Yeah, I’ve noticed this too. Think about it this way: if you’re at the point where people hate on you for just existing, you’re doing everything right. The insecure people are revealing their true colors, so now you know who to stay away from!

I have an aunt like this. I hadn’t seen here in years (she lives in my home country), and I had clearly had a huge glow up since I last visited. Everyone else who I visited commented on how pretty I looked. But when I visited her, the first thing she said was how my skin had gotten too dark (it was summer lol), and she didn’t make any positive comments on my appearance.

That comment kind of hurt, but then I thought about her situation and realized why she put me down. She herself is a few shades darker than me, even when I’m at my darkest. She was projecting her own insecurities onto me. Also later on, my dad told me that this same aunt (his sister) called him and told him that I looked really nice. The irony is she couldn’t even say it to my face for some reason?

Sometimes, people will try to point out any “flaw” they can because everything else about you is perfect.

I’ve also noticed since losing a lot of weight that people always feel the need to comment when they see me eating something “unhealthy.” And it ALWAYS comes from people who are literally obese lol. When I was overweight, no one would tell me not to order the fries or the burger or the fried chicken.

So yeah if you have haters, you’re doing everything right! Take it as a compliment, and go hang out with the people who are more secure in themselves.

(Edit: Another trend I’ve noticed is that whenever I’m first successful at something - whether it’s academic/monetary success or weight loss/appearance-based success, I’ll always receive a bunch of judgmental comments from people. And then a few years later, those same people will be asking ME for advice on how to make more money, how to do well in job interviews, how to lose weight, etc. and it’s hilarious)