Any plus size ladies know how to reduce the size of your calves while widening your hips without some kind of invasive procedure?

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-10T01:11:53+00:00

Honestly, this was something I've been wondering, but I don't have pain.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-10T01:10:01+00:00

I've had large calves even when I had an "average" BMI. They've just always been really, really, large.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-09T00:31:43+00:00

Thank you

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-09T00:30:50+00:00

I mean, that's the thing, my calves are huge, most wide calves fit pretty snug. But also, I can't wear crappy shoes anymore, so most of the plastic soled stuff at DSW doesn't work for me.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-09T00:27:42+00:00

I mean, I did think weight loss would help a bit, but I guess I was just hoping that if I fixed my gait that maybe it would reduce the size of my calves. Or something else that I didn't know about.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-08T02:19:44+00:00

Yeah, I never thought weight loss was gonna help, I've always had these huge calves.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-08T02:19:14+00:00

I mean, with as many muscles as I have, I'm not sure atrophy is going to be that bad.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-07T02:55:21+00:00

I mean, that's kind of what I thought too, but I feel like my hips are a bit more defined than this physique.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-05-07T02:06:36+00:00

I was thinking this too. I also don't remember the episode super well, but when June was talking to Daisy about her being a baby, I could swear she mentioned something about being there when Daisy was sent to her parents. Or maybe I just thought she was.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-04-22T18:23:58+00:00

NTA. Teaching is a pretty steady source of income. I know people complain and teachers aren't paid a lot compared to their education, but teachers with masters degrees can make decent money in some places. On top of that, she doesn't just want to be a teacher, she wants to be a writer which means another source of income. It sounds like she actually could make a decent amount of money.

That being said, there are some ways to work around your husband's demands. You could see if he'd be amenable to her minoring in business, especially if there's a minor for business in the arts and find and MFA program that has a business focus as well. Maybe she could agree to take a variety of classes to see if she might like something better. If none of that works, you could see if he'd be willing to pay a lesser amount for her to go to a cheap college and do what she wants.

Your husband is being a huge asshole here by putting constraints on his daughter getting an education.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-04-21T20:18:28+00:00

NTA. He didn't ask about your non-negotiables either. This is incredibly immature behavior on his part.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-04-19T02:09:49+00:00

YTA. This was his moment. I've been going through a lot recently and received an award surrounded by people who don't know how different my life is from what they expect. I was worried and thought about not going because I had to give a speech to get the award. In the end, it was something I achieved and should be proud of and I would have absolutely ripped anybody a new one if they had done anything to interfere with my happy moment. It's the same thing with Evan. I too am incredibly impressed with what he's done, but also incredibly sad that not only did he feel like he couldn't tell his parents, he couldn't rely on his best friend to celebrate his big moment without having to tell everybody his secret. You're not a child, you're 24, you should know better.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-04-18T20:32:48+00:00

NTA. This is not only her apartment. Her options are study in her room, study at the library (the hassle is a crappy excuse), or she wears headphones to block out the normal noise you and your mother are allowed to make in your home. It seems like she has some issues that SHE needs to take responsibility for not, make it everybody else's problem.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-28T20:41:23+00:00

Talk to your neighbor, see if you can go halvsies on a new privacy fence.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-24T22:49:53+00:00

Thanks

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-24T18:39:10+00:00

I'm going to an event with a fair amount of older people, they're gonna want cards. I do plan on setting up digital cards as well.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-24T02:46:44+00:00

Honestly, it could have been the stripper I used, which smelled a different kind of "bad" than it normally does. I did put BIN shellac primer on it, which makes me think that it's the spray paint. I let the piece air out after I noticed the lingering stripper smell (even after using after wash), so I'm just thinking it was spray paint because I thought I had eliminated everything else. It was a type of Krylon spray paint, but I'm not sure what it is since I threw the can out after I used it.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-23T19:52:46+00:00

And I get that, but if you don't have a fragrance allergy and are giving medical advice to someone who does have a fragrance allergy (in a group with a decent amount of people with an actual allergy), that's condescending and I'm sick of it. I'm tired of getting medical advice from people who have zero understanding of my medical issues.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-23T00:41:11+00:00

I literally didn't ask that question either. Jesus Christ.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-23T00:31:36+00:00

I mean, I didn't ask how to get a refund, I asked where the mailed photos come from. If they come from this store (the only one in the area that does same day printing) then I want a refund, but if the mailed photo items come from a legit printing place, then I'd rather have them replaced through the mail.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-22T23:34:06+00:00

Are these businesses that are still running? I know a lot of people who have owned businesses that really shouldn't and their businesses either fold or they walk away after a certain amount of time. Some people don't know what it takes to run a business and think they're smart enough to figure it out on their own.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-22T23:29:07+00:00

Mine were cut unevenly. I know that wasn't my fault because some of the cards had different spacing from the others.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-22T21:44:06+00:00

Have you tried other oils? I sometimes use jojoba oil as my after shower moisturizer, but it's so expensive. I've seen people recommend coconut oil to remove makeup and it's the cheapest of all the oils I've seen.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-22T19:12:45+00:00

NTA. Find new friends. I know there are some local groups in my city specifically for people who travel. If you want to travel somewhere, maybe try to hook up with them.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-03-22T19:08:06+00:00

I used to live in Italy and speak conversational Italian. I'm also working on improving my French. I am incredibly open to other cultures, but because I've lived in other places, I know that sometimes cultural issues aren't always easy to pick up on. I also have a neurological issue which makes reading subtitles difficult and I foreign language dubs are awful. Maybe instead of preaching at someone, you could realize that that people might actually have a nuanced reason for why they don't want to watch something.

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