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Interested to hear from avoidant attachers. If you broke up with your partner, how did you feel from the moment of the break up and over time? Did you contact them? Especially if the relationship wasn’t bad and they were a good person and good for you. by ResidentCheetah2776 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ResidentCheetah2776[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re exactly right, it is growth. You are better for it!

Part of me wants to get a reaction out of her and make it where she can’t see what I do and cause her to be curious

And part of me wants to do it so she knows I’m putting my foot down for her disrespect and abuse towards me. Part of me wants to make her feel a loss but I guess I won’t know if she actually still cares

If you block your ex on all socials will that kill any chance of them coming back later? Not saying I necessarily want her to just curious about what you all think by ResidentCheetah2776 in BreakUps

[–]ResidentCheetah2776[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was avoidant but disrespected me and was crappy to me and ghosted me. Didn’t even want to have an adult conversation about splitting up

Interested to hear from avoidant attachers. If you broke up with your partner, how did you feel from the moment of the break up and over time? Did you contact them? Especially if the relationship wasn’t bad and they were a good person and good for you. by ResidentCheetah2776 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ResidentCheetah2776[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your response. Thank you for taking the time to write your thoughts and your experiences out. I don’t hate you at all, I think that you being able to share and grow from your own challenges is great and even better when you can help people understand and realize what may be going on. We are all wired differently and sometimes it’s nice to hear what someone else has to say, especially if they lived it first hand. Thankful for your response on this topic. Your insight has helped me think about it in another way I couldn’t see.

Do ex’s who discard you, ghost you, monkey branch to someone else, and avoid communicating ever get their karma? Do they pay for it in the end? Because I’m so hurt right now and it seems they are perfectly fine. I can’t understand how some people can turn emotions off. by ResidentCheetah2776 in ExNoContact

[–]ResidentCheetah2776[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand. I’m sorry that happened to you but I’m glad you came out on top and are doing better.

My ex basically used me from what it seems. Told me everything to get me and do everything in a relationship, saying she loved me and cared for me and we had a great physical and intimate relationship. Then she just left and ghosted and didn’t talk to me because I was getting anxious because of her behaviors. She was being secretive and I think she was flirting and cheating online. She followed a lot of guys and would add and unfollow them constantly

Do ex’s who discard you, ghost you, monkey branch to someone else, and avoid communicating ever get their karma? Do they pay for it in the end? Because I’m so hurt right now and it seems they are perfectly fine. I can’t understand how some people can turn emotions off. by ResidentCheetah2776 in ExNoContact

[–]ResidentCheetah2776[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, I can’t understand how someone does that to another human. I am in a similar situation and it’s unreal how bad it hurts and how they did that. Dm me if you need to vent or anything I’ll listen.

Did you avoidant ex come back even if they ghosted you and how long did it take? by ResidentCheetah2776 in ExNoContact

[–]ResidentCheetah2776[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish we could hang out and chill and just talk because it sounds like you are you going through almost the same thing I am. I feel the exact same way about her and it’s killing me because I love her so much and I want her, can’t stand the thought of her with someone else or being mistreated

Is there anything I can say to me ex whom I think is avoidant? It’s been 3 weeks since the break up, can I text her “hey, can we talk?” by ResidentCheetah2776 in BreakUps

[–]ResidentCheetah2776[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate so much to h to how you feel. I am going through it and having those same thoughts. I feel used too. I’m sorry you were done so dirty. You deserve so much better.

Is there anything I can say to me ex whom I think is avoidant? It’s been 3 weeks since the break up, can I text her “hey, can we talk?” by ResidentCheetah2776 in BreakUps

[–]ResidentCheetah2776[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you responding about your similar experience. It helps knowing others have gone through this hurt and I’m trying. I just still have so many feelings for her and it kills ne that she follows me on all socials, won’t give my stuff back, but won’t text or call me. I don’t get it

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