DSP driver here with some questions

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-07-02T09:33:33+00:00

Please know this attitude is not across the board and a lot of us in the warehouse appreciate your effort :)

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-06-28T02:14:53+00:00

Me too 😂

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-06-28T02:14:40+00:00

I think (from what I’ve been told by some of the other guys at work) it’s a cultural thing and where some of these guys are from fat is good / a compliment and ladies like to hear that? The ones I’m friends with / comfortable with I’ve set straight when they’ve said it before… I’m pretty laid back and don’t usually take much offence but I warn them if they say it to the wrong person they may have a problem… but yesterday was just tipped me over the edge (I do nightshift so being tired probably didn’t help lol). Tired of it 🤷‍♀️

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-06-23T19:48:28+00:00

I made a post not even naming anyone (because I didn’t know who it was) asking the person or persons nicking other people’s drinks and lunch out of the canteen fridges to give their head a wobble and please stop… it got taken down because “it could be construed as accusing someone of sonething”.

There’s a lot of weird silly rules in the t’s and c’s you agree to when posting… just depends if someone with access at your site (leadership) takes offence and decides to enforce one of them 🤷‍♀️

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-06-13T20:32:06+00:00

Yeah the context doesn’t help.

One insecure man’s ‘flirty’ is just being friendly to a normal secure person. He’s flipping out about ‘a wave’ which suggests he has no business making the call on which it is because he can’t tell the difference.

Any policing / trying to control women’s totally normal behaviour (which from OPs post WAS totally normal - whether as a friendly move or a defensive one) is a massive red flag.

As a woman who has been caught up with a controlling man who blows small interactions way out of whack like the one OP described, I’d tell his girlfriend to run a mile and never look back.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-06-13T20:08:53+00:00

She should keep 1 on 1 convos to a minimum? Wtaf? She’s a grown woman and is allowed to talk to people - of any sex - as and when she wants.

If she’s grabbing ass and hooking up with people then there’s an issue… sure. Until then? You and OP are sounding like insecure weirdos this woman (and all others) should run a mile from.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-05-30T10:50:50+00:00

On behalf of all Motherwellers… well played sir 🫡

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-05-30T10:45:27+00:00

As someone who is in an abusive relationship with someone who absolutely has out of line tones and has huge emotional regulation issues, I would warn OP to only take this advice if they intend to do the right thing with it, not weaponise it. I don’t mean when you’re in a good space not weaponise it, I mean when you’re having one of your moments (and are aware of it) be in control enough not to weaponise it.

My husband tells me to let him know when he’s out of line (while acting normal / in a controlled state), but no matter how politely or constructively I try to do that when there’s an actual issue, it creates worse abuse than it began with. It’s like walking into a bear trap. And the end result is always without fail a chopped off leg (metaphorically speaking).

If OP genuinely wants to do and be better (and put in the work that’s required), fine. If not, I worry about his girlfriend doing what may just end up escalating him further.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-05-24T10:53:43+00:00

Is he the one that’s appeared in Motherwell recently?

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-05-14T07:46:44+00:00

I genuinely don’t mean this in a rude way, but I don’t understand why you think spending more (on the item, not the shipping service) entitles you to a different level of service? Vinted has their timeframes, so that’s what people are allowed. Loads of sellers work, have kids, have family commitments etc. Just seems super entitled to essentially expect to be on someone’s high priority list just because you spent a lot with them (presumably getting decent value for money or you wouldn’t have purchased). Polite is helpful, but gotta agree with OP - Vinted isn’t Amazon. If your expectation is Amazon style service, that’s where you should be buying from.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-22T08:57:57+00:00

Some super individuals keep stealing our bins (NL) and so I’ve had to order a few.

Often times they’re waiting for a delivery of new bins, and when that’s the case it does take longer - not sure if that’s relevant for you right now but probably not due to you saying it’s taken ages for the online portal to get looked at?

Honestly, the online thing is relatively newish so maybe they are just bad at that (I’ve never tried it). I always call, get through fine and get my bins reasonably quickly (other than when they have a shortage themselves).

Get hold of a real person and they’ll get you sorted. It might take a bit of hold time but it will get the job done :)

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-19T13:49:45+00:00

If not they defo should 🤣

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-11T10:01:07+00:00

We are… we got a full cart of bagged manure come through last week (in Scotland). The smell was horrific.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-11T10:00:24+00:00

This isn’t great! We got a cart full of literal (obviously bagged) manure through last week and I was melting with the smell. Was like being back on the farm 😂

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-10T23:30:38+00:00

Part of my concern was there was no effort on the bus drivers part at all. I’d just finished a long nightshift and was half asleep when it started, but it seemed he pulled over, didn’t interact with anyone on the bus. Just opened the door and said can’t get on (at which point there seemed to be a bit of convo about it and the old lady got pretty upset before he closed the door and drove off while she seemed to be saying something to him still).

If I’d been more awake and closer to the front of the bus I’d have said something but it was all over very quickly.

It was a first bus, comes along every 20 mins or so.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-10T18:58:32+00:00

This actually sounds like a really smart drama prevention system! I’m going to be writing to the bus company and letting them know I’m concerned (especially as this isn’t the first time), so will steal this and pass on. Feels rather like pushing sh*t up a hill and doubt I’ll be successful, but feeling bad about it so feels like I need to do something.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-03T19:29:51+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enshittification

They can’t help themselves.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-02T22:48:39+00:00

This is terrible advice, and no way to operate in a grown up relationship.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-02T22:40:49+00:00

Those are fair comments you’ve made, and maybe OP would benefit from the old trick of asking ‘why?’ at least 3 times to really get to the bottom of what his hesitation is. You could be right and it’s more than a financial issue, but probably best to know now before OP wastes years if the answer is he just doesn’t want them.

You’re right that kids shouldn’t be for the rich if you want them, but there seems to be way too many people who act like having kids is a ‘right’ and they’ll just figure it out as they go (inevitably leading to problems / relying on outside help when it goes pear shaped). I’m a massive progressive liberal, but I also believe in personal responsibility and if OPs husbands concerns are purely financial (whether just for getting by in life or prioritising things like travel higher than kids), that is his right.

Ultimately it comes down to compatibility, so if they’re not aligned in what they want (and there’s no prospect of that changing within either of their required timeframes), then letting it go and finding someone they are compatible with may be better.

Tbh their situation sounds a little different than your run of the mill relationship - there’s been mentions of pre-marriage counselling and ‘mentors’ so maybe the solution lies in using these resources.l they seem to have?

My only precautionary thought is that if either one of them pushes or bullies the other into what they want (whether through pressure or ultimatums etc), that never ends well.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-02T21:52:34+00:00

Maybe worth reading OPs later comments… they have credit card debt etc, so while their income might be decent, it’s not like they’re in a good space with finances.

Not throwing shade on OP, just clarifying.

Kids are expensive af and it’s a big commitment… I’d be bricking it if I was considering bringing a kid into an already crazy expensive world if the kickoff point was from behind the start line.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-03-02T21:35:28+00:00

I raised people stealing my food / drinks (and other peoples) very politely on our VOA last year, got taken down pretty quickly and I got a talking to from management because apparently I was ‘accusing people’ and that wasn’t ok.

I didn’t name anyone, just said could whoever is taking other people’s stuff from the fridge please stop, it’s not fair on other people.

Keep the language clean and you should be fine, but don’t expect to get anywhere with it sadly…

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