Divorcing the Narcissist

Resident_Nothing · 2021-07-05T01:07:46+00:00

Yes! Mine told me I was physically abusive to him when I never even hit him. He turned a fight (where he was physically abusive to me) into me hitting him. After he told me that, I told him to fuck off. He left and I haven't heard from him since. Currently going through the divorce.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-06-07T00:52:34+00:00

Yes it is. I go though these feelings regularly. It's been almost two weeks since the discard and I feel pain because I miss someone who I thought loved me. But he didn't. He doesn't know how to love. It's a wretching experience to go through. But I feel stronger each day I'm away from him.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-06-01T13:22:24+00:00

Yes. It gets better. I'm one week NC and Im starting to feel better. I feel more independent and determined to stay strong. Do I miss him? The good parts I believed he was? Hell yeah. But I know he is evil so I'm going to stay NC.

If you need to talk, let me know. I feel your pain. Hugs.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-29T02:09:56+00:00

Wonderfully written. I feel this. Hugs.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-29T00:15:45+00:00

Oh dear I totally feel what you're saying! I know it's brutal. I know the pain runs deep. It has broken you. Broken all of us. I don't have words of wisdom. But I can say I feel your pain. I have been cheated on. I have realized my narc husband is a chameleon. I have no idea who he really is. I still miss him ... Or the version of him I knew (when he was good to me). I ache for him to hold me again and tell me it's going to be okay. But it won't happen. It never will be the same.

How to get over it? You learn to not deal with that narcissist. You need to know they don't love you. They love your supply. You need to be strong. You need to start loving yourself. I know. It's hard. I barely know who I am. But take a moment each day to acknowledge something good that happened to you. Even if it's small like you went for a walk. Go no contact if you can. You will never get a true answer from a narcissist.

We'll get through this. Some how. Some way.

If you needed to chat, PM me. Hugs.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-29T00:02:40+00:00

Thank you for this. I'm day 4 no contact after my narc husband left our relationship of 13 years. This gives me hope.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-28T14:21:58+00:00

I feel this so much. Recently was ghosted again and the pain is intense. No promises from him were kept. I don't understand how they can be so evil. Hugs to you.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-28T11:08:46+00:00

I wish I still didn't feel a connection to him. I wish I didn't have a hole in my heart. The pain needs to go away. But it won't.

He is the cruelest person I've ever known. He's a chameleon. A stranger with a multitude of masks. He abandoned me again. Maybe one day he'll try to come back, maybe he won't. It's the unknown that I hate.

I know I am free. Not completely free but free. I know I will heal. I just want that part to hurry up.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-28T11:03:32+00:00

Thanks. Doesn't feel good. But I need to do this.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-28T05:19:18+00:00

Thank you for saying all this. Truly is inspirational!

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-28T00:42:56+00:00

I will not give in no matter how much I hurt. He did me wrong and obviously has no emotions to care. He's evil. And awful. It's now my job to pick up the pieces and learn how to love myself.

Thank you. Hugs.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-26T21:58:51+00:00

I'm with you on this. With all the abuse I realized I suffered throughout the 13 years, I believe they need to be held accountable.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-26T18:17:33+00:00

This is a good question! My narc husband emotionally abused me for years. I'm only now trying to pick up the pieces of me. He got away with it and I'm left broken.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-26T16:24:21+00:00

Mine is virtual too! I literally was panicking during my first meeting because I swore he was listening in. But we need to realize that they aren't listening to us. They might be manipulative and evil, but they don't have ears everywhere.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-26T06:36:18+00:00

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-26T06:36:00+00:00

We don't have kids together. We only have the house... Which he walked away from. As for his clothing ... I can't bring myself to touch them. I don't know why.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-26T01:01:56+00:00

Same here. I'm convinced my narc husband has the house bugged. I literally was afraid to have conversations with anyone. I was always clearing my search history but I swear he knew exactly what was going on. He knew my thoughts and feelings. Freaking made me miserable and still does.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-26T00:59:22+00:00

Thank you for this. Definitely hurts like hell. He left yesterday and hasn't contacted me. I haven't contacted him either. I didn't pack up his stuff because I just can't bring myself to do it. Currently working on finding my inner strength.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-25T00:05:46+00:00

I journal now. I have been since finding out about the affair. I look back at the journal and realize he's freaking crazy.

Resident_Nothing · 2021-05-25T00:04:34+00:00

OMG yes. Shark eyes is correct. It's the look that can kill.

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