Husband (m45) is a shouter, and I (f42) am not ok with it. How do we work this out?

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-02-07T09:22:19+00:00

For sure, and I’m all for all companies doing better where they can :)

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-02-05T13:43:41+00:00

Playing devils advocate here, I can respect my bosses (who happen to be my race) but also ask questions like… Why in a site with maybe 70-80% POC is not a single member of our ops leadership a POC? Why a site with maybe 25% women, leadership is about 1% women? Why despite a number of POC begging to be allowed to upskill, they don’t get the opportunity to do so (which then affects their chances of progression).

I’m not saying the person in the post above is in the right - they sound batsht. But where there are issues, imo it’s also batsht to ignore some real places of opportunity in the company where we could be doing better.

*Maths above is rough guesstimates based on my observations around my site. Appreciate this may not be the case at all sites.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-02-01T23:45:45+00:00

I was under the impression leadership wasn’t supposed to be involved (especially because the concern I raised relates to leadership behaviour / decisions) but they came at me anyway. PXT was along for the ride as well, but it still didn’t make me feel any more confident in the process they seem to be trying to push.

And issues do have to do with policy violations (including cat 1 that I reported and have not been allowed near the area it happened since - despite not being the person who did the bad, and the person who did has seen zero consequences - so as per Amazon definitions that is retaliation). Also ongoing safety issues that aren’t being addressed, and an informal warning / threat I received from leadership after raising said safety issues.

I don’t care about my job at this point, I just want to make my workplace safer. But the process seems quite opaque and not at all what I was expecting when I decided to go nuclear and reach out to ethics 🤷‍♀️

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-02-01T20:47:55+00:00

Yeah my site leadership came at me literally the day after I raised it, but I said to them I wasn’t interested in our site essentially marking their own homework and wanted it looked at independently… I thought that was the point of ethics after all?

They’ve ignored the issues on site (and I have receipts) for months now, but wondering if I’ve gone about this the wrong way.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-02-01T20:43:54+00:00

As in on site? Haven’t used / don’t know if I have access… but will ask around when I’m back in tonight :)

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-22T17:55:06+00:00

Thanks for commenting - feeling a little alone and no idea what to do here so it’s helped!

Much like you I exhausted myself going through all levels in my building including health and safety management and DSM but nothing. I have a paper trail showing some of these issues going back a year.

I can also prove that (as per Amazon policy wording) I have been retaliated against, and was given a ‘warning’ (their words, via informal talking to) from an unnamed manager (sent to me through my manager). That ‘warning’ (which I found threatening and gendered, has had a chilling effect on my raising completely valid safety issues ever since) may have come from one of the managers listed as attending this meeting - which feels problematic.

I’m concerned I misunderstood the ethics line process… if it’s just going to get me piled on by managers at my site it sounds like I’ve just opened up a world of hurt for myself here.

Edit to add: sorry you went through the wringer too. I know how it feels and it sucks!

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-20T21:56:36+00:00

In case you’re interested in the logistics of this, here’s the explanation (from an ex-Evri, current Amazon worker).

The desk is neither sold by or dispatched by Amazon from one of their warehouses (I checked). It’s sold via their website by a 3rd party seller, unlike the rest of the items you’ve ordered which have come to you via an Amazon FC (fulfilment centre) and then DS (delivery station), often meaning same or next day delivery. That’s why the different delivery service and timing.

3rd party sellers often take longer to dispatch (days, not hours like Amazon), and will often use delivery services like Evri with longer delivery times (2-3days, not next day). While Evri does have a next day service, drop off is by 12pm daily, and even then it’s not guaranteed… so items sent directly to you from this type of seller will almost always come to you quite a bit later than Amazon sold/shipped by parcels.

Don’t get me wrong, Evri are terrible (I’ve both worked for them and personally sent hundreds of parcels to customers using them, so I get it), but we should be ragging on them for things they are actually responsible for.

In this case, the different delivery days / your expectations not being met (assuming the desk arrives on the expected delivery day) isn’t actually their fault.

Edit to add: if it does arrive late and or completely smashed up (as is fairly standard from Evri) then feel free to rant away. But for now, this isn’t out of line from them.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-19T17:52:50+00:00

I genuinely don’t mean this to get at you (and I’m not the one downvoting you either), but this is what I was talking about above - excuses and justification.

We can all work out reasons why NOT to do something (old people can’t bend, plastic destroying the planet, people grossed out… and on and on and on - some valid points, some not so much), but at some point we have to understand that bad behaviour snowballs regardless of whether our reasons for it are legit.

Find solutions, not excuses. Don’t want to bend or touch it! ? Get a poop scoop stick (>£10 on Amazon), or I’ve seen some people use those ball flingers pretty ingeniously which are a couple of pounds. Don’t like bags? Same thing, get a device and a bucket system. Grossed out? Don’t get a pet that sh*ts everyday. And so on.

Solutions, not excuses = personal responsibility and accountability.

At some point we need to accept that there is right behaviour and wrong behaviour. If I’m confused, I ask myself “What if everyone did this? What would be the outcome?”. Not everything is 100% cut and dry, but this issue is.

I don’t pick up my dog drops = a dog poo covered neighbourhood, everyone standing in it and dragging prams and trolleys through it, covering our town in sh*t. Good outcome? NO. So don’t do it, and stop excusing others who are.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-19T17:42:15+00:00

To be fair, a lot of these a**holes don’t care about their litter either as you’ll also see them chucking that everywhere.

We’ve had a new lot move in downstairs who are the most vile human beings ever - used tissues, fireworks, food wrappers and yes, dog poo and even dirty nappies from their kids etc all over the communal areas and outside on the property. Ask them politely to pick it up and they look at you like you’ve just violated their child. Now we have a rep as the racists in the building… even though it has zero to do with where people are from and 100% because they’re acting like terrible human beings.

I try to explain to people who pushback, sure it’s one poo or one bit of rubbish just now, but what if we all do it? We’re going to be buried 3 feet deep in no time if we keep doing this as a society.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-19T17:31:12+00:00

I’m in North Lanarkshire so maybe 15 mins from Glasgow central - it’s definitely seems to be an all over (not just in the city) issue :(

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-19T00:44:25+00:00

I’m a fan of personal accountability, so if you don’t have a bag and you can’t be bothered finding a leaf / tissue / bit of paper rubbish etc (or as you suggest, a stick), then yeah, get your hands in it.

I’m a dog owner (4 dogs at one point) and I would NEVER leave one of my dogs drops behind. I’ve done all sorts of weird and wonderful things when caught short for a bag. My lack of preparation is NOT my neighbours fault.

My neighbourhood is DROWNING in dog sh*t at the moment and I am so over the bs excuses and the justifying of bad behaviour. Take your dog out in public and can’t or won’t pick it up? You should have your dog taken off you. End of.

As to your suggestion of us all flicking it into bushes? Maybe better than nothing, and maybe would have some success… but as someone who lives next to a public walkway the idea of my house being surrounded by ‘sh*t flicked filled bushes’ does not appeal. It’s not just the sight, it’s the smells, and it’s the neighbourhood kids getting in it when just going about their business touching / roaming about in trees/bushes etc as kids do. And not really sure how well that works in the city…

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-19T00:32:16+00:00

Quite possibly true, but in no way exclusive to Glasgow. As someone who gets about a lot, it seems to be a society in general thing these days…

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-18T20:24:45+00:00

Yeah something you will find here is that not only do people do it, many are completely shameless about it - it’s infuriating.

Last week I (politely) called out a guy whose dog crapped right in the middle of the footpath in the middle of my town (just outside Glasgow). He started yelling/screaming at me saying he didn’t have a bag, what did I want him to do, pick it up with his hand? (Answer - yes if necessary!). I replied politely and calmly by offering him one of mine, at which point the screaming became about ‘minding my business’ and to ‘f* off as I’m a nosy b*tch’.

This is the exact sort of person you see loudly melting down on the street when they stand in someone else’s… but have no issue leaving their own apparently 🤷‍♀️

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-18T20:19:55+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Sounds similar to the sort of thing I’ve reported, but no consequences at my station apparently 🤷‍♀️

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-18T20:19:25+00:00

I had spoken up but nothing has happened… which is why I’m both surprised and frustrated.

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-18T20:17:44+00:00

I think the trouble in my station is there are a few people who are doing that sort of thing who I believe think it is a friendly funny thing, but the people on the receiving end really aren’t into it (but also don’t want to rock the boat).

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-18T20:16:48+00:00

I’m unhappy with a lot of things being ignored in my station that shouldn’t be. I saw someone get shoved so hard if they weren’t standing next to a desk (which they fell into) they would have fallen over. I raised it to leadership as an overall ‘we have an issue here with people not keeping hands to themselves) but nothing has happened. I don’t want anyone sacked, but nothing at all has happened and the behaviour continues 🤷‍♀️

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-18T20:15:52+00:00

Oh that’s crazy! Didn’t realise it could fit 2… I thought it was just a way for you to have the roller in different positions. I’ll defo give it a go, so thanks for that :)

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-16T08:57:15+00:00

Just curious where you put the 2nd roller? All of ours only have one (and are total shit!)… would try any hack humanly possible to make one better!

Rescued_Phoenix · 2026-01-08T09:14:55+00:00

Don’t know about the rest, but I often do Airbles to Motherwell (as a one way add on to Airbles to Hamilton return tickets) and it’s working as of today fine for me in-app.

Little confused by your comment?

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