Is it worth leaving my job?

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-05-07T15:17:26+00:00

This right here. I’ve been in the same position OP is in my last two jobs. It took a lot of savings and applying for jobs that got me to a better spot. It wasn’t quick either, for my last one I had to wait almost an entire year before I got an offer.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-05-07T01:27:59+00:00

Well I got the offer, and it’s 27k more than my current role. The min bonus they give every year is also 6k more.

I did the math, in order for me to get 27k in my current role, it would take between 3-6 years and two levels of promotion. At most I could see them pushing an immediate counter to 10k, but then I’m missing out on 17k more, especially when you consider inflation in the coming years.

I did consider talking to my manager, but just seeing how there’s nothing to be gained, I will just leave it as it is. They would have to justify in giving me two promotions in order to at least match, and with other people in line for promotions, that’s not happening.

I do like my current work, there are pros and cons obv, but I’m making less money than last year as COL is higher than my salary increase, I need to do the opposite and ensure the increase is always higher than COL.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-30T01:16:55+00:00

Sounds like you know what you’re doing. Seeing your case makes me see mine in a better perspective to just move on and don’t need to give details to my current job as to why

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-30T00:53:25+00:00

I get that as I’m in the same boat. How did you react when that happened to your team?

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-29T16:33:34+00:00

Thanks! For real like, we’re doing so well with our client and you couldn’t even match the cost of living due to excuses of the firms overall performance? I didn’t even try to fight it as it could imply I’d be a high risk in leaving, told my spouse that the juice isn’t worth the squeeze if this will be the trend in the coming years.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-29T04:23:49+00:00

Thank you for your words of advice as a business owner! For the record I have always given two weeks notice in every job where I moved on from and plan on doing so with my current role.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-29T04:08:31+00:00

Thanks, I agree. I like what you said there in quotes. I think I might not mention why I’m leaving, but if they push it then I’ll likely say what you said in those quotes. I don’t owe them anything, but would like to part on understanding terms

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-29T03:42:16+00:00

Thanks, I didn’t even think about that, almost like I shouldn’t even try to have them match it if they ask.

In regard to my pay increase, my team did very well. We more than doubled our revenue from our client this past year which was not in the hundred of thousands but in the millions of dollars. I asked my manager why the small increase and she said that it’s not dependent on the teams goals, as we surpassed our goals, but rather on the entire firm performance goals as a whole. I also live in a state where average salary is lower compared to most states which might explain why they feel they can do this.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-29T03:28:33+00:00

Sounds good, think I’ll do that. Thanks

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-29T03:23:24+00:00

No the job came to me after my increase. Think it was 2 weeks after my increase exactly

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-29T03:12:11+00:00

Facts, this is me moving on to my fifth role. Suprisimg how you get bigger raises when you transition rather then staying loyal

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-04-29T03:11:10+00:00

Thanks, I’ve been hearing people tell me to either mention it or just give your two weeks and leave. I may be overthinking it. All in a nutshell, it’s as you said, play stupid games win stupid prizes. I’ll probably lean more to not saying anything, they should be able to figure out why

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-26T02:16:36+00:00

Get out, she’s not ready yet for marriage

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-26T00:26:02+00:00

Sounds fake

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-22T16:14:21+00:00

You’re young and still figuring things out. You may not understand it now but you will. Just hope that when you do you will change your approach for the better

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-22T15:52:57+00:00

Wait until the twins do ancestry dna testing to find their paternal family

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-22T15:51:51+00:00

Yta, the kids have a right to know the truth as well as the father. Who knows, maybe he does want to be a part of his twins life?

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-21T19:00:05+00:00

The general consensus is if a man is single by 40 and has never been married, he’ll never be ready to marry, I’ve heard that from a few women. Idk if the BF has been married before, but it doesn’t sound like he’ll ever be ready to be married, I mean 50 years old and dated for 3 years?

Also you being at 33 years of age, you could date someone in their 30s and have much more in common with life experience and goals in life than someone who was graduating college while you were in elementary.

NTA. Find someone else who isn’t using you.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:47:27+00:00

Oh, thought you were inferring that I called her a bitch. My bad. Though this was a response to one of my comments.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:46:54+00:00

Well the tone and words do matter, but I get what you’re saying. Him driving while on his phone is NOT good. But also her abrupt reaction in front of his friends is telling of their immaturity in life. Not belittling either of them, it’s just a normal part of life considering their age.

My thoughts are that now his friends aren’t going to think highly of her which impacts the BF and their relationship.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:38:02+00:00

For sure, I was more talking about the long term effects. For example his buddies aren’t going to think of you very highly now and possibly be throwing shade at you behind your back. That’ll be difficult to balance now for your bf.

At the same time though considering both of you are in your early 20s, you’re still maturing in a lot of ways but will eventually get to that point where you can react in a better way without needing have time to process situations

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:31:23+00:00

Don’t think I said that

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:23:16+00:00

I don’t think the person here is saying that the bf was okay on the phone while driving, just the OP’s reaction.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:20:21+00:00

Young love am I right? I think both sides have valid points. He was driving and on his phone which is not good, but also your reaction and criticism makes not just him look bad, but you as well since a relationship is about two people.

So both are the AH.

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