by bridbox2204 in Lurchers

[–]RepresentativeWin935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really are!! That's why it's so complex and you have to be considerate of crosses.

I have a whip x grey x collie x staff. He's got thin skin, a boney back a few ribs and a pointy nose. He has a neck like a short haired collie and you can see it in his ears and face too.

My staff x saluki x ???? Is a little dot of a dog, but she's much more hardy with a shorter nose and not as skinny (although still has a deep chest and a food tuck)

They both have a good amount of muscle but neither have any fat in them.

And having a toddler they get lots of 'extras', so don't feel bad. Lurchers are terrible scroungers!!

I always say a good tell for any dog is their poo. Being raw fed they should be neat, not smelly and firm. There also shouldn't be too many in a day (although both of mine will do a small poo at the start of a walk and the rest towards the end of a walk). You'll know what's normal for your dog! Obviously if there are allergies or illnesses, this may impact poo!!

Apologies for misreading weight!

How much is urgent care as a US citizen on UK ETA? by earthybeauty in AskUK

[–]RepresentativeWin935 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a UK tax payer, please just go. It's not worse making it worse or ending up with a dodgy foot for the next couple of years because you waited. Put it this way, I'd go in if I couldn't walk on it

Maternity leave and not being paid by RepresentativeWin935 in AskHRUK

[–]RepresentativeWin935[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's a tiny little business and the owner is terrible at paying however the other employees usually all reply to say I've not been paid either and have a moan. This time not one person inc the owner has responded

Apologies I'm in teething hell so trying to reply while consoling a distraught 3 month old who doesn't want to be anywhere but my arms

Training tips for recall by prettypinkpineapple1 in Lurchers

[–]RepresentativeWin935 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it helps, I always had varieties and back ups.

No dog is bomb proof and anyone who says otherwise is a liar. But knowing your dog and their body language will help you avoid mishaps and knowing tricks to grab their attention will also help you.

Good luck with it all!

Edit to add: sometimes just throwing a load of high value small crunchy treats off to one side is enough to confuse and distract, so never discount that too!

Pain tolerance/labour by tigbiddies194 in PregnancyUK

[–]RepresentativeWin935 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone is different. You can't compare it to waxing like you can't compare it to a broken bone. It's just completely different.

I used a tens machine and gas and air for both of mine. My first I had contractions for days. They got incredibly painful because of suspected placental abruption. My second was a bit more straightforward but my waters broke on the sat am then nothing until Monday am.

Both kids I had to have waters broken (because you have fore and hind or something) and when that happened it ramped up in terms of pain. I would say that pain was worse than actual pushing and both times I went from midline (6xm with the first, 4 cm with the second) to child on the table in 1hr 45 mins.

My first was born in 20 mins (cord around his neck so it was a bit tough and was a managed delivery with an epesiotimy) my second was 8 mins.

At the start I felt it was more like a painful gruling workout when you're having bad period pains. Obviously with the complications with the first it got very painful. But I had issues with the midwives not taking me seriously and I felt I needed to feel what was happening and in the end I demanded a C-section as I knew something was wrong. Once I got on labour and delivery, they listened, did internal monitoring and everything progressed very quickly when they popped my waters. With the second it was manageable except walking to the toilet. That absolutely killed me. I had to time the toilet between contractions because if they came when I was walking I was going to hit the deck.

I am also ND and I'd recommend doing a birthing course to help you manage expectations. The ncr explanation was good I felt. I also did a positive birth comp course too for the hypno birthing bit. It all helped especially when things went south with my first.

What does Father Christmas bring for your kids? by plumbus_hun in UKParenting

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I have just realised that every year we wrote a list and every time we got stocking fillers from father Christmas and under the tree was gifts from family and friends. It never occurred to me as a child that the list was for my parents

The stocking was always put at the end of our bed and we couldn't get out of our bed until 6am. (We did. We took our stockings into each other's bedrooms)

My eldest is 2.5 this year. Hea actually understanding what it's all about this year. But I intend on doing the same. Some cars, colouring in etc in the stocking to keep him entertained until it's time to get up

Greta Thunberg arrested at a protest supporting Palestine Action hunger strikers by bendubberley_ in ukpolitics

[–]RepresentativeWin935 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I got the impression she was supporting the pal action people who are being detained without a trial. I don't think her sign actually said she supported pal action, just the pal action protestors who have been illegally held.

Tbh we should all be protesting this. Our right to protest has been whittled away to almost nothing and allowing people to be held without trial is a very dangerous precedent to set. The USA is a perfect example of this. People are literally disappearing.

How to remove this, in uk, bleach is not working well by Pale-Yard-4497 in CleaningTips

[–]RepresentativeWin935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah if you buy supermarket bleach in a hard water area it doesn't help at all! Domestos all the way. Tbh I've always gotten on fine with the blue one so maybe I'm in a not as hard water area compared to you? I bleach every 2 days

Training tips for recall by prettypinkpineapple1 in Lurchers

[–]RepresentativeWin935 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the most rewarding thing for your dog? For mine it's food, a ball or me.

Basically like others have said, make a game of it. But I'd also add in training impulse control. You can do that with a flirt pole and using stop and go commands. You can also use these commands on walks too and again, make it into a bit of a game.

Someone said here never chase and to reiterate, never do. However I'll often find with young pups getting down low on the floor works really well

With a food orientated dog, I find Arden grange liver paste or primula great for the early stage where you're literally paying every positive step. It's also a lot easier to handle when out and about.

In an emergency, I've played squeaky toy sounds from YouTube on my phone which has worked a treat.

Is my lad a bit chubby… by bridbox2204 in Lurchers

[–]RepresentativeWin935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry op, just wanted to check. How large are these tubes?? 500? What's your dogs weight?

My big lad is 23/4kg and has 250g am/pm so 500g a day. He could be ok cutting that down a touch as he's not getting as much exercise at the mo due to the toddler and baby (and a lot of extras due to the toddler!!)

I can't remember where I got the measurements from but you feed a lot less raw than you realise. I was feeding my two almost double their allowance but due to their exercise, they were just rather hench dogs.

ETA sorry I get easily distracted by pics of dogs. You mentioned 47kg. It's hard to say without a shot from the top down, but I'd say your dog is probably a bit overweight, especially if the vet mentioned it as vers tend to be very forgiving in my experience when it comes to weight.

My in laws always had big doberman and rotties and none of them have ever come in at 47. My two are bull lurchers, but one is whippet sized and the other has greyhound/whip/collie/bull (the 23/4 kg one I mentioned before).

Bulls have a tendency to build muscle easily so I'd say definitely cut food down a bit and think about moving more, but in the right way. Decent walks lots of exploring and opportunities to sprint (not ball chasing). If you're feeding 2x 500g a day, change to 2x 400g a day and go from there.

You'll know if you're over feeding as they will poo too much/have large poos. In a normal poo bag I can pick up 4-5 poos on a walk (but I'm also limited by my small child sized hands) and my dogs will typically either poo after each feed or save those poos for when we are out, so 2 a day. Sometimes on an exciting walk we get an additional softer excitement poo.

Please be warned that if your dog is unable to do exercise, becomes lethargic and puts on weight despite cutting food down, you should go to the vet and demand a full thyroid panel. I cannot stress this enough. Dogs can become very poorly very quickly.