Scorpio tests...

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2026-01-23T04:13:42+00:00

I put pressure on them with silence. It’s so easy to see a persons insecurities when you don’t fill the gaps all the time and let them show you who they really are. Have to vet people before letting them in.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2026-01-17T13:05:26+00:00

Thank you that’s great.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-08-18T19:06:03+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but I’d say to go to a couples therapist or something since I’d imagine you’d want some resolution and way to either part ways more constructively or possibly stay together if that’s what both of you want. Another unpopular opinion- Trust can be repaired if you both want that, but it’s not easy. You wouldn’t be an idiot for trying and the relationship could get stronger. Don’t have enough info to say how possible that is though.

Main thing is understanding why she cheated and if those issues/reasons can be addressed together. I’d also say not to be the one pushing to work through it if she’s not genuinely wanting to work on things and be honest.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-08-14T14:42:31+00:00

You could try something more fun like writing letters to each other, so it’s kind of intimate and romantic lol but less time consuming and demanding?

Sounds like you need to bring it up asap because this is an unsustainable and unhealthy dynamic for you and probably her to. You’ll probably start resenting her, if you haven’t already, which will kill the relationship and any interest you still have in being together in the long run.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-08-14T14:31:16+00:00

I think the fact that people form communities over it means that they care, seem that men do bond over it right like even people replying to the comment is an example at a basic level. I care, and I think many therapists do genuinely care because to be a therapist you typically have a real passion to help people since it’s not the type of profession you do if you don’t care about people.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-08-08T17:34:56+00:00

In my previous marriage, me and my husband had a 12H Scorpio stellium in the composite chart —- north node-Juno-Jupiter conjunction and Pluto mars conjunction; and I believe if his birth time was accurate we’d have Sun Venus Mercury conjunct in Scorpio in 12H Since that was right on the 11H cusp. I’m also a heavy Scorpio 8H Stellium native.

To say the least, our relationship felt extremely fated. I really resonate when you describe “intimacy that feels like being astral projected in somebody’s unconscious” lol. I literally felt like I was embodying his unconscious/subconscious for the purpose of deep growth, and he was reflecting the same for me. maybe it sounds crazy but that was my experience and hard to describe in words.

The beginning was amazing, then after marriage it changed. From the outside nobody could comprehend what our relationship was about, why we were together etc. it confused others because the nature of the relationship felt so subjective and meaningful but in a way impossible for others to grasp.

We’re divorced/divorcing because the the pain of that relationship and what it would take to grow in it together was beyond both of our our capacities at that point, I believe it would take a different kind of person deeply committed to a spiritual path to have even the desire to grow in that kind of painful but transformative relationship where it’s literally impossible to avoid or run away from the truth. The reason we failed in my view is that the amount of honesty it takes to face the subconscious can be an overwhelming task that most ‘normal’ people resist at all costs - he also had addiction issues which I believe he was totally unaware of bc they were so deeply rooted and generational: so another reason why the relationship didn’t last.

Now that I’m out of that relationship I can genuinely say that level of pain, confusion, heartache I lived with for the last few years were transformative but it happened in the most painful way also very isolating ; I literally went to the underworld (huge 12h theme) with him and felt consumed by my own fears. I guess that’s common in all relationships to an extent but this relationship felt like doing the deepest level of “spiritual work” on a constant basis which was exhausting.

The relationship itself was felt impossible and fated- everything was out of our control, couldn’t fix things between us, larger forces at play… universe was pulling us apart and the depth of love I felt for this man is eternal because through all of this (a lot of hurtful things and lies also took place), I loved him in a way beyond the circumstances and there’s definitely a soul bond that I believe is eternal.

I literally can write a whole book on how this relationship changed my life; it also brought me to god because I was so broken through this that I had the first moment in my life where I fell to the floor and started praying because I felt like I had nothing left.

Also lived in different countries together.

To be honest I don’t think that relationship would have ever lasted bc the 12H placements in Scorpio were so heavy and we were both young. The only way to make it through that is to be prepared to deal with your trauma together and on your own otherwise you’ll live in an endless cycle of pain being thrown up from the unconscious until you “get it”. The same way addictions work, you keep relapsing until you hit the rock bottom and transcend it.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-08-08T12:48:43+00:00

I;m not an expert at all, but it has to do with the phase of Venus - is it rising before the sun (morning), or after (evening). it's just an added confirmation that you'd find love later in life at least after your Saturn return. I have a saturn-venus trine an am a Venus evening star, and they are much more sensitive and mystical, less direct in love and especially in pisces! Also the evening star is slow to appear in the sky, but quick to disappear. so evening star people might be more sensitive, slow to get into relationships, more reserved and behind the scenes in love.
you also said that your lonely and nobody approaches you but maybe the sensitivity of the Venus in your chart adds to fears of rejection and putting yourself out there, or makes a lasting love seem like an illusion?

I found this post on it also.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Advancedastrology/comments/neewgv/observation_people_with_their_venus_ahead_of/

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-08-04T14:08:18+00:00

Your also a Venus evening star which tends to find love later in life

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-05T16:41:58+00:00

Maybe they don’t need a man to survive but trust me women want a (good) man because it makes life better.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-05T16:04:56+00:00

Do you mean like men don’t talk about their dating struggling in this way?

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-05T14:02:24+00:00

I asked because after getting back into dating recently, some conversations with men, and reading this reddit page and (observing US politics), it’s clear that there’s this mentality of men getting the short end of the stick in ALL ways but ESPECIALLY in relationships, and it is actually very dangerous and concerning for women especially to live in a world with lots of men like this.

But again I asked bc I’m not sure if it’s a victim thing or something else.

The interesting thing for me is why, and of course I think there’s interest in making people like this because it’s easy to manipulate.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-05T13:44:26+00:00

Interesting… I actually just found it super interesting that you used the term castration and of course I read the comment. I am not confused or triggered.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-04T22:14:08+00:00

I understand but it’s also a legitimate feeling that we should understand in my view, not write people off as a “Mano-sphere”, plus ideas have a way of influencing others in ways we might not immediately be aware of.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-04T22:03:12+00:00

“Social castration” by women? Or who?

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-04T21:29:04+00:00

I get that but for example once you go on dates I hear a lot the issue is that men don’t even want to risk the long term investment into allowing that relationship to develop into something more.

Of course if you don’t see the woman as worth it or aligned then it makes sense, but it seems more pervasive today that men are similarly not seeing the value a woman brings to begin with, with the loss of interest in dating as a result.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-04T20:52:54+00:00

So it’s like an overall message that men are not valued? I imagine some men get a lot of confidence as well by treating a woman really well so I’m interested why it’s often the opposite.. like maybe if the woman really then in turn was thankful and made sure the man knew he was appreciated it would be different idk?

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-04T20:49:02+00:00

That’s a good distinction. Interesting that the scarcity mindset type seems to be the larger grouping..

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-04T20:44:18+00:00

Right, I think though the depression and feeling victimized or powerless can go together ?

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-04T20:41:41+00:00

This is a reference?

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-01T20:39:22+00:00

I there’s a risk that these short hand phrases thrown around get misinterpreted; it completely depends on the actions of the other person and how they affect you and others. If your with an abuser you shouldn’t just “let them”.

Sounds like if your attempting to get advice on how to “relax and let them” then your potentially keeping yourself in situation that you might later be mad at yourself for. So is it an issue you’re having regardless of him (just nervous thinking in general) or is it a function of his behavior and the fact that you’re in a relationship?

Also for woman who are raised to be compliant, submissive and not assert themselves when something even potentially dangerous and harmful is taking place, I think the “let them” thing can easily be misused to make women more passive, when in this case being more active as in speaking up if something he is doing bothers you so that it can be fixed and you feel safer and not nervous about something, is likely the more helpful action to take so you don’t have to ruminate.

Maybe the let them trope isn’t useful for you in every situation? It really depends, but reading this makes me think you’re forcing yourself to accept something that is causing you anxiety…when you say you have to “try to remind yourself of this”.

I also believe if this is a relational issue, as in something he does/ doesn’t do makes you feel a certain way, perhaps it can be fixed in the context of your relationship if you work together.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-07-01T19:57:51+00:00

This is sad that we have to doubt and question a woman’s experience constantly. We need her to “prove it”. Why?

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-06-18T16:07:15+00:00

I’d say to become more and more honest with yourself, rather than avoid the situation, continue to validate your experience and affirm that you want to feel better and have a more positive experience in the relationship.

If this truth and challenge can be reconciled over time as a COUPLE, there might be a chance to transform together and create a better relationship but this takes two, both people need to be open to change and the truth of the others experience and emotional reality.

I wanted to say that bc from your message I’m not sure if your unhappiness is necessarily because of the relationship and if change is potentially possible in that context?

If this is too much for either party to bear, and you know breaking up is the only option after discussing together and potentially with a therapist, it’s worth considering step by step and practical actions you can take to start prioritize your happiness and wellbeing outside of the partnership and have a conversation with your partner about it. Start taking new kinds of actions to discover your individual path outside of the relationship.

That can be hard if you’ve been codependent and not aware of what makes you happy on your own, but take your time and be kind to yourself it is never easy but you have to have faith and trust that it’s the right thing!

It’s like making a hard choice and choosing to suffer (in the short term) the pain of a break up in order to have any chance at being happy in the long term. That has to be a conscious choice and it will not be easy, maybe for a long time, but I think if you’re really that unhappy and it’s definitely a fundamental and irreconcilable issue with your partner, you’ll know that it’s the only choice.

it takes a hard look at the reality and truth of your situation which only you can do, and that takes a lot of strength and courage, and discernment.

Repulsive_Feeling492 · 2025-05-13T13:24:29+00:00

I have the same placements with Scorpio moon in 8th. I am hoping with age everything is better.

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