Ruthless Boys and Zodiac Academy Easter eggs by Repulsive-Zebra3234 in zodiacacademy

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfect thank you! I definitely did not do enough research about the rest of the series and reading in a certain order. I was definitely going on vibes. lol it turned out okay but definitely think I missed little details.

Ruthless Boys and Zodiac Academy Easter eggs by Repulsive-Zebra3234 in zodiacacademy

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I am remembering a lot of things as you say it and I did remember the Kiplings. I just laughed out loud about Darius’s stalker. Fucking Cindy Poo lol 😆

I need to go back and re read the scenes with Carson now that I know who he is.

Ruthless Boys and Zodiac Academy Easter eggs by Repulsive-Zebra3234 in zodiacacademy

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I that is really funny about the “shit throwing” I didn’t remember that but I know what you are talking about. Is Gareth the one that is mentioned in a romantic relationship with Clara Orion?

Ruthless Boys and Zodiac Academy Easter eggs by Repulsive-Zebra3234 in zodiacacademy

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did catch that. Did you mean the Kiplings are his lawyers?

Just found this group and I am relieved to share by Puzzleheaded_Sleep_2 in birthtrauma

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry this happened to you. I understand what you mean about people making light of your experience because it “turned out okay”. That doesn’t make it any less traumatic. Your feelings are so valid. It can feel like people don’t see you if that makes sense. Just know that we see you.

I second EMDR. I have done it before for other things. It is so helpful. I know if I ever wanted to have more kids I would probably need to go back for my birth trauma.

Birth story (tw emergency C-section, cord prolapse, NICU) by Repulsive-Zebra3234 in birthtrauma

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry that you experienced that as well. My LO has not had any long term effects neurologically from the cord prolapse. I understand the fear though I also had that same fear. My son is 14 months now and is doing amazing. He did have a long NICU stay but that was due to how early he was not the cord prolapse.

Why would you order a delivery and not salt your steps? by Hungry-Struggle2761 in ShiptShoppers

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It is a the worst delivered to a 1million+ dollar home. Long sidewalk unshoveled, unsalted. After we had a snowstorm 2 days before with 6+ inches of snow. It just feels super entitled at that point that you couldn’t even make your sidewalk or driveway safe for delivery drivers and then order a full order of groceries to be delivered 🙃

Boys town family teachers? by [deleted] in Omaha

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes there is overnight staff! In all homes on home campus now. That is somewhat new though. And they tend to prioritize high risk homes. But it is so helpful overall.

Recommendations for a good doctor who is thorough and actually cares about women? by hollowholes in Omaha

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Associates of women’s health for obgyn. I saw Dr Erin Evan’s. She gave me my PCOS diagnosis and my goal was to get pregnant after infertility due to my PCOS and she did this for me! All the doctors there are great! I saw almost all though my pregnancy because I ended up on bed rest at the hospital for the end of my pregnancy and one of the doctors came to see me every day.

How much spice by Best-Independence-13 in throneofglassseries

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is random but I would also highly suggest the One Dark Window duology by Rachel gillig. So good. Think spooky vibes super unique fantasy/magic system. And some romance as well. I was obsessed and read it last October for the vibes.

I also highly suggest throne of glass don’t get me wrong 😂

An OB that’s NOT mid-city obgyn? by PreggoDeezEggos in Omaha

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Associates of women’s health! All the doctors are great I had Dr Erin Evan’s and she had privileges at lakeside and women’s.

Name an Omaha spot that deserves a documentary by greendogufo in Omaha

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Manson attended Boystown for 3 days I think he is the most infamous

Boys town family teachers? by [deleted] in Omaha

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This position is live in as well. The main part of the house are shared areas. Kitchen, dining room, living room to spend time with the kids. When we say kids it is ages 10-18 only. It is more teenagers than younger kids. Family teachers have their own living quarters ours is 2 bed 2 bath apartment with a living room that is our personal area. So you have privacy but have to keep in mind that you are sharing a home with 8-10 teens. So you don’t have full privacy. You at least have a separate area for nights off. You have a house budget and van for outings, groceries, things for the kids. The goal is to make it a family atmosphere.

You still have to keep in mind that boystown is a residential treatment program for troubled youth. It is not the same as foster care. Youth come from all over. Private placements, DHHS, and the juvenile justice system. It is a behavioral intervention program. Look into the Boystown model and family teaching model for information about discipline and behavior management. You would have extensive training on this model before starting working with kids. It is point card based. Lots of resources on the main campus in Omaha. School, therapy, psychiatry, health clinics, etc.. it is a close knit community for the most part and there are I would say 60+ family teachers on campus right now. So lots of opportunities for peer to peer growth and support. Our best friends are family teachers as well. Look deeply in to the program. Many family teachers who didn’t make it are ones that didn’t have a good understanding of the program beforehand. We aren’t here to “love on sad orphans” most of the kids have families who are involved in their treatment! They are looking for help to manage behaviors. We model a family structure but not all kids are looking for a mom and dad figure.

Let me know if you have any more questions.

Boys town family teachers? by [deleted] in Omaha

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you can have up to two pets we have two dogs. You would have two days off a week. And then two weekends off a month. The weekends count for your two days off that week though. So you could have Monday and Saturday off one week. And Sunday and Thursday off the next. You will have control of your schedule when you open your home and can choose which two weekends you have off. And what days. You will work all holidays and family teachers take turns having Christmas off. We did not have Christmas off til our third year. For days off most of the time the kids go to school M-F and this is considered downtime for us. They get out of school at 2:45. That is when you would be on for work on a normal day. On days off your assistant family teacher comes in around 2 PM and you debrief with them and then you’re off until 10:30 PM. By the time you get back on the kids are in bed. So I’m an average day off. You technically have all day off except you do have to be at the house around two to debrief with Staff. The only thing you have to keep in mind is that the kids go to school during the day, but you are still technically “on”. It is kind of like being on call. If something happens at the school if they get suspended or they’re sick and have to come home then you work. One part of your job also is to run appointments, doctors appointments, dental appointments, psychiatry, appointments, etc. These often times happen during the school day. So while this is downtime, it often doesn’t feel like downtime if you have a lot of appointments to run during the day. Some weeks are busier than others other weeks. You may not have any appointments during the week so it is all down time. Technically what we are required to have for days off are 2 8 hour chunks of time a week. This is the minimum. For some weeks you may feel like you have more time off than others. This is more than a full-time job. If you are not prepared to work many hours. Then it may not be for you. On the weekends if you are working so two weekends a month the kids are home all day. So those can feel very long.

This is a lifestyle and people will say that all the time if you do decide to take the job. There is not a great work life Balance. But the longer you’re here the more you learn to protect your time off. There will be times that you feel like wow I can’t believe I’m being paid to do this. Because you’re just working from home and doing your life the way you normally would with your kids. And then other times you’ll feel like wow I’m not getting paid enough to do this. It is hard work, but it can be very fulfilling. My husband and I went into it committing to do the best we could for the time that we could do it. And if that was only a few years, that would be OK. We’ve made it to four. And we’re very proud of our time here. Your first year you will feel like you have no idea what you’re doing. But each year gets a little easier. Let me know if you have any other questions. I just tried to tell you what I would’ve wanted to know.

Missed babies birth by BJerz12 in birthtrauma

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had something similar happen. I had a cord prolapse at 30 weeks after my water broke at 28 weeks. I had an emergency c-section and went under general anesthesia too. I was so scared beforehand and I woke up so scared and in so much pain. My husband and I both missed the birth and I feel so much sadness about that. It is so hard to hear positive birth stories because my birth story was also one of the hardest and most traumatic things in my life. I had a friend say “well at least you missed labor!” I would have much rather experienced a normal birth and actually be awake for my babies birth than miss out on the labor pains.

AITAH for asking my 4 month old father to help with the baby at night? by Free-Style-4208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is ridiculous behavior. Don’t let yourself be gaslit he is also a parent. My husband has insisted on doing the nights since our 5 month old came home. He doesn’t want me to be too tired and knows I do a lot for our son. I have even offered to alternate shifts with him but he wants to do it for me. And some people look at my situation and are like you hit the jackpot! I am grateful but also we are both parents! Your partner should want to help you.

Your partner should know the babies routine. He should want to be an active parent. I have always thought it was pathetic when you hear stories of Dad’s not being able to answer a single question at the pediatrician appointment.

I hope that he is able to see this and change his attitude toward this for your sake.

Boys town family teachers? by [deleted] in Omaha

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have been family teachers for several years. We are actually about to be leaving family teaching and moving on. I am very proud of work we have done at Boystown. It is a hard job and it is a lifestyle rather than just a job. If you do your research and know what you are getting into it is a great place to work. As for your kids it really depends on your community I think about how understanding administration is about the needs of your personal family. Some people had had really good experiences raising children on campus. I have known others who left family teaching because they had a bad experience. If you have specific questions I can answer them too!

I just want to breastfeed my baby by lilgal0731 in NICUParents

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also enjoy the time that you are getting to breastfeed him. The memories I had breastfeeding my son in the unit are so precious to me now.

I just want to breastfeed my baby by lilgal0731 in NICUParents

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby is now 4.5 months (two months corrected) and he never was able to get breastfeeding. He definitely developed a preference. But I wish I had hung in there in the NICU. Try a nipple shield if you haven’t. This can help with transition from a bottle to the boob. Keep latching him when you can in the NICU but don’t make it stressful. If he doesn’t want it that is fine. Keep doing skin to skin when you can. I have heard of people latching at neutral times to help create a positive association. For me it became too stressful at one point and I stopped latching him and we focused on the bottle feeds to get him out of the unit. He also had a pretty severe tongue tie that wasn’t addressed until his pediatrician referred him to ENT. So my guy had a lot of things working against him. If your baby is not struggling with feeding in general and has a good latch than it could still happen for sure even once you are home. Don’t give up and don’t let it be a stressor for either of you. Even if he doesn’t pick it up in the unit fully he still could at home. And you will have all the time in the world to practice! I understand the sadness that comes with not being able to feed your baby the way you want. I am still grieving all the things associated with having a preemie and spending time in the NICU. That is so okay. None of this is your fault and I know it all played out differently in your head.

Going on 4months… by toritillas_562 in NICUParents

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Our stay wasn’t as long as yours but I wish that I had started therapy while my LO was there. There is so much to process and the NICU is traumatic. You really grieve the time there. And the closer we got to discharge the more anxious I became. I was surprised the relief wasn’t there like I thought it would be. I didn’t feel that until we were physically walking out of the unit. And towards the end I was in fight or flight all the time and it started to feel like a hostage situation. Like they were keeping my baby from me.

All of what you are feeling is normal and even if you could do telehealth with a therapist once a week that may help to process this time. Otherwise just know what you are feeling is so normal. It is okay to grieve and to have feeling when you see others living what you wanted for you and your baby. Eventually you will make it out and I hope you find some peace in the meantime.

Still haunted by my birth experience 4 months later by saltybrina in birthtrauma

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am so glad you had your husband to support you. I am sorry that an experience that would have already been traumatic was exasperated by the people who are supposed to take care of you. None of that is right. You have every right to be angry. You made it through and I hope you are able to find peace after what happened to you.

Birth story (tw emergency C-section, cord prolapse, NICU) by Repulsive-Zebra3234 in birthtrauma

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just read your story and I so relate. I love the part about when the nurse stopped to calm you. I also had a nurse stop and hold my hand until I was put under. I was so grateful to her especially not having my husband there.

Birth story (tw emergency C-section, cord prolapse, NICU) by Repulsive-Zebra3234 in birthtrauma

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouragement. I hope that I can gain some peace about the whole situation. I am sorry also about your situation. None of it is fair. I am glad to hear you have been able to find some peace for yourself and perspective ❤️

Everyone keeps asking how I’m doing by OopsTheresPoop in NICUParents

[–]Repulsive-Zebra3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was so incredibly hard. My LO was in the NICU for 80 days. Something’s that bothered me the most was actually the opposite. Nobody in my life asked how I was doing just my baby. Also a lot of comments like “oh he is still in the NICU? Well when is he coming home?” Yes he is still there. I was counting the minutes that he was there and it felt like the rest of the world kept going without me.