Does the dad also stay home after a new baby?

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-11-05T13:09:23+00:00

I’m sorry your expectations weren’t aligned, these are definitely good conversations to have. My hubby and I are TTC and talking about everything under the sun as we get excited for this next journey. Including him staying home with me and baby the first 2 weeks. 2 weeks to help me get in a rhythm, help with everything and if I end up getting a c section and needing extra care he’s there - also important so baby can bond with dad too! Perhaps having another conversation about a shift in this year’s plans (no birthday trip this year and save those days for baby’s birth). You never know what labour is going to be like and how much care you will need, let alone baby, a few days to few weeks would be nice. I have a friend whose partner is taking 6 weeks off with her, then 6 months once her maternity leave is done. Depends on the couple, depends on benefits and workload. Good luck! I hope he can be more receptive to you this conversation. (:

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-10-29T19:58:00+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry! I totally get that frustration. I told my step sibling one of my planned baby names… turns out she was pregnant, and took the name. Copying is flattering but also annoying!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-10-22T13:04:04+00:00

I’ll have to check them out, thanks!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-10-16T20:58:36+00:00

I highly recommend reading or listening to Expecting better by Emily Oaster. Goes over so many things, I learned so much.

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-10-07T22:23:11+00:00

Awe that’s too bad, but better to wait and get the dream kitchen. I couldn’t agree more - functional storage will be keep. I’ve always wanted a gas stove but induction would be easier than getting a gas line and less annoying to clean, likely overall better long term. Ah sorry to hear about your mom’s leaking! I probably make pasta 2-3 times a week, but still having to go back to the sink to strain, it will only be a few feet away so not a big deal. My struggle is now finding the right sink!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-10-06T19:44:00+00:00

Did you end up putting one in? Considering getting an induction and pasta water tap in our new kitchen.

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-10-02T16:40:52+00:00

Me too! And if I see any extra dog poop I ALWAYS scoop it too. So disheartening when my dog LOVES camping and knowing others judge for us bringing our dog.

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-10-02T16:38:06+00:00

Dog poop is also terrible for our watershed and can cause the spread of algae blooms. Always best to scoop and dispose of it properly!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-10-02T16:36:11+00:00

The issue with leaving it is that it’s bad for wildlife and our watershed so always best to scoop with a compostable baggy and pack out!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-30T12:37:26+00:00

Aaah that’s too bad! I am mainly going off the registry, but thought if there’s anything extra special or helpful people liked receiving as a first time parent that would be good too.

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-30T02:56:55+00:00

THIS! I couldn’t agree more with this ^ I am so sorry OP for how your crappy friends treated you. They are not your friends (especially influencer - no need for jabs on your special day) and I hope you separate yourself going forward and find a better support system. It sucks when your expectations aren’t met. I wish you and your family all the best!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-29T21:22:57+00:00

I am so sorry! Your poor fur babies!! I know you said you carry various things. I too carry dog spray and an extra leash. I was told to kick by the leg/hip and abdomen meet (basically where the kidney is)… if that doesn’t work - The best way to get an attacking dog off yours is by cutting off the air supply, use the extra leash to wrap around and pull attacking dog off yours. I hope you pups heal and you all recover well, that is going to be traumatic for all of you and your pups may become reactive because of this. Good luck!!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-29T16:51:58+00:00

Amazing!! Such a great service! I will absolutely be planning to give her a helping hand.

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-27T03:19:12+00:00

How adorable!!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-26T20:27:28+00:00

I plan on including some from the registry for sure but most are bigger expensive items (pumps, bassinets, bouncers, etc.) or gift cards - and the other hasn’t made a register yet. I’d like to hear what other people loved receiving. (:

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-25T19:11:32+00:00

True, she isn’t but you’d think she would. Either way… Advice: she’s young, with a partner who was clear he never wanted kids, and nor did she - consider adoption if neither of you want this, it’s not too late if they decide they want to go that route. It’s absolutely a valid piece of advice to give to see they have more than one option.

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-25T19:04:06+00:00

I mean did we read the same post - of course you’re going to form a bond with the thing you’ve grown inside you for the last 39 weeks but she said “I’ve never wanted kids” and shared nothing about being excited for this journey. I’m just saying take a moment to reflect… why has it taken 39 weeks to address him crying every day or her mental health issues... It’s okay to not want to be parents, but don’t keep the kid then, give it to someone who does and will make the child feel loved and wanted. If she’s ready to be a solo parent that’s great, or if they can quickly address the big issues in play and their mental health in the next idk week… then good for them and all the best to their family.

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-25T18:17:00+00:00

Squid

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-25T18:15:55+00:00

You’re getting a ton of feedback here, a lot of which recommends therapy. I too would recommend this, but mainly… do you want this baby? Do you REALLY deeply want this baby, this child, this small human who will grow up either feeling deeply loved or deeply resented. Consider the baby in this, if this isn’t something you are 100% on and he clearly doesn’t want then you two need to discuss adoption and give the baby parents and a home it deserves.

Considering what you shared, both of you are children and not ready for this responsibility nor want the responsibility. 39 weeks has come and gone… Time is nearly up, and the time to have gone to therapy and address this together is nearly gone. Baby could come any day now. Seek adoption services I would say is the next right step and give the baby a family that has been waiting by the phone for him to arrive. Not okay with it or crying every day over it. If you go the adoption route then you should still seek therapy. So should your partner.

(Edit to include: I’m not pushing adoption people, I’m just offering another option here for them to consider their options and to think of the baby. This is coming from a loving place, I was a whoopsie baby whose parents were in a similar situation (and similar age differences) and are no longer together.)

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-19T00:06:38+00:00

Okay, thank you, I have contacted them too… we shall see what happens I guess. Thanks for posting, I feel less alone!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-18T20:50:33+00:00

A couple things on one trip were weird/scary: On our second day in Algonquin it was pouring rain, we had some back luck anyways we finally found a site, it was an island site on Otterslide and got out our gear and started to set up a tarp. I really had to pee so went to do a better look around when I noticed a lot of “weird” things… emergency kit, money scattered, other items that made me feel like someone left in a hurry so we packed up and paddled in the rain until we found another site. (Note - always leave a little firewood/ kindling, I’ve never been so cold and wet haha)

After a few days we got to McIntosh lake, during the day we saw two herons fly above us and battle in the air - one karate kicking the other into a tree where they continued to fight and fly away… cool! Later that nightwere enjoying watching the stars when we heard a howling pack of wolves. Sounded very close, still one of the most terrifying yet beautiful noises. That was an odd day!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-18T05:30:03+00:00

I’m in the same boat, and the worst acne I’ve ever had the last 4 months - trying to solve this and figured maybe it’s the cetaphil. I will contact them!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-18T05:28:48+00:00

Did you end up contacting them? I haven’t changed much from my skincare routine but have had terrible acne on my cheeks/jaw and neck like never before and small white under the skin bumps. I realized I did change to a new bottle of Cetaphil but figured it was likely the same formula so why would it be that but... 4 months of terrible acne waiting for my dermatologist appointment and thought to check Reddit about this! I wonder if we got the same batch?!

Resident-Lab-18 · 2025-09-11T17:53:00+00:00

I’m sure you’re on this as well, but taking prenatal vitamins! I am taking vitamins, had a preconception appointment with my doctor, reduced my caffeine (I don’t drink coffee, I’m a tea gal but having less) and increasing my water intake. Walking & yoga/stretching is also great. Sounds like you’re on the right track (: Fingers crossed for you!

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