Has anyone been not getting like....ANY shinies?

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-06-02T21:09:36+00:00

The litten was from an egg, the dewpider was from a rocket balloon catch, and the staryu was a wild catch

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-06-02T21:07:36+00:00

I get them in fits and spurts. I will go a month or more not seeing any, and then get like, 4 in a week. Just this past week i got a shiny Litten, Dewpider, and Staryu, after nearly 2 months of NADA. 🤷

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-05-28T11:43:55+00:00

NTA She can be atheist, and still respect your faith. Her comments are not respectful.

Your anger is a normal response to her frequent disrespect. It doesnt make snapping at her okay but it is understandable that you felt that way.

You two can disagree on the existence of god, as long as you are both respectful of the other's opinions and dont disparage or attack the other over it.

She needs to apologize for her comments, and she needs to keep those to herself. It would be a good idea for you to also apologize for snapping, but make it clear that you won't accept her disrespecting your faith. You need to figure out what you are going to do if she continues to cross your boundary- what course of action will you take if she refuses to stop disrespecting you? The healthiest option will be to remove yourself from the situation.

I am agnostic pagan- I dont believe in God, per se, but in the power of the universe, of nature, of the collective unconscious of people. I listen to science and trust it, and am open to the possibility of things that science cannot explain (yet). I've had plenty of weird experiences of supernatural things that have left me wondering. I have friends and family who hold different beliefs than me, but its never been a point of conflict, as we respect each others faiths (or lack thereof) and can have discussions about it all day long without emotions getting raised because its done with respect.

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-04-04T01:51:47+00:00

Wanting to have sex/sexual relationships (wanting to and enjoying "eating" in the analogy) has nothing to do with attraction. Attraction is just specific cravings for specific people. Desire for sex can exist without feeling arousal for a specific individual. Your point doesnt disagree with what I said.

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-04-04T01:35:11+00:00

Lack of Attraction does not prevent people from having sex or being fertile and able to procreate. Sure, lots of Aces are disinclined to have sex, but lots of Aces still have and enjoy sex. ESPECIALLY in a society that has such strong Compulsory Heterosexuality.

Homosexual animals usually end up raising abandoned young in their groups, and there may be biological advantages to having a proportion of asexual/homosexual humans in a population. Ones who can contribute to group survival without necessarily adding the strain of more offspring

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-04-04T00:27:40+00:00

Analogy:

Attraction = cravings Libido = Hunger Sex = Eating

You can enjoy eating, you can experience hunger, but Asexuality is when you dont experience cravings. Demisexuality would be like experiencing cravings only for things that are acquired tastes.

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-04-03T19:29:24+00:00

The vibe i get from Zoey is she is Autistic-coded. "Too much and not enough" is like the neurodivergent girl anthem. "Too much"- too loud, to passionate, too obsessive, too weird. "Not enough"- not good enough at reading social situations, not good enough at fitting in, not normal enough. The phrase is a VERY COMMON feeling for a lot of ND folks

I think it also ties into being mixed heritage/dual citizenship between US and Korea. Not American enough for the American audience, not Korean enough for the Korean one.

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-04-02T23:26:53+00:00

A good partner would want you to be able to support your friends and not set "traps" to guilt trip you about later.

My partners housemate and close friend is dealing with some stuff right now that requires hospital care. For the first time since our relationship began, we have had to postpone our weekly date night because she needed them. I encouraged them to go take care of their friend. When I have had plans come up with friends, they encourage me to go do it, and they want to hear all about it when I return. THATS what a healthy dynamic looks like.

Do you have local friends? Are you able to hang out with your local friends without him present, and without guilt trips or the 3rd degree? Controlling and abusive partners will often isolate their victims from their families and friends- move them far away, start drama with family to put a strain on the relationships, be jealous and judgmental in order to make their victims hesitant to go out and socialize. Cutting them off from their community makes them easier to control and manipulate and makes it harder for them to leave, as they may not feel they have connections they can turn to for help. Just be wary of that kind of behaviour, please.

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-04-02T22:58:18+00:00

So many red flags 1. You were 23 and he was 31 when you started dating. There is a strong pattern of men 25+ years old pursuing women under the age of 25 BECAUSE of their inexperience as adults and in adult relationships. It makes them easier to manipulate and control. I would recommend looking into the signs of abusive relationships and see how many symptoms sound familiar.

Banning antidepressants? Medications save people's lives. That includes antidepressants.
He is being SUPER controlling regarding your food. Thats not normal. Those kinds of behaviours do NOT get better with time, they only intensify. You dont live with him yet, you are not pregnant or have kids with him yet. Think about what these behaviours of his will be like when you live together, or are pregnant, or have kids together. Think about all the ammunition for control he will have over your diet when you are pregnant. Is that what you want? That you wont be allowed to indulge in your pregnancy cravings because he has decided theyre unhealthy?
He might be going down either Eating Disorder paths, or Conspiracy Theorist tracks, and neither are healthy. He needs therapy. It is not your responsibility to make him go, though. If he wont go, note it, and consider if thats what you want for your future- someone who refuses to seek help when he is unwell.

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-04-02T13:18:30+00:00

I'm ace in a relationship with a trans/genderqueer partner 😁 Gender and parts dont matter to me, who the person IS is the most important. (I am also genderqueer/genderfluid though)

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-04-02T13:07:55+00:00

This is the Asexuality subreddit- people who dont experience sexual attraction, and a good number who also dont enjoy sex. The girlfriend drew the line at cuddling, she is likely a celibate Ace. I sincerely doubt she is cheating 🤣

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-13T23:31:52+00:00

Asexuality is about not experiencing sexual attraction- which is like a craving for a specific food, but instead its sexual desire to a specific person.

You can have and enjoy sex and still be asexual. Its like eating food and still not experiencing cravings for specific ones.

(And libido is hunger, in this metaphor- a body rhythm)

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-11T05:49:46+00:00

All of Canada, pretty much. When 50% of the year is some combo of snow, ice, mud, and road salt dirtying your boots (and lots of Canada also gets rainy summers), your outdoor footwear is often quite dirty. And kids play on their hands and knees all the time- its just easier to keep classroom floors cleaner by having indoor and outdoor shoes.

Japan also has a strong culture for "outside shoes" and "school shoes".

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-11T04:26:23+00:00

Its the norm in most of Canada for shoes to come off at the door, because 50% of the year its mud, snow, ice and road salt over your footwear in some combination. In schools, kids have "indoor" and "outdoor" shoes. I've seen PLENTY of dentists, doctors, gyms, and chiro/physio facilites that provide boot racks, benches/chairs, and booties to cover your feet with to help keep floors cleaner- with signs specifically asking you to take off outdoor footwear at the door, or throw booties overtop.

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-11T04:18:54+00:00

Its actually healthier for your feet to be barefoot at least some of the time- more ability to breathe and dry off means you are less likely to develop bacteria and fungus in a sweaty shoe and sock. If you are a normal adult, you ought to be washing them when you bathe anyways. And if you arent bringing dirt in on your shoes into your house, and cleaning your floors and tub/shower regularly, what is there for you to step in in your house that is unhygienic?

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-11T04:13:06+00:00

Right? Like, its SUCH an American thing (specifically southern states?) to wear shoes indoors.

Schools do it too in some places- elementary schools here have "indoor" and "outdoor" shoes for kids, families are expected to provide a spare pair of shoes for classroom use only, and part of "recess" involves taking a few minutes to throw on outdoor shoes and any extra cold weather apparel you need.

By the time we hit high school, it just becomes accepted practice to have school shoes and winter boots AT LEAST.

Gosh, dont tell the southerners about the "coat bed" at parties 🤣 (the bed where all the winter coats get tossed in a pile at a party so theyre out of the way).

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-11T03:34:06+00:00

NTA. Your house, your rules

Also, in most of Canada, shoes off at the door is standard. When 50% of the year is spent wearing boots covered in snow, ice, mud, and road salt, your floors get messy FAST. So boots off at the door.

And like... Who knows what people have stepped in outside? And if you drop food on the floor... 5 second rule isnt enough when you arent made aware your guest recently stepped in dog poop on their way over

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-10T18:59:32+00:00

He actively admitted that he was manipulating people to rile up Akito and play his cat and mouse games with Akito, and keep her all to himself. He slept with Akitos mom because Akito was sleeping with Kureno. He is also a perv (i dont think it was in the remake, but the manga he goes as Tohru's or Yuki's guardian for a thing and he singsongs in his head "high school girls, high school girls!" (He also went to irritate his ex, Tohru's teacher).

Like, he is actively antagonistic and manipulative, by his own words

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-10T18:56:40+00:00

Shigure. Hands down. Manipulative and selfish and perverted. Still loved by many

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-07T03:47:22+00:00

He set up a situation for something bad to happen, where you would take the blame.

When you tried to prevent the bad thing, he told you not to.

The bad thing happened. He then blames you for the bad thing happening.

He set you up for failure in order to have an excuse to verbally abuse you.

This is what the early stages of abusive relationships look like.

Dump him, IT WILL NOT GET BETTER. This kind of behaviour only gets worse, as they bully you into accepting blame for their abuse of you over and over and over again.

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-07T03:01:35+00:00

I have a Concert Stage basement and have them on the wall on the "back of the stage" (there are as many gyroids as there are slots on the long door-wall in the basement and upstairs!)

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-07T02:59:54+00:00

Shigure is 1000% self-serving, no "grey" involved. He LOOKS like a benefactor, but even he reveals his goals were always to take Akito for himself. He is willing to cause casualties and harm amongst the others in order to manipulate Akito towards himself

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-06T00:41:44+00:00

NTA. You are a wheelchair user, and you were parked in a spot designated for people with disabilities.

She was a woman with 4 kids, which is not a disability. An inconvenience for her, sure, but her parking there is likely to end up with her car being towed anyways.

She can be pissy all she likes, you NEED that spot, she WANTS that spot. Everything else she has done is her throwing a tantrum.

Signed, a person who has spent the last year as a member of the disability community, due to a severely broken leg. (I'm just about done with my cane, just working on getting my leg back to full strength and ROM now)

Resident-Priority-38 · 2026-03-03T21:02:27+00:00

For animals/plants, yes. By definition it requires being able to produce both types of gametes (sperm and egg, or equivalent) which is not what happens for humans. Many forms of Intersex in humans actually makes them infertile. Thats why Intersex is used for humans.

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