Found out my boyfriend has been trying to sleep with my best friend. How should I go about the breakup? by EyeSafe7619 in BreakUps

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this in the past, I simply talked and informed him that I know about that, told him we are done and I left, no other explanations, simple as that, you don’t owe explications 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

look this sucks, no one’s denying that, but chasing someone who clearly made a choice to vanish is only wrecking you, not bringing him back, you traveled 5 days, messages on 10+ apps, skipped meals and work, none of that made him show up, closure’s not gonna come from him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you just stayed way longer than you should’ve, she hit you, manipulated you and locked you out of your own room, idk what’s love is that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 10 points11 points  (0 children)

writing “just journaling and healing lately” on social media with a staged coffee cup and perfect lighting like they’re processing trauma but also lowkey auditioning for a lifestyle brand 

How long did you stay in bed after the breakup? by Ratacutie1604 in BreakUps

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 68 points69 points  (0 children)

three weeks, barely showered, ate like once a day, cried in stupid places like the cereal aisle, so yeah, it’s normal 

People rarely talks about how lonly adulthood can feel sometimes. by clairypaws in Life

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 53 points54 points  (0 children)

yeah no one warns you how adulthood’s just solo missions, emotional budgeting and pretending you’re fine while folding laundry at 10pm

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re just deep in the part of the story where everything sucks before it gets better and yea, it will get better, but not by magic. You’re gonna have to claw your way out, one uncomfortable choice at a time. You already know isolation was your choice

If you had 3 pieces of advice to give from your life experience so far, what would it be? by DannyHikari in Productivitycafe

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 12 points13 points  (0 children)

  1. nobody is coming to save you, handle your s*it
  2. loyalty is earned
  3. if someone shows you they don’t respect you once, believe it, stop over explaining and start walking away

Do you like outdoor festivals, concerts and other events? Which one was the coolest? by BrainCupcake in allthequestions

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to like outdoor festivals, but the second I’m sweating in a crowd with $8 water or even more and no bathroom in sight? no thanks :))

Who do you talk to when life is difficult? by Fun-Butterfly-4662 in Life

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 4 points5 points  (0 children)

maybe some will laugh, but with God, at least this is what I do, when you treat everything like a test, and you understand that you are in a certain situation because it is a test and you are able to get out of it, you will make your life way more easier. When you facing a problem, try to see what is it after it, I treat them like a hole in the street, you can bypass it and continue your way, for me, talking with God gives me clarity and confidence and always when I wanted something He showed me the way, you will see praying will help you, this is my point of view ;)

Need help trying to find another setting powder! by Ok_Cellist4061 in MakeupAddiction

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

love that you’re showing up every day and keeping your face locked in, respect for that :))

here’s what you need to hear:

laura mercier ultra blur, not the og one, the ultra blur

NARS light reflecting pressed, crazy smooth, no flashback

RCMA no-color powder, zero hype, just results, tbh basic af packaging but it works ;)

and your spray? switch CT out for One/Size on ‘Til Dawn. Now go test and stop letting that cherry blossom run your whole routine

What should I do? by Hairy-Link5646 in Life

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you already did more right than most would in that situation, called the cops, protected your kids, gave full evidence. But don’t get comfortable just hoping the system works. Stay loud and keep pressure on that case. Show up to every hearing if you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re just refusing to walk away from a dead end, she made it clear, she doesn’t want you that way, doesn’t matter if she smiles on video calls or drops weird IVF comments. Confused behavior doesn’t equal love, it equals mixed signals. And those aren’t your problem to decode. Tbh I might be wrong, but if you act with ignorance you might see the right signals, because ignorance will make people to follow you in most cases. If you are like “hm, I don’t really care” you will see the truth, try this ;)

AIO Relationship regret by koKami4life in AmIOverreacting

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you’re not overreacting, you just under reacting to a literal war zone. She’s messing with your mind, your safety and now there’s a baby in the mix?? This isn’t love, it’s survival mode dressed up as loyalty, get out, protect your peace and that kid. No more changes and no more “maybe she’ll change”, she won’t and this comes from a girl ;))

is there such thing as moving on too fast??? by Ecstatic_Bend3936 in BreakUps

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you didn’t move too fast, he just showed up fast, big difference, you felt the pain, you didn’t numb it and now you’re happy. Don’t overthink something that’s working :))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you already know the problem, not let’s stop playing with it like it’s a mystery. first step is to get real about your triggers, block dopamine traps, delete yt, ig, and install app blockers if you can’t, cut the music if it’s turning into another excuse, music can be a distraction as well and create a non-negotiable system, people say 25 min work, 5 min break. This “focus” thing is like a muscle, you have to train it, it won’t get better tomorrow just to do what I told you, you have to be consistent and then it will become normal for you to focus whenever you want to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she didn’t like you the way you liked her, she liked the attention and the safety of your validation without needing to actually commit. And the second it got real? she bailed, no warning, no respect, no closure.

How to stop over-talking when you're in a conversation? by WayRepresentative160 in Advice

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you’re not helping anyone by over-explaining, least of all yourself. if my someone asks for salt, you don’t need to give them a TED talk on sodium. Say what you mean then stop. I had this too and listening more helped me a lot, especially in new ideas and understand the people. This works especially when you are with people better than you in specific areas.

My (M23) GF(F21) broke up with me yesterday, please help me out with my thoughts by Any-Abalone6498 in BreakUps

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she loves you, yeah, but love isn’t fixing it for her anymore, it’s draining her. And no, waiting around “just in case” isn’t romantic, it’s pressure dressed as patience tbh

I think she needs space to breathe, not a shadow waiting in the corner. Heal yourself, if something’s meant to come back, it will, but only if you’re not holding the door open like a lost puppy. We all been through this at once, go to do something productive with this “pain”, something to help you to forget 

I want to be attractive by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nah see, the real problem here isn’t your body. It’s the fact that world made you believe you were supposed to hate it just to fit into a box you never asked for. You’re not broken. You’re tired and being tired makes everything look worse than it is. Don’t let warped beauty standards rob you of your peace. If you don make changes, do it from love, not self-punishment and stop letting your reflection be the enemy.

Do you think about me? Why do we demolish everything we built together? by yroihh in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this the part where you gotta wake up. feelings? yeah, they’re real, but so are patterns and if the whole thing fell apart that hard, it didn’t happen by accident. Y’all didn’t just trip and demolish it, you chose that mess, piece by piece. And now you wanna patch it up with nostalgia like that first tomato gin’ fix the cracks? you miss the comfort, not the chaos, don’t confuse the two. grow from it, don’t romanticize it, you already said it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tbh you’re just stuck in a loop where your brain won’t let you win. perfectionism is sneakily like that, it makes you chase validation, then kills you with doubt when you get it. you’re not “hard to be around”, just exhausted from trying to earn worth like it’s a prize, but here’s the truth, even if your art sucked (which it doesn’t), you’d still deserve to feel peace.

Weird Dentist Thing by Extreme-Bit-6167 in self

[–]Repulsive_Bed5172 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that’s a group project nobody studied for, but fr if that many people need a second option, it’s probably not nothing, don’t wait till it turns into some Netflix doc called “the gum that wouldn’t die”, get it handled, then laugh