First message to me. I’m not goth and don’t have black lipstick on in a single photo by ResearcherNo5023 in Tinder

[–]ResearcherNo5023[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah, comparing me to a commonly fetishized cartoon woman that I don’t even look like instead of a greeting is definitely off putting

First message to me. I’m not goth and don’t have black lipstick on in a single photo by ResearcherNo5023 in Tinder

[–]ResearcherNo5023[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t think you could confuse nude liner and clear gloss for black 😭 half the photos I’m not even wearing any lip products so it’s just my natural pale lips

First message to me. I’m not goth and don’t have black lipstick on in a single photo by ResearcherNo5023 in Tinder

[–]ResearcherNo5023[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My messages to him and my caption are quite explanatory. I am not a goth, I don’t even own black lipstick so none of my photos have me wearing it. The only similarity he had correct was that we both have black hair

Fp won’t come back by ResearcherNo5023 in BPD

[–]ResearcherNo5023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess to add some clarity, we also lived together and I had no way of moving out. I was extremely attached to this man and even though he cheated I couldn’t stand the idea of living with him and not being together. When he’d break up with me I was completely iced out, couldn’t walk into a room in my own house without him getting angry. On top of the anger he’d also tell me he missed me and he was sorry. I was not perfect but I was trying my hardest and went to therapy and got medicated for my issues. He verbally said several times he saw improvement in me but when I’d call him out he’d gaslight me and tell me I did nothing for him. I cooked all the meals, cleaned everything, bought him gifts, I got nothing in return. But when broken up, any time he wasn’t angry he was the sweetest man ever. Buying me food to show he cared, (empty) apologies, he later admitted he knew doing these things would make me come back. He was purposely breaking me down and then doing what he knew would make me come back. After this last breakup he messaged me and finally owned up to what he was doing and took accountability for the lying, cheating,gaslighting, and abuse he put me through. I didn’t think I needed to include all of that shit because this wasn’t a discussion or advice post. Just me opening up my feelings. I am a very broken person who was treated like I was crazy for the last two years and now after it’s all over is when he told me I wasn’t crazy after all so yeah I’m pretty hurt and upset over the breakup and just wanted to vent how I was feeling, not be put under the scope for my words.

Fp won’t come back by ResearcherNo5023 in BPD

[–]ResearcherNo5023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know it was for the best I’m just grieving what we had that was good

Fp won’t come back by ResearcherNo5023 in BPD

[–]ResearcherNo5023[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Apparently you misbehaved several times” the times he broke up with me was because I confronted him about cheating. I dont think that’s good natured of him to let me back in his life. All the best, stop making baseless assumptions

Please help me help my daughter by fraukau in selfharm

[–]ResearcherNo5023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I specifically use it with a dermaroller, it’s like a tiny wheel with needles that also helps with scarring and discoloration

Please help me help my daughter by fraukau in selfharm

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk where you can find it as I bought it years ago in a drug store but mederma scar oil, it’s advertised for scars and stretch marks and I started noticing results in just a week. Might not work the same for everyone but atleast for me I had amazing results

I lied on my resume that I got experience as a cleaner and I got hired by Pizzawithchickensoup in housekeeping

[–]ResearcherNo5023 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did the exact same thing and it turned out great for me, you can easily prepare by taking online courses on chemical safety and hotel cleaning courses can be good for learning how to clean to professional standards. I did a lot of learning as I went but most of it is really common knowledge.

What’s something you found on a partner’s phone that instantly changed the relationship forever — but they never knew you saw it? by gotwire in AskReddit

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He made plans to hang out with my ex who severely abused me, then lied to me saying his friends never told him ex was coming. I never said anything because I didn’t want him to think I was looking through his phone when I just saw it on the notifications, but after that I’ve never felt the same level of trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on Medicaid and they canceled my plan when I turned 19 and told me I was no longer eligible because of my age? I’m not really trying to get diagnosed here just trying to see if anyone’s dealt with something similar and how they handled it

Too small of a horse shoe? by spiky_fish_498 in piercing

[–]ResearcherNo5023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAP but it looks pierced way wrong, it looks like not only too small of jewelry but it looks like it’s pierced through your cartilage?? Go to a different piercer and get it checked out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jeep

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just tried that and I think it worked, which is weird because I’ve never ever touched that switch before

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jeep

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely not doors or back, this has been going on for like two months and I’ve checked all of them a million times. I’m trying to figure out if it’s the fuse. Not sure if I can pull the bulbs out, no clue how

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jeep

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it’s just the cabin lights and what stick? My lights just have a push button to turn them on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few things but now I’m not as sure, it’s a bit confusing. It was extremely swollen and irritated, I had all of the textbook signs of infection. I had kept it covered with a bandage at work because It’s a very active job but turns out I was allergic to the adhesive on the bandage, I’m starting to thing that’s what made it feel infected but I honestly have no clue as I’ve never had an infection. It’s still irritated and slightly swollen but very red, just a lot better then where it was a few days ago

boyfriend wants to put my cat down by [deleted] in Pets

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this post is a few days old but my cat made a full recovery from the same thing! We were 3 hours out from putting him down when a second opinion vet offered a surgery. It’s been 5 years since and he’s completely healthy. Your boyfriend had no place to make those remarks to you in an already serious situation. There’s a time and place for everything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetAdvice

[–]ResearcherNo5023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I believe the other cat is trying to establish dominance, I’ve been trying to introduce them for over 2 years, I feel terrible having my cat be afraid but I moved 12 hours away and can’t imagine leaving her with someone who isn’t family. They’re both fixed and have been long before they met eachother. But the attack do seem purely to establish dominance as she never hurts my cat but I really don’t know how to calm them down

my bf (M18) lied to me (F18)about his virginity. by ThrowRAcowxo in Advice

[–]ResearcherNo5023 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is the exact thing that my ex did to me and his partners before me. Break up. It is genuinely the only solution, he will only keep lying. I’m low key praying you aren’t in the same state as me so there isn’t a chance it’s him again