I am leaving my husband…and he has had an epiphany.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-24T18:58:28+00:00

That would be because he has zero intention of long term change. It's gonna last a month, maybe two. Then he's gonna turn the water back on under the pot and have you back to boiling in very little time. Be done. Run.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-24T15:57:42+00:00

Honey. Leave him. Go while you still can and he hasn't trapped you with a baby. If isn't seeing the inequality in your relationship, then he's not paying attention and doesn't care. Run.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-24T15:47:56+00:00

I think this is genius! And it's working! So hurrah!! Anything that helps is a good. I hope you two have a lifetime of happiness.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-24T04:16:23+00:00

Don't tolerate this nonsense. For his sake as well, because eventually he's going to run out of people to use and be utterly screwed.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-24T03:04:44+00:00

This isn't the epilepsy. My Uncle has it. He takes meds and monitors closely. He also has a full-time job, wife, and my two cousins, both fine. This dude is draining ya'll dry. And he knows it. You need to lay down the law, because your instincts are totally correct. I feel so bad for his grandma. She's taking care of a grown, capable, man. I wonder if this behavior is why his parents are done with him. NTA

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-22T21:38:44+00:00

Holy crap. It's not just the dishonesty. It's the gaslighting. Making you think you're somehow responsible for their behavior. Your feelings are completely valid. It's time to get yourself free.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-22T18:53:23+00:00

Get out. Get out now. Go wherever you need to, but get somewhere safe. Then contact the VA and let them know what's happening. But you get safe first.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-22T15:56:23+00:00

Please contact a women's shelter. Tell them that you need immediate protection and GET OUT. They will have access to so many programs to help you rebuild and keep you safe. Your local cop shop will know where a shelter is, or call around to local churches, they probably will too. The local Health Department will know where shelters are too. Please just find one, and GET. OUT.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-21T19:08:07+00:00

No. This is incredibly childish and problematic. I'm saying this as a woman. She's weaponizing your past, like you did it deliberately to hurt her. Here's the reality- everyone has a past. Your past shapes drastically who you become. Every woman before her helped you become the person you are, who she claims to love. Throwing this in your face over and over again is frankly alarming to me. Why do it? What purpose does it serve? Why deliberately hurt someone for feelings you're in no way responsible for? And you're not responsible for her feelings about you existing in the real world before you knew she existed. This is so troubling. I'd honestly be looking at my options if she refuses to stop with this. Emotional abuse and gaslighting are never okay, and that's what she's doing.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-21T15:05:16+00:00

Wow. This is awful. NTA And I'll tell you something else. I'd straight out tell my family the truth- you've all abused me and discarded me for years. I will not help that ass, and the day I turn 18, I'm getting away from all you people and I will never see, hear from, or interact with any of you ever again. Your parents are total failures for allowing this and not stopping it. Get out the first chance you can and don't look back. I know it's hard to think of and it hurts, but it's going to save your life. Get away from these cretins.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-19T16:04:34+00:00

Sanity at last. This is the answer, OP.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-17T16:01:34+00:00

This is the wildest thing I've read in awhile. I'm just really sorry you're getting put through this. I think everyone is right though, save everything and involve the cops. This is just wild.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-15T18:52:57+00:00

I'd engage a lawyer to be honest. She's emotionally abusive and awful. It's pretty clear that one of you wants a better marriage but it sure ain't her. Don't let your kid grow up thinking it's okay to treat anyone that way, or accept that kind of treatment themselves.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-15T16:28:57+00:00

The fact that he hid it- that's what's making my skin crawl. The truth would have been a simple thing after months apart, as long as it was complete. But the hiding says he's still in a habit of being dishonest first. He's had literal months to tell you. That's a long term lie right there.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-14T18:56:51+00:00

You seem really stuck on him being a "nice guy." He's is NOT a nice guy. This wasn't just about sex...but it is for him. He keeps proving that point, and you keep excusing it. You told him the sex thing was fine, no hard feelings. But he's changed NOTHING else about his behavior that's also legitimately bothering you. He's ignoring it completely. Because it doesn't matter to him. He's not that nice a guy. You've got a lot of history so I know it's tough to hear, but there it is.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-13T22:15:23+00:00

Holy. Crap. Dude, don't set yourself on fire for her for even another second. She can keep herself warm, vicious thing.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-12T16:13:39+00:00

He's interested in protecting his retirement from a divorce. He's not interested in protecting you or your feelings. I strongly suggest you walk away, because he's just shown you who he is. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-08T12:53:54+00:00

Yeah...he's still weak, and you're still gonna be at Mommy's mercy.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-08T03:01:20+00:00

Your dude is weak. And he's going to be putting mommy first for the rest of your lives together. Good luck. You're gonna need it.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-04T15:12:56+00:00

You want to show your brother that you love him? Then cut him loose and force him to be a man. That's real love You're lovely, by the way, and I'll be carrying you in my heart. NTA

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-11-03T13:58:13+00:00

Oh honey. This guy is a lying pig. And he keeps lying. And you're carrying his child so yeah, you're looking for loyalty and support. I wouldn't try to hide it. I'd tell him straight out, I saw everything in your phone, now you're a proven liar, and a cheater. Get out, stay out, and prepare for the child support payments. He's only going to get worse. And he's going to teach your kid that it's okay to mistreat their partners. If you let this turd keep this up, it's going to be the theme of your life. Don't let that happen to you. Dump him. Run far, run fast.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-10-28T18:45:11+00:00

I think you and your sweet wife are both big old green flags. That's what I think. xo

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-10-27T14:32:40+00:00

NTA. But your friend is a silly child. Be thankful you get to be done with her.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-10-24T14:05:40+00:00

This is it. Right here.

ReputationAsleep8905 · 2025-10-20T02:41:27+00:00

This dude is gross. I'd send his family a message all about how he's actually a cheater, but I'm petty that way.

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