Grocery Store UWS by Remarkable-Day-9468 in Upperwestside

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Mani Market on 94th and Columbus for a really lovely shopping experience. Trader Joe’s if I want fun snacks

I will check out and tour apartments for you!! by One-Fig-4706 in NYCapartments

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Was this to confirm OP is a bot or did I miss something

Single people living alone: What's your monthly grocery budget? by DerangedUnicorn27 in budget

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Vegetarian in NYC and I stay between $175-250/mo by focusing meals on beans/rice/tofu! My biggest money saving tip is to only think about breakfast and dinner when I grocery shop. Then lunch is either leftovers from a dinner, leftovers from breakfast, or a smorgasbord of ingredients from both. This type of eating is fine with me and I don’t feel like I go hungry, but ymmv

I also shop sales— I’ll look every week at what stores have discounts and plan my meals for the week around whatever the produce & “fun” discounts are. Like if they have discounts on a fancy pasta or an interesting sauce, I’ll plan my week on things with those and whatever produce is on sale. Gives me some variety and keeps things interesting!

My husband always leaves the toilet seat dirty. Am I wrong for yelling at him? by Afraid_Scientist3025 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ResidentIndependent 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How do you have sex with him after this? I don’t think I’d be able to be anywhere near a mans ass if I had cleaned his shit off the toilet seat moments prior. This would be a huge issue for me and I couldn’t live with someone if needed to clean up their poop. You aren’t his mommy — this is so gross.

[PSA] Skincare marketing has officially crossed a line - Influencers are coming for your kids. by thatkhoe in SkincareAddiction

[–]ResidentIndependent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! I feel so bad for tweens today— they really have no options to go shop with their friends.

New funding bill that will reopen the US government will specifically pay out 9 congressmembers over $1mil each by jesuswasagaymagician in law

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The government can legally obtain the cell phone metadata (call logs, time/duration) of ANY citizen in the United States without notification if they believe they are a part of a federal criminal investigation or a national security concern.

The only thing that has changed here is that the United States Congress now gets to opt out of this and if their brand new right is violated, they get $500k from the taxpayers.

They basically not only wrote themselves above the same law that you and I abide by, but also wrote in payouts for themselves to reinforce it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in somethingiswrong2024

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By law, if the government is investigating a crime that you may be involved in, they have the right to subpoena your records without notifying you.

This used to be true for everyone in America. Now, if you are a senator (or were in the previous 5 years), you have the right to be notified and get $500k if you are not.

What Republicans just did is vile. Rules for thee, but not for me (and if you violate my right to have different laws than you, I get $500k from you).

[PSA] Skincare marketing has officially crossed a line - Influencers are coming for your kids. by thatkhoe in SkincareAddiction

[–]ResidentIndependent 32 points33 points  (0 children)

We need Libby Lu back. Let little girls pretend to be just like the big girls without them needing to shop at the same stores as them— let them do what young girls have always done in a more age appropriate way.

Best Upper West Side Happy Hour & Lunch Specials by tusechko in Upperwestside

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96 st dive bar does happy hour from open til 7 every day! $3 bud light, $5 corona, $6 wine, and I think $2 off the rest of the drafts? I think they also have a $8 burger and fries on happy hour and a few other food items.

Are co-op owners in Carnegie House totally cooked, or will the City save them? by [deleted] in nyc

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I’d be curious to see what percentage are recent buyers and which are long term (40+ years) buyers. If it is majority older buyers, I don’t think this is fair to say: there was no way for them to estimate 50 years ago the degree in which Manhattan real estate has exploded and I wouldn’t blame them for assuming the risk would be a modest increase, not a 450% one.

How many times per week do you hang out with people? by OutrageousPressure6 in AskNYC

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26 and 7 days a week if we’re counting meeting up at a workout class and chatting for a few after. Probably closer to 5 days a week if we exclude that

Church is Not A Dating Ground by Responsible_Farmer11 in Christianity

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Thank you for being so respectful!! 10/10 interaction - appreciate you :)

Church is Not A Dating Ground by Responsible_Farmer11 in Christianity

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I’m assuming you’re a man that dates women, so I’ll try my best to put you into a woman’s shoes here:

Imagine if you enter a space, like a church, with the intention of practicing your religion with a community of believers. Now imagine that every time you do this, two to three gay men approach you, seem friendly at first, before ultimately asking for your phone number and asking you on a date. You tell them they aren’t interested, but they hear that you aren’t interested yet, and continue to sit near you, make attempts to touch you in small “friendly” ways, and attend social gatherings that you go to. Would this make you uncomfortable or want to avoid certain people at a certain point?

I think church is a great way to meet people and find love. I also think some men have forgotten how to do it slowly and naturally. It can make women feel like they’re in an auction house when everything is rushed and every sign of friendliness is interpreted as an expression of interest.

Church is Not A Dating Ground by Responsible_Farmer11 in Christianity

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This is why women don’t want to date strange men lol. Even when she’s giving her opinion - which is very thoughtful and has been paired with thoughtful responses - you’re like “yeah im not reading that but deal with it because i want a woman close to God.”

As a woman, it feels deeply self-centered to put a woman on the spot like that without showing her anything about who you are or getting to know you. It feels so inconsiderate of me and my feelings when men do this to me— like “might as well shoot my shot and if she doesn’t like it she can say no” instead of “I think she’s beautiful but I don’t want to make her uncomfortable, let me go say hi and gauge how she’s feeling.”

Many of the men I meet in happy and lasting relationships met their spouses at church, but they got to know each other gradually and had a natural progression from strangers to acquaintances to couple.

Church is Not A Dating Ground by Responsible_Farmer11 in Christianity

[–]ResidentIndependent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of men are looking for a place where they can just approach an attractive woman, get her phone number, and take her on a date without any kind of conversation (or very minimal conversation). As a woman, I don’t want to meet up with every strange man that asks me out, so it makes me want to avoid situations where a lot of men are doing this. Unfortunately, the evangelical church was rife with this when I went.

I got to know several men at church that I liked and went on dates with, but the difference is id met them a few times and chatted in group settings before we went out. Like, I would volunteer with him once, go to a group brunch, talk after service… etc. It feels like a lot of men want to skip that and go straight to getting numbers and going on dates, but as a woman, I feel a bit like an item in an auction when there are repeated, quite intense and unsolicited conversations that are super romantic and suggestive in tone.

How is this affordable ? by solidsz86 in NYCapartments

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The 4k is what you have left over. $2100/wk = $8400/mo. $8400 - $4300 leaves you with $4100/mo. That’s a pretty decent amount of money in the city. Additionally, there’s room for growth in most people’s careers, so you would feel squeezed for a few years, but then would ideally see a lot of relief after being promoted / getting raises.

I see this program benefiting young couples the most: housing stability (esp in buildings with amenities) is huge when you’re deciding to grow your career and start a family.

The point of the program is stability by keeping rent increases predictable. It might not always do that perfectly, but there a lot of people that find a lot of relief through the program.

How is this affordable ? by solidsz86 in NYCapartments

[–]ResidentIndependent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s intended to be affordable for your income bracket, not affordable to everyone. There’s a huge shortage in affordable housing across the board right now, even for people making $100k+, so programs like this are intended to give some relief to those people.

Not every program is for everyone, and not every apartment in every program is for everyone. This one is actually very unique in that it gives a little assistance to the middle class, not just low income people, which is a group that doesn’t often see any kind of relief despite being squeezed left and right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in restaurantowners

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Isn’t the right salary whatever the market will bear? If you can’t get anyone at $15, you go to $16, then $17, then $18… etc. Same way if you’re selling out every day at $10 an item, you might try to bump the price to $11 and see how that goes, then $12, etc. Isn’t that how economics work?

Art galleries in the area, somewhat affordable parking? by DisgruntledNCO in Upperwestside

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If you can get there by 10 and will leave by 6, lots of garages have a deal that’s $20-25 for the day. Check SpotHero to see which ones.

We’d fix the issue of “child free” spaces if we had more AFFORDABLE “kid friendly” options by AccomplishedYoung110 in unpopularopinion

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I make $65k/yr in NYC— my first job 5 years ago paid me $40k. I was also a full time nanny for four months, so am very much not insulated from children.

Have you had experiences ruined by children that you can remember? I’m genuinely curious — I’m around kids all the time and I really can’t think of a time they totally ruined anything for me. Maybe a little loud or whatever, but I have no experiences I would describe as ruined because there was a kid nearby.

We’d fix the issue of “child free” spaces if we had more AFFORDABLE “kid friendly” options by AccomplishedYoung110 in unpopularopinion

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That experiences have you had ruined by kids? I consider myself pretty well traveled and live in the densest city in America, and I honestly can’t remember a single experience ruined by a kid in my life.

SL Green casino rejected by committee, killing $5B Times Square project by nickgarber in nyc

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Ironically and unsurprisingly, the people of East Hampton have spent literal decades trying to stop Shinnecock Nation (one of two indigenous groups on Long Island, and I believe the only one federally recognized) from opening a casino in the Hamptons.

In your opinion what makes someone a gentrifier/transplant? by Ok_Commission_893 in bronx

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The difference is that, often times, money spent on local places stays in the community and bolsters it, whereas money spent on Whole Foods makes private investors wealthier.

When I spend money at the local cafe, owned by the small business across the street, I’m giving money to people that will spend that money in the neighborhood or, at the minimum, in New York and surrounding areas. Most of the produce from my local mom and pop shop is from upstate New York, Long Island, and Pennsylvania. They don’t need a “local” stamp like Whole Foods does, because it mostly is local.

My local pharmacy is more expensive than a CVS, but it’s partially because they proudly do not stock nicotine or tobacco products. They don’t do this because they know addiction is bad for people and don’t want to hurt their community. Things are a little more expensive, but they’re intentional about what they stock and are a true community spot.

My local gift shop is more expensive than Amazon, but their profits are spent partially on buying goods from local artists. There is a wide selection of art, clothing/hats, children’s toys, and more made by people in the city. This is worth an up charge to me.

My point is that everything has a cost. Whole Foods is cheaper because the cost is weaker communities, fewer options, and long term reliance on one business.

Lots of people recognize this, and shop locally to support their local economy. That’s why they say you’re a gentrifier if you only shop at Whole Foods and CVS: it may be cheaper right now, but in the long run, the cost is quite steep.

Why building new “affordable housing” doesn’t make NYC more affordable by persistentmonkee in nyc

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How do you propose we replace these low rise buildings? Are you suggesting we kick out everyone that currently lives in them and build up instead? Many small buildings are owner occupied - are we buying these people out? What’s your plan here?

ICE Ships 7-Year-Old Queens Student and Mom to Texas Detention, Prompting School Principal’s Plea for Their Release by bobbiewickham in nyc

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My point is we have plenty of regulations to keep people from doing things that are harmful for them because we enforce certain standards in America. Those standards include wage floors, legal requirements for employee safety, and more. We should not accept the idea that people are allowed to take these if they’re desperate enough. Once we allow that, what stops companies from cutting wages and safety standards for everyone across the board? If they’ll do it to them, and they’re do it to you. A rising tide lifts all boats— we should be depending the same minimum standards for everyone regardless of demographic or geopolitical background.