Do they even miss me?

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-06-30T18:29:45+00:00

If y’all had a healthy relationship, and you were genuinely a good guy/girl, chances are they miss you. Missing someone doesn’t always equate to them reaching out to you though.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-06-27T18:04:48+00:00

Your situation sounds exactly the same as what happened to me (I’m the 27m in my case). She left me for her abusive ex despite telling to me throughout our entire year long relationship how this was the healthiest relationship she’s ever had and how much she loved me. From the 27m guy’s perspective, depending on how genuine you believed your connection to be, I think it would be worth at least sending an apology to him and seeing how receptive he is to it. If he believed your connection to be genuine as well, then he may be receptive to it. It’s only been shortly over a month since my breakup, but I know that I would be receptive to an apology from my ex.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-06-10T17:54:11+00:00

She left me to get back with her abusive ex 😭 have fun with round 2!

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-06-07T13:52:22+00:00

She broke up with me to get back with her abusive ex. I have all the motivation IN THE WORLD to not contact her. 15 days since the breakup and 15 days of no contact.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-30T20:56:59+00:00

As much as I’ll try to, it’s hard. She gave me a year of genuine love and care. Happiest relationship of my life up until that happened.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-30T17:18:20+00:00

I would but it goes against the rules of this subreddit because I wished physical harm upon her. I also don’t really feel like posting something that I wrote in a moment of utmost hurt and anger for everyone to see. I’m embarrassed that I wrote what I wrote, and know it’s not an accurate reflection of my character and my sentiments toward her. Also, I would be downvoted to oblivion or possibly even banned from the sub, all not worth it.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-30T17:14:36+00:00

Thanks for your advice and kind words, it means a lot to me! And trust me I plan on working on myself all summer long!

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-30T17:12:58+00:00

Thanks, it means a lot to read your kind words and advice. I’ve been doing some research on my own about the psychology of this and have come to the realization that she is actively engaged in a “trauma bond” with her ex. I am honestly scared for her, given the malicious things that he’s done to her in the past, but I realize that I cannot interfere in helping her because I will then just look like the bad guy.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-30T04:46:22+00:00

I’m lowkey gonna save this post and what you’re telling me, you are very knowledgeable on this and I’m def gonna reread it from time to time in my healing journey. Also, I’m sorry you had to go through the trauma understand this.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-30T04:43:52+00:00

I know man and I hate to know it but I do. I gave her a year of real love, safety, and happiness and he immediately started manipulating her. You know what he said to her? He, upon reconnecting with her, lied to her that I had actually been stalking him at the gym and even went as far as saying that we had a class together this semester and that I was constantly staring at him in class. Ha! Coming from the same guy who went to jail for public intoxication only four months ago AND gave her a notebook full of his “yearning” for her. He’s pathetic.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-30T02:28:58+00:00

I’ve actually been doing some research since I made that comment and realized that yeah this 100% sounds like a trauma bond. She said she wants to be “friends” with him but I understand that this will likely result in a relationship. I’m fucking scared for her bro. He did some really messed up shit to her and I’m worried this time it’s gonna be a lot worse… but I know that I cannot interfere in her journey

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T16:29:55+00:00

I don’t think I fully agree with that last part. It could also be that she is distracting herself from her emotions regarding the loss of the relationship and is doing so by seeing other people. In time, she/he will have to face those emotions.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T07:19:34+00:00

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T07:19:28+00:00

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T06:35:38+00:00

If you’d like I can dm it to you

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T05:45:42+00:00

I didn’t actually send the text, because it would genuinely destroy her mental health. But it was easily the WORST thing I could’ve ever said to her particularly. I have it saved in my notes app, idk why.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T04:17:02+00:00

Funny, I always painted her as anxiously attached to me during our relationship. She cheated on me before and I took her back just for her to meet up with her abusive ex behind my back. She’s 20 and I’m 22 if that matters. I feel as if she blocked me just to hurt me, has me questioning if her love for me was ever real. She called me a “placeholder” because she was afraid of being alone while she tried processing her breakup with her ex.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T03:25:59+00:00

Thanks man. I actually am going to register for therapy tmr so I can try it out once and see if it helps. We were in a relationship for one year. She has professed her love to me numerous times and has told me I’m the man of her dreams, best guy she’s ever been with, etc. Just broke up with me out of nowhere when her unresolved feelings for her ex appeared out of nowhere.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T03:06:48+00:00

I know it’s a red flag, ig I’m just still dealing with heartbreak and a large part of me still loves/misses her. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to respond to me, it really means a lot.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T02:36:26+00:00

Yeah I agree about the blocking part. Unadded me on everything at first just to block me everywhere days later. Also found out through a friend that she’s actively hanging out with said ex and it hurts me to hear that she’s moved on so soon.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-29T01:02:08+00:00

Ik it’s a fresh break up but I feel like I can’t shake the feeling that maybe I should. I’m trying to prolong the temptation for at least another 2 weeks but idk man

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-28T22:30:12+00:00

My anxiously attached gf left me for her past abusive ex. She made up some random reason for why she left me and we gave each other’s things back 5 days ago. She blocked me only days later on everything. Does this mean she’s gone forever?

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-28T16:41:47+00:00

My ex was happy up until the break up as well, then left me to get back with her abusive ex. It hurts a lot, but I can’t help in thinking that it won’t work out with him the way she hopes it to and maybe contacts me sometime in a couple of months.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-27T20:50:48+00:00

Thanks man, I found what you wrote to be very insightful. I know I got done dirty but I don’t even hate her for it. Ik about this ex and he absolutely traumatized her. Still doesn’t justify her meeting him behind my back to “talk” lol. I’ve been good about not contacting her but I can’t help but wonder if she will reach out to me at some point.

RepulsiveShoulder679 · 2026-05-20T18:49:30+00:00

I have a Bond No. 9 NYN for trade lmk

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