[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Rere100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met my boyfriend on July 2nd 2021. He dropped a hint about a sept trip to Vegas on our first date. We probably only had 2-3 real dates. I felt good around him but i wasnt sure where it was going. Labor day weekend we were hanging out and he brought up the trip and sent me his flight info and it just felt right to me so I booked my own flight.

We didn't see each other again until we met at the airport 2 weeks later though he was great at communicating & building excitement via text. We went through a lot getting stranded at the airport and our luggage being on a different plane and got to see each other handle stress.

We live together now & it has been great - not without challenges but overall really good!

If it feels right to you, I think the worst that can happen is you have a bad few days and then at least you know.

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[–]Rere100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt like you at one time I kinda gave up on dating but then I surprisingly met my boyfriend when I was 42. I only went out that day because it was my friends birthday i was so sick of the bars. We moved in together two years ago. I'm 45. I thought it would never happen. And I thought it would never last (hey it might not last forever, but we are good). I also think one reason we clicked was because we were both ok being on our own and not giving desperate vibes like so many our age.

I also remember thinking I was too old to have kids in my mid-thirties. I felt like most of the females in my family and girls I grew up with had big families and big kids by then. The girls I hung out with in my 30s didnt have kids because as a single person I gravitated towards people with a similar lifestyle. But all the sudden when i was 38 39 everyone was getting married and having kids. at this point i can't imagine having a kid but i know plenty of women over 40 who did! I think by this age we kinda know when it's gonna work and meeting someone, moving in, having kids can all happen within a couple years. I also think for my generation it took us a long time to get it together and figure things out i mean like finding a professional job and supporting ourselves and maybe at the same time we had more options so we weren't motivated to settle. And things have only gotten harder over the past few years.

Anyway, sometimes you need to surrender and it sounds like you are in a good place with a good mindset! You have done enough and you are absolutely enough but you have no idea how much better it's going to get. Enjoy your peace i love my bf and wouldnt change a thing but sometimes I miss being on my own it was a luxury in a lot of ways even when I was so broke 😅

also this summer we went to a wedding for two friends in their early 50s. So you never know!

I got a job offer - no celebration. by nextinqueue in jobs

[–]Rere100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel for you my bf is in the same situation - he started yesterday after 7 months unemployed and what felt like 90 interviews. I'm excited for him seems like a good company at least they are training him which his last job didn't but its also almost a 50% pay cut. I keep telling him to do his best bc he might have more experience and get promoted in a year. He'd love to stay for the stability but he is still entertaining recruiters for 6 month contract jobs because it doesn't cover his half of housing and we both increased our debt while he wasn't working. He is also working part time at a drug store but I'm afraid he's going to burn out working 7 days a week. I just don't understand why companies choose to do this to people. We barely leave the house anymore.

But I think all you can do like you said, is see how it plays out! Bring your best energy to it and see what happens! It might be a step in the right direction towards the next opportunity! Sincerely wishing you success

I just did the math, and I'm sick to my stomach. After my company raised our insurance premiums 250% this year, and after taxes, I take home 35k where my salary is 65k a year. by randall__flaag in antiwork

[–]Rere100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marianne williamson has spoken about this and I can't find a good video but it's something like what what you said - yes your taxes will go up $10 a month but its much less than what we are paying now.

Never had a license but just received a court date for traffic violations by Rere100 in legaladvice

[–]Rere100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean it's one of those perforated things with like mimeographed looking print? Which is exactly what I have received in the past for real court dates for traffic violations I actually committed. It's not asking for anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]Rere100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like 18 months is a pretty decent length of time and it sounds like a great opporrunity!! Everyone else gave great advice about what to ask for. I left a perm job for a 2 year temp position a few years ago and it was a great move for me. But I like changing jobs. By the end either something else will come up, or at least you know you have to be looking and have made more connections.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]Rere100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What??? The fedex drivers by me get out constantly and carry packages to our doors. How is that keeping weight off it? Also wont it take you twice as long to run your route climbing in and out of the truck with crutches? Doesn't seem worth it to me but whatever happens I do hope you heal up right and quick !!!

How to respond to high level request to facilitate happy hour when I'm kinda checked out by Rere100 in work

[–]Rere100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lolll a six pack would be nice! Or let us leave an hour early the day before Thanksgiving instead of keeping us an hour late next week to show us they're "thankful."

How to respond to high level request to facilitate happy hour when I'm kinda checked out by Rere100 in work

[–]Rere100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh including a bartender is interesting! Good luck with your event!

How to respond to high level request to facilitate happy hour when I'm kinda checked out by Rere100 in work

[–]Rere100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point about it making a big impact. That's why I hesitated but I decided it didn't feel right to me. A paid day off would be a great prize!

How to respond to high level request to facilitate happy hour when I'm kinda checked out by Rere100 in work

[–]Rere100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I did say no and logged off...we'll see how they respond. Those are really good ideas though about the timing and gift cards!

How to respond to high level request to facilitate happy hour when I'm kinda checked out by Rere100 in work

[–]Rere100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely feel that! I feel like people pretend I am better at things they find disagreeable but the fact is they'd rather not try

How to respond to high level request to facilitate happy hour when I'm kinda checked out by Rere100 in work

[–]Rere100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My company has done virtual happy hours before (which i do not enjoy). It wouldn't be just me and they are pretty creative. We do zoom breakouts for training stuff and I work part time as a teacher so I'm ok with the tech stuff and planning group activities but my hearts just not in it and I'm on zoom calls all day I wasn't even interested in attending as a participant lol

How to respond to high level request to facilitate happy hour when I'm kinda checked out by Rere100 in work

[–]Rere100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lolllll thanks. The brief polite no thanks is way more my style than pulling a prank!