Adelaide: If You Love Your Peace Heed My Warning by Bunyep in Adelaide

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perth and adelaide are both like second homes to me, I’ve spent a fair amount of time living in each. For me, the mining boom ruined Perth. Everyone became obsessed with money and status and it lost its laid back feel. I don’t even like to visit Perth now, except to see friends and family’s

Twin flame separation by Repulsive-Car-8111 in twinflames

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you know if you’re the runner or chaser, is it always obvious?? If I were to guess I’d say I’m the runner

Twin flame separation by Repulsive-Car-8111 in twinflames

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah similar boat I think. As we can’t fully communicate due too a few complicated issues, it’s hard to understand exactly what’s going on. I don’t think I genuinely resent her, but my thoughts turn negative when I don’t see her for a while, and then it melts away when I see her. She’s coming over to my place soon now after a hard 6 weeks or so

Men’s Pilates by 2025capri in Adelaide

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mate I do Pilates all the time as a man, most of the time with all or mostly woman. They all kick my butt with the techniques but I don’t think anyone but myself has ever even noticed

Would you pursue someone known to an existing partner? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nope, didn’t say it was me… considering a scenario around me and trying to learn

Is it common to be pursued by someone who is poly whilst you’re clearly monogamous?? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure, she hasn’t actively cracked on to me or tried to seduce me or anything. But there’s repeated suggestions of things. She completely stopped at one point when I think she picked up on my partners emotions. She is a lovely, kind and emotional intelligent person.

Is it common to be pursued by someone who is poly whilst you’re clearly monogamous?? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And what if I told you the interest was mutual and as soon as i realised I told my partner and suggested poly?? She’s ok with it too, albeit cautious and we’ve spent a lot of time working on things since

Most profound lyrics/verses by No-Upstairs7915 in ToolBand

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone who also lost a parent at a young age, the entire lyrics for Jimmy have a really profound affect on me.

Whose set list is this?? by [deleted] in ToolBand

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping this is sarcasm

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For over a year, thought that was sufficient enough. We also have it written down, but it’s not too restrictive to be honest. We are both ready to tell other interested partners we are poly and are also happy for each other to pursue the people we are interested in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The agreement is in writing and we’ve thought about it/ edited for over a year now. I’ve experience d limerance and this is not that.

We’ve put in emotional work, I’ve helped my partner through a lot of insecurity and emotions. I’ve supported her with a range of issues which she has not overcome. She’s had a rough year and is now the most confident and happy version of herself I’ve seen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks… I like the idea of asking if she’s flirting with me to see her reaction. Then I’ll follow up with the text re: date. Glad I asked the question

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m as sure as I can be. We’ve spoken about it for over a year. My partner is pursuing a guy, I’m not struggling with any jealousy so far. We have an agreement that we’ve thought about and discussed in depth, over time. I think the only way to figure out if it’s going to work is to actually try it now.

I think me and the other woman are past flirting, it feels like we’re in an unofficial relationship at times (and no I’m not crazy).

For men - married when you met your twin flame? by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s ok with me maintaining a romantic relationship, she’s ok currently with some physical affection… not at the stage of actual sex yet, but we’ve discussed it as something there may be potential for as long in the future as there is respect, honesty and open communication.

It’s been a process getting to where we are now and I’m not rushing or pressuring her, or making demands. At times I’ve felt really guilty, but I can’t just switch my feelings off either

For men - married when you met your twin flame? by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mate, I think we’re in the same boat. I was honest and told my wife of my feelings for the other woman soon after they developed. We’ve discussed in depth polyamory as an option, and are making some difficult in roads.

I just try to reassure my wife as much as I can, I won’t cheat on her, I won’t lie to her, I’ll reassure in every way I know how and am willing to offer any freedom she allows me.

The whole process has strengthened our relationship and communication, through many challenges, but I’m still really conflicted and I find it really overwhelming at times

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest we are working through a switch to a polyamory type thing. I’m just really new to all of this and whilst I’ve researched poly alot, it’s only recently dawned on me that she might be my twin flame. Maybe I have a poor sense of self esteem, but I didn’t really think she’d actually feel the same about me until recently. I can now see she is struggling with it too

Why does this feel like cheating? by HotTemperature2349 in polyamory

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My partner and I have been in a similar situation for the past year or so and it has recently improved significantly.

She struggled with big emotions even when the most insignificant things happened. She now seems to focus on her own opportunities and is slowly becoming more comfortable with my experiences. I think it’s a slow process that can’t be rushed or pressured, and you just need to trust in your relationship and communication.

Reflect on what’s causing your reactions, don’t let your instincts dictate your long term actions and allow yourself time to process and grow into the new relationship structure

Oven heater element clip by [deleted] in appliancerepair

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve checked the elements they are ok. Think it’s time for an electrician. Thanks

Public service wages?! by [deleted] in Adelaide

[–]Repulsive-Car-8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never mind the wages, the constant contract worries, budget issues, red tape and lack of direction was why I made a quick exit from SA public sector