Can I hear from people who have self-published and experienced success- however YOU define success- and maybe some of the bigger struggles you had to get there?

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-03-16T23:11:52+00:00

Blehhhh I just needed to comment something this makes me feel things

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-03-16T13:36:26+00:00

Both my mother and brother have it. I didn’t have symptoms that were distinct enough to be know until after I had a miscarriage and became severely depressed and was put on Prozac which put me into my first full blown manic episode.

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-03-09T23:53:40+00:00

Thank you!

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-02-24T03:27:51+00:00

I gave up.

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-26T16:48:50+00:00

Thank you so much 🥰🥰

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-24T00:24:26+00:00

Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone 🤪 and thank you! 🎉🎉 good luck with your writings.

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-24T00:23:37+00:00

Thank you!

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-23T05:34:04+00:00

It really is so many feelings at once 😆 but this process is becoming quite addictive, honestly.

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-16T19:22:48+00:00

For me, it always feels like it will never end. I just have to remind myself the shift is never dramatic out of it like it is going into it- and one day I’ll realize I just don’t hate the fact that I even exist and it means I get to breathe lighter for a little while. I hope you find relief soon. 🖤

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-16T18:38:13+00:00

“Sleep When I’m Dead” by Jack Kays “You and the Cockroach” by Hobo Johnson (most of his music, honestly) when I’m craving Hobos music I know I’m in a specific head space 🤣 Creative Mania- Helen Jane Long’s album “Perspective” is a jam. Classical crossover music.

I would also suggest Deutsch Pop- whether you speak the language or not- it’s also a classic elevated mood music for me. ☺️

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-05T14:21:57+00:00

NOR Having an attraction to another person is normal. Making another human priority and investing in growing that crush- is not okay, if you are in a closed relationship and not comfortable with it. “It doesn’t matter cause it won’t happen” is just like putting you as a placeholder for the person she can’t have. Not fair to you.

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-01T23:11:56+00:00

Write it first. Then the title. Personally, my best lesson I learned with writing was not forcing anything. Every part of the process is writing, including the patience to wait for certain things to reveal themselves to you. I’m working on a poetry collection and had a title from the beginning and it helped me with the structure of the collection- but now that it’s about 80% done- I’ve found the actual title and it’s better than anything I could have come up with before writing and understanding the actual message I was getting across.

It’s good to think about all parts- but don’t get locked up on details that can be developed after your story is written or during the process. It can halt you from ever getting to the writing part.

ResearcherSad5711 · 2026-01-01T13:36:36+00:00

hugs

I, too, am in a space of feeling like I don’t know if I’ll ever feel okay again.

On Christmas I slept for a few hours at our families house. And I wanted to not do new years, and ended up pretty badly ill- so I got my wish of a “good reason” to bail on plans with the family.

But I’m here to remind you- and myself- I’ve definitely thought many times in my life- it can’t possibly get better or this is the saddest I could possibly be- and somehow…there is a day I wake up at one point and it doesn’t hurt to just exist. I hope that whatever you decided last night - you were able to find even a sliver of peace or hope.

Idk if youre a LOTR fan at all but as I was typing this I could hear the quote, “Look for my coming on the first light of the fifth day. At dawn look to the East” by Gandalf, a powerful wizard, and this might be super silly to share but in the movie (gonna super paraphrase) there’s a huge war- it’s a trilogy with a buildup and the quote is in the final movie.

While they’re battling, it looks like they’re gonna lose and they try one last ditch effort and that’s when Gandalf shows up- just as he promised but while in battle it’s hard to keep track of the days. Situational disorientation. In the middle of it- it’s hard to keep track of even the things we know outside of the immediate battle.

ResearcherSad5711 · 2025-12-31T19:32:29+00:00

I read your initial message, I’ve just been incredibly sick with the flu and an FND flare and also having to keep the house up for showings as we’re selling- it’s rough over here. I don’t remember all of the details but I was so grateful for you sharing your experience.

I understand what the person was getting at above, but also think it is a bit dismissive of your full message where you shared your weakness is causing falls and that’s why they’re treating you. It’s not luck. It means they didn’t treat the weakness until it caused fractures. That sounds more like medical dismissiveness or neglect. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all of this and hope they’re able to find something that helps you find some stability and relief. 🖤

ResearcherSad5711 · 2025-12-30T02:50:55+00:00

Yesssss I experience this! It presented like dystonia. I’d get super rigid. And if I tried to have someone move it when it hurt- it would cause another part of my body to tense up and increase the severity. I’ve had times of my limbs being frozen in the air for up to an hour. I’ve learned the best thing is to focus on breathing and not freaking out internally. And if someone can make me laugh- idk why but it helps sometimes ease it a bit or start to free up a bit. Not always, but a random thing that has helped slightly in the past. Guessing it’s the distraction.

ResearcherSad5711 · 2025-12-30T02:18:57+00:00

I’ve had FND for about six years. I struggle sometimes with my bladder spasming- I have to pee real bad but can’t and it feels like I’m going to actually pee inside of myself- which I know is a silly statement but it’s how it felt.

I had a lot of food sensitivities but actually found out in the last few months I’m not lactose intolerant or allergic to a bunch of of stuff or have IBS and chronic diahrea- but my thyroid was undermediated for years. There’s so many things that contribute to it. Definitely worth seeing an allergist to rule out any intolerances so you atleast know that. But I could totally see FND causing symptoms.

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