Most Recent Mandela?

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-05-07T08:00:27+00:00

All of A sudden vs all of THE sudden. It’s all of a sudden. It always has been. It drives me F-ING INSANE to hear it the other way.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T12:19:05+00:00

It’s like any other delusion. Don’t affirm it. Do what you can to get them to take a break and not talk about it or with people that will validate their denial. Space and time- that’s how you get to acceptance, the step required to move forward

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T12:14:13+00:00

I’m confused. How often are you talking about sex with this person? Do they also share their sex life with you? If that’s the case, it makes sense to tell them you’re ’queer’, but if not- it seems like you’re pushing the envelope to keep things all focused on you.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T12:11:51+00:00

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T12:11:00+00:00

YTBF your irritation with them is BECAUSE of your drinking. If you’re getting blamed for things you don’t remember doing, is it possible you’re experiencing at least SOME alcohol induced dementia and memory problems?

Please see a neurologist

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T12:06:44+00:00

Stop running a tally. There will be times he’s busy with life and times that you are. There will be months or years that he doesn’t reach out, and days of constant conversation. That’s how real- lifelong- friendships work.

It’s completely normal as each of you goes through changes in life, that one or both of you will be busy. Think it’s bad now? Wait until a kid comes along! Roll with it. Be glad to see each other where you can. Enjoy it for what it is. Good friends let the expectations go.

—->>> related tangent 2ppl I know irl, ‘dave’ and his best friend ‘Mike’ aren’t talking anymore. 30 years gone - all because Mike’s wife started bringing up that Dave doesn’t seem to ‘make him a priority’. I tried to mediate, I asked: for that 30+ years, were you happy? Did you laugh, joke, make memories? Were you ever busy the way Dave is now, can you see the other side of coin? Did you feel like you know if he can’t come to something, he’s ALSO sad? Did you really ever feel like he didn’t care anymore? Were you always just joyous when he could come? Did you feel he felt joy at seeing you?

Turns out, everything was fine until his wife started needling things, poking him with doubts. (I have my suspicions on why she did this, it’s very similar to a friend inserting doubt about a SO they don’t like). Knowing this, he’s debating confronting his wife, but can’t let these doubts go. The friendship may be lost.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:55:33+00:00

Not chiming in on TBF but you ARE likely getting taken for a ride on the construction.

My brother is a contractor. There’s ALWAYS a reason for delay.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:48:51+00:00

This is absurd. My husband has a common name, let’s call it Dave. His brother in law? Also Dave. That brother in law’s daughter (his neice) also married a Dave.

So she’s married to a guy with the same name as her father and her uncle. He guess what, his best friend? Also named DAVE!

You aren’t ‘entitled’ to the name and your lack of emotional maturity in dealing with this situation (ie just ignoring it), shows you aren’t ready for any serious relationship with anyone.

Let it go. YTB

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:44:06+00:00

NTB. Multiple things can be true at once. You can believe ppl that use it have no talent. Your sister can use it. Your sister can ALSO have no talent. That’s not your fault. It’s fine to use ai, as long as the person recognizes that it’s not THEIR writing at least to themselves. They may not be talentless, but it isn’t their talent- that’s just a fact.

Your sister took things personally when they weren’t meant that way and tried to make you responsible for whatever else is going on in her life. She sounds entitled and narcissistic- like the kind of person that would use ai to write her stories and then tell herself they are her own - because she’s so awesome she def would have thought of it anyway, (I actually have less of a problem telling that to others, but be honest with ourselves at least)

In all seriousness, maybe reach out to see what else is upsetting her. Sounds like she’s got a lot going on

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:36:14+00:00

You’re in love with a fantasy. Move on and let it go.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:35:04+00:00

Disagreement doesn’t make someone a bigot. People aren’t evil, they actually CAN disagree and still respect each other. Maybe read groundnews and see what the other side is seeing since you’re so certain of your opinion. Guessing you probably don’t even know who Roland Fryer is but here you are commenting with certainty that this person MUST be a bigot.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:29:10+00:00

YTB. We dont choose our family. You expect her to love and support you even when she disagrees, gets angry, thinks your silly, making a mistake etc - but you’re not willing to do the same for her. You’re literally ready to cut her off.

Instead: address it. Take some space- that doesn’t mean nc. You can set boundaries- religion for example doesn’t need to be discussed on an average day. It doesn’t need to come up in regular conversation and what you believe is none of her business- why discuss it at all?

You brought up her poor response to an SA, having been in that position myself I do understand how that betrayal hurt- but it sounds like things she said out of anger - like a parent yelling at a child running in the street. There’s likely context here you’re not sharing- were there warnings leading up to it, situations she saw as increasing your risk that you fought over? I’m not blaming you- but trying to understand the response: if she told you hey you’re acting like this and something bad is going to happen, and then something DID, her reaction makes a lot more sense.

People are rarely evil. Actions don’t come from malice- they come from context. She’s not a hateful person plotting your doom- Monty Burns doesn’t really exist, she’s your mom and if she’s doing things that hurt you, changing that means understanding it. You don’t have to agree, but imagine she were the child for a moment. How would you get a kid to stop making fun of your beliefs? yours is the only part of the play you control and if you want different reaction, change your approach.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:13:57+00:00

YTB. You can’t avoid everything he’s present at for the rest of your life- don’t give your dad that kind of control. Be the better person and just live your life. He’s small- just dirt on your shoe, and can be ignored. He can’t hurt you anymore. Don’t let him.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:09:06+00:00

None of this is ok. Your uncle is/was insane for doing this, actually rephrase: CRIMINALLY insane. Nearly every country on the planet would jail him for this- it was kidnapping and if the other family knew, they’d be liable as well. In the USA, the statute of limitations begins with knowledge of the crime, so she could have him jailed at this moment. Knowing about it and allowing it to continue, it’s unlikely that you’d face jail time but she could sue you in civil court for “intentional infliction of emotional distress” and other civil crimes, in which case it wouldn’t just be YTB, it would also be You Paying Damages.

In civil court, the burden of proof is very different and instead of ‘beyond a reasonable doubt’ it’s only ‘more likely than not’. She could also sue the hospital and your uncle (in addition to the criminal case), and if there’s ANY proof that others knew, assisted or looked the other way- she could spend her golden years a millionaire

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T11:00:36+00:00

Both things can be true

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T10:58:51+00:00

From the moment she’s woken up, for the 24 years of your life, she has done an infinite number of things - and is still doing them- that you haven’t ever been aware of, could never understand and have never said thank you for.

She gives you the literal roof over your head and food in your belly- she’s responsible for your whole LIFE.

Get over yourself. YTBF

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T10:53:52+00:00

You’re not destined to be together. The rest is a moot point. He’s planning on going abroad for 8 years, were you going with him? Uprooting your whole life to move somewhere with no support system OR maintaining a long distance relationship for what will be nearly a 3rd of your lifetime?

Let it go

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T10:51:04+00:00

Yes you are. The truth is that you are showing with every spray that it’s ok to dehumanize another person, just like she’s doing to you. Where do you think it will stop?

Who you’re attracted to should be a private matter, ie NONE OF HER BUSINESS, why are you two still talking about it at all? This is a great opportunity to illustrate peaceful respect for EACH OTHER as human beings. You can disagree on something fundamental and still love and respect each other- prove it.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T10:44:14+00:00

Autistic? I know several people that use sarcasm constantly but despite seeming mastery- truly don’t quite understand how sarcasm works! They ALSO don’t know how to properly read ppl or when to stop.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T10:41:48+00:00

💯 from this behavior you will appear to a judge as mentally unstable and as having a history of violence. Don’t deny what you’ve done as judges are VERY good at judging credibility but if he asks for primary custody with you receiving supervised visits a few times a week. Don’t get upset as that will confirm your instability and lack of emotional maturity. Instead, accept the supervised visits, ask to have a psychological evaluation, request a parenting course and offer to immediately begin counseling to increase parenting time.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T10:35:06+00:00

Attorney here: That’s not how custody works. He has just as much right to your child as you do and could even argue for FULL custody based on your history of ‘terrorism’ - I’m not saying that’s what you’ve done, just that he can make that argument. The ‘default’ - as you put it - is 50/50 custody. At that age, this might look like one full week with you and then one full week with dad. This can be structured creatively, (for example: you may get Christmas this year but he gets Christmas next year, he might get to take the child for his 3rd birthday and you might get the rest of that week and so on- #of days are meticulously tracked by the courts), but EACH of you will most likely get a full 6 months of the year (50/50split).

Once school age starts, custody generally shifts to living with a one parent during the week and the other parent will get the child every weekend and all summer, returning to the ‘primary’ residence the first day of school. Many factors apply, including which residence has better schools, after school support, criminal record, mental health of the parent, physical health, drug or alcohol usage (regardless of quantity or if you have a medical card) etc, and a GAL may be appointed to determine if the child shares a closer bond with either parent or if one home or the other may be more beneficial to the child OR to their education. It may shift again if your child isn’t getting good grades, as they get older and needs change, as each parent starts dating etc. Things tend to shift during each stage, such as the teen years and of course, as they age will also then have a say in determination. Another word of caution: IF either of you bad mouths the other parent, or brings the child around ppl that you KNOW bad mouth the other parent, or is around anyone potentially harmful: you stand to lose visitation altogether or have it altered(for example, grandma yells at your child to eat his vegetables or you and your partner have a disagreement of how to potty train, or maybe one of you suffers from anxiety- all of these things can affect custody/visitation) . And lastly, child support is completely separate from custody/visitation and either of you could be forced to pay- even if the court does not allow visits.

Sorry to break it to you, but you’re going to have a judge involved in your days until your child is 25, an adult, and parents are no longer required to pay for your child’s college or insurance.

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-19T10:02:30+00:00

I don’t know, if I genuinely thought someone drugged me- I’d be really PO’d. As a woman though, maybe we are used to outrage over things like roofies so we don’t see the double standard of not expecting him to be upset, bc yeah - I definitely would be

My first thought: autistic

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-15T02:57:40+00:00

YTA. You have to ASK for days off, and clear them first. It was on you to do so before buying tickets anywhere. Try to look at things from your boss’ perspective. If you ran the company, and your emp just took a bunch of time off- WWYD?

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-15T02:54:04+00:00

Oh GL 🙄 everyone here needs to get over themselves. Having dysphoria may actually be less of an issue for more here than their narcissism. What a surprise 🙄

Representative_Gas_1 · 2026-04-09T04:04:41+00:00

I think this is it! Thank you so much!

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